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Meaningful Engagement Rings, Heirloom Jewelry & Intentional Design with Carter Eve

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Choosing an engagement ring is one of the most personal decisions a couple will make — and yet, so many people feel pressure to follow outdated rules, trends, or expectations that don’t truly reflect who they are.

On a recent episode of the Now You May Kiss™ podcast, I had the opportunity to sit down with Carter Eve, founder and designer of Carter Eve Jewelry, to explore what it really means to design jewelry with intention, sustainability, and story at the center.

From engagement rings to heirloom transformations, this conversation reminds couples that — just like their wedding ceremony — their jewelry should feel authentic, personal, and deeply meaningful.

A Childhood Spark That Became a Calling

Carter Eve’s journey into fine jewelry began long before formal training or professional titles. Growing up in Connecticut, she was fascinated by gemstones brought home by one of her father’s international colleagues. What felt magical and mysterious as a child soon became a lifelong passion.

That curiosity led Carter to art school, where she explored many creative disciplines before discovering jewelry design. Living above a jewelry store in New York City, she became captivated by the craftsmanship happening behind the scenes — eventually pursuing formal jewelry training, apprenticeships, and advanced degrees.

Carter went on to earn her BFA in Jewelry and Objects from the Savannah College of Art and Design, a Master’s degree in Jewelry and Metalsmithing from the Rhode Island School of Design, and apprenticed under a master goldsmith — a combination of education and hands-on experience that deeply informs her work today.

Why Engagement Rings Should Never Be One-Size-Fits-All

As your Celebrant for LifeTM, I believe that every ceremony should reflect the couple standing in front of me. It is your story, your values, and your vision for the life you’re creating together.

Carter brings that same philosophy into her jewelry design.

There is no single “right” engagement ring. Instead, the right ring is the one that:

  • Reflects your personal style
  • Fits your lifestyle and daily activities
  • Honors your story and values
  • Feels like you

Whether that means a simple diamond band, a vintage-inspired heirloom setting, or a bold, celestial cluster of stones, Carter encourages couples to let go of outdated rules — including the infamous “three months’ salary” myth.

We are living in a time where engagement rings can be expressive, creative, sustainable, and deeply personal.

Reimagining Heirloom Jewelry with Heart & Sustainability

One of the most powerful parts of our conversation centered on heirloom jewelry. If you’ve followed me for any amount of time, you KNOW how much I love heirloom jewelry. The reality though is that pieces passed down through generations that may no longer suit modern styles, but they often hold immense sentimental value.

Carter specializes in transforming heirloom pieces by:

  • Resetting center stones into new, modern designs
  • Melting and reusing gold to create something entirely new
  • Repurposing accent stones into clusters, bands, or earrings

This process not only supports sustainability through reuse and recycling, but also preserves the emotional energy, lineage, and memory carried within the original piece.

For many couples, an heirloom engagement or wedding ring becomes a tangible bridge between generations — honoring the past while celebrating the future.

Caring for Engagement Rings & Fine Jewelry

Fine jewelry is designed to be worn — but it also requires care. During our interview, Carter shared practical, real-life advice that couples often don’t hear:

Everyday Jewelry Care Tips

  • Remove rings when working out (yoga included), gardening, cleaning, or lifting weights
  • Avoid wearing rings while applying lotion or perfume
  • Store rings in a consistent, safe place at home
  • When in doubt — take it off

Professional Care Matters

  • Have engagement rings professionally cleaned and checked every six months
  • Regular inspections help prevent loose prongs and lost stones
  • Think of ring maintenance like caring for a car — preventative care matters

These simple habits can prevent heartbreaking loss, especially for irreplaceable heirloom pieces.

Why Appraisals & Insurance Are Essential

One of the most important — and often overlooked — topics Carter discusses is insurance.

To insure a ring properly, it must first be appraised. For custom pieces, Carter provides appraisals upon completion. For vintage or estate jewelry, it’s essential to work with an appraiser who specializes in those pieces.

Insurance offers peace of mind — not because couples expect loss, but because life happens. Fires, accidents, theft, and natural disasters can occur, and having coverage allows couples the ability to recreate or restore something meaningful if the unthinkable happens.

As Carter shared from personal experience in Los Angeles, many clients who lost everything in wildfires were grateful to at least have the ability to rebuild treasured pieces.

Enjoy the Engagement Process

Perhaps Carter’s most heartfelt advice is this: Slow down and enjoy the process.

Engagements are emotional. There is pressure for everything to be perfect. But the ring — like the wedding and the marriage itself — should feel joyful, aligned, and true to who you are.

When couples choose rings that reflect their real lives, personal style, and shared values, the experience becomes not only easier, but far more meaningful.

About Carter Eve Jewelry

Carter Eve, Founder of Carter Eve Jewelry

Carter Eve Jewelry is a Los Angeles–based fine jewelry studio specializing in handcrafted engagement rings, custom designs, and heirloom transformations. Carter works with recycled gold, ethically sourced gemstones, and conflict-free diamonds to create timeless, wearable pieces designed to honor personal stories and intentional love.

Connect with Carter Eve Jewelry

  • Website: https://carterevejewelry.com
  • Instagram: @carterevejewelry
  • TikTok: @carterevejewelry
  • Pinterest, YouTube & Facebook: Carter Eve Jewelry

    A Note from Chanelle

    Chanelle Carlin
    Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography

    As a Wedding Officiant and your Celebrant for Life™, I believe every wedding — and every symbol surrounding it — should reflect the couple it represents. Your engagement and wedding rings, like your vows, are a promise rooted in who you are and who you are becoming together.

    Chanelle guides legacy-driven couples as they establish enduring marriages through intentional, artfully crafted ceremony. Request your private consultation.

    Destination Weddings Done Right: What Every Couple Should Know Before Saying “I Do” Abroad

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    Did you know that one in four couples is now choosing a destination wedding?

    That number surprises many people. Yet it reflects a growing shift in how couples think about weddings. Today’s couples want meaning. They want experience. They want alignment.

    As host of the Now You May Kiss TM Podcast, I recently sat down with luxury travel advisor Carolyn Kulb, founder of Windward Path, to discuss what destination weddings really require.

    Not the Instagram version. The real version.

    If you are considering a destination wedding, this guide will help you decide wisely — and beautifully.

    What Is a Destination Wedding?

    A destination wedding is any wedding held away from your home city.

    It could mean:

    • A beach ceremony in Mexico
    • A villa in Italy
    • A mountaintop elopement in the Pacific Northwest
    • A wine estate in Portugal
    • A city celebration in Paris

    It does not have to be international.

    For some couples, Seattle is the destination.
    For others, it is Greece.

    The defining factor is travel.

    And that changes everything.

    Pacific Northwest Mountaintop destination elopement at Artist Point, Mount Baker. Photo courtesy of The Foxes Photography

    Who Should Consider a Destination Wedding?

    Destination weddings are not for everyone.

    But they are ideal for more couples than you may think.

    1. Couples With Geographically Spread Families

    Today, families rarely live in the same town.

    Parents may be in different states.
    Siblings may live abroad.
    Friends may be scattered across the country.

    Choosing a neutral location eliminates the pressure of “whose hometown wins.”

    Everyone travels. Everyone shares the experience. It levels the emotional playing field.

    2. Couples Who Want an Intimate Celebration

    Destination weddings naturally reduce guest count. Travel requires intention, so typically,
    only your closest circle attends. This creates depth.

    It allows for slower moments. More connection. It allows for more presence.

    3. Couples Planning a Second Wedding

    Second marriages often prioritize experience over scale.

    Many couples already had the large traditional wedding once. Now they want something meaningful…
    something reflective. They desire a wedding that feels like them.

    Destination weddings often serve this beautifully.

    4. Couples Who Want to Blend Wedding and Honeymoon

    One major advantage is efficiency. You are already there. Instead of flying home and then traveling again, you extend your stay.

    Wedding.
    Exhale.
    Honeymoon.

    All in one location. Now, doesn’t that sound fantastic?!

    The Truth About Destination Wedding Budgets

    There is a common belief that destination weddings are cheaper. The reality is that sometimes they are and sometimes they are not.

    If you live in a high-cost city like Seattle, your budget may stretch further in certain locations. However, keep in mind:

    • Travel costs add up.
    • Guest logistics require coordination.
    • Luxury international venues can be expensive.

    The key is clarity. Define what matters most to you as a couple.

    Is it the view?
    The intimacy?
    The experience for guests?

    When your priorities are clear, your budget follows.

    Types of Destination Weddings Couples Are Choosing

    Many people imagine only beach weddings, and beach weddings are gorgeous, but if the beach isn’t your thing, don’t worry. There are so many more options available. Truly, destination weddings are not “one size fits all.”

    European Romance

    Think:

    • A private villa in Italy
    • A vineyard in Portugal
    • An elopement near the Eiffel Tower

    These weddings are elegant.
    They are immersive.
    They often feel cinematic.

    Adventure Weddings

    Some couples want drama.

    Mountaintop ceremonies.
    Clifftop vows.
    Jungle settings.

    Destinations like Costa Rica and New Zealand offer both adventure and comfort.
    Guests can hike or relax in hot springs. It even works across generations.

    Urban International Weddings

    If the big city is more your style, go for it! The world is your oyster.

    Instead of New York, consider Paris.

    Instead of Chicago, consider Barcelona.

    Destination weddings do not require sand (though sand is lovely, if that is what you seek). However, they do require intention.

    The Two Professionals You Absolutely Need

    One of the biggest mistakes couples make is trying to manage everything themselves. Please do not do this. Aside from the legal marriage piece (hint, you will need an officiant), you need two key professionals.

    1. A Travel Advisor

    A travel advisor handles:

    • Group flights
    • Room blocks
    • Hotel contracts
    • Guest questions
    • Excursions
    • Travel insurance

    Without one, you become the help desk, and that is not how you want to spend your engagement.

    Professionals like Carolyn Kulb exist for a reason. Let them carry the logistics.

    2. An On-Site Wedding Planner

    Most destination venues include an in-house planner.

    They coordinate:

    • Catering
    • Florals
    • Ceremony logistics
    • Seating arrangements
    • Vendor communication

    You may not need a separate U.S.-based planner. In many cases, the venue team is sufficient.

    Your job is to show up. Their job is to execute.

    However, if you’re not getting married at a traditional venue, you’ll definitely want to hire a wedding planner. Whether you find a planner in the US that specializes in destination weddings or you find a local expert (perhaps with the help of your travel advisor), you’ll need someone.

    For couples traveling to the US as your wedding destination, I will be happy to help you find an amazing wedding planner. Please feel free to reach out.

    Legal vs. Symbolic Ceremonies: What You Must Understand

    Finally Official: Bride signing the Marriage Certificate.
    Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography.

    This is where many couples get surprised. Getting legally married abroad can be complicated. Some countries require:

    • Residency periods
    • Extensive documentation
    • Multiple in-person appointments
    • Translations and approvals

    In some European Union countries, legal marriage for non-residents is extremely difficult. Because of this, many couples choose to:

    1. Legally marry in the United States.
    2. Host a symbolic ceremony at their destination.

    This removes enormous stress. As a professional officiant, I care deeply about legal validity. You deserve both a meaningful ceremony and a legally recognized marriage. Separating the legal and symbolic events is not “less than.” It is strategic.

    If this is something you’re interested in learning more about, please let me know. You have options.

    When a Destination Wedding May Not Be the Right Choice

    There are circumstances where destination weddings are not wise.

    1. Essential Family Cannot Travel

    If key loved ones cannot attend due to health, finances, or mobility, reconsider. Your wedding should not create unnecessary heartbreak.

    2. It Will Cause Significant Family Conflict

    If the location will ignite tension, weigh that carefully. Your marriage begins long before the ceremony and will continue long after.

    3. The Budget Truly Is Not There

    Destination weddings are not inherently affordable. If it creates debt or financial stress, pause. Beauty is not worth instability.

    Practical Logistics Couples Often Overlook

    Carolyn shared some really important insight during our interview: Dreaming is easy. Execution requires planning.

    Communicate Early

    Send save-the-dates early.

    Provide a detailed travel page on your wedding website.

    Answer common questions upfront.

    Clear communication reduces stress for everyone.

    Purchase Travel Insurance

    As Carolyn shared, Travel Insurance is a non-negotiable for the couple and their family. The reality of 21st century travel is that:

    • Flights get delayed.
    • Luggage gets lost.
    • Weather disrupts plans.

    Travel insurance protects your investment and your peace of mind. It is not glamorous, but it is wise.

    Consider Weather and Season

    Off-season pricing can be appealing, but February beaches can be cold in most of the Northern Hemisphere. August in Spain or Lake Chelan can be scorching.

    Make sure you have a Plan B, especially for outdoor ceremonies. …this is where your wedding planner’s knowledge and assistance can be invaluable.

    Build in Extra Time

    When going abroad for a destination wedding, arrive several days early.

    Try to meet your vendors in person.

    Allow yourselves time to adjust for jet lag.

    Leave space for small hiccups.

    Rushing defeats the purpose of a destination experience.

    How to Keep the Focus on the Marriage

    Here is what matters most:

    A destination wedding is still a wedding and a wedding is still the doorway into marriage.

    The view may be extraordinary.

    The location may be breathtaking.

    But the sacred work remains the same.

    You are making a covenant. You are building a life together.

    No passport stamp changes that.

    The goal is alignment.

    Your ceremony should reflect your story, your values and your shared vision.

    Location enhances the experience, but it does not replace the foundation.

    Final Thoughts: Is a Destination Wedding Right for You?

    If your heart lights up when you imagine:

    • Gathering your closest people somewhere beautiful
    • Creating an immersive multi-day experience
    • Blending travel, celebration, and intimacy

    Then a destination wedding may be perfect for you.

    If your priority is convenience, simplicity, or keeping every extended family member comfortable, it may not be.

    Neither choice is better.

    Only alignment is better.

    Your wedding can happen in Paris or Chelan. It can happen in Leavenworth or your hometown courthouse. The question is not where.

    The question is why.

    If you are considering a destination wedding and want a ceremony that is legally sound, deeply personal, and aligned with your marriage vision, I would be honored to walk alongside you.

    Because your wedding is beautiful.

    But your marriage is sacred.

    And both deserve intention.

    About Chanelle

    Chanelle Carlin
    Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography

    Chanelle Carlin guides legacy-minded couples into marriage by transforming their Pacific Northwest elopement or wedding ceremony into the emotional and strategic foundation of a deeply connected, intention and enduring partnership.

    Learn more: https://chanellecarlin.com
    Instagram: @chanelle.carlin
    Podcast: Now You May Kiss™

    What It Truly Means to Be a Celebrant: A Global Conversation with Vic Thomas

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    A Heart-Led Conversation on Ceremony, Marriage, and Meaning

    In this episode of Now You May Kiss™, I’m joined by Vic Thomas. Vic is a New Zealand-based marriage celebrant. She is also the founder of My Celebrant, the world’s first celebrant-specific, business platform.

    Together, we explore ceremony beyond the script. We discuss love, leadership, and intentional living. This conversation is deeply human. It is also refreshingly practical.

    Celebrant vs. Officiant: A Shared Global Calling

    In the United States, we say “wedding officiant.” In many countries, the term is “celebrant.” The language may differ. The calling is the same.

    Celebrants do more than legal paperwork. They hold space for life’s milestones:

    • Weddings.
    • Vow renewals.
    • Funerals.
    • Naming ceremonies.

    Celebrants witness transformation. That responsibility matters.

    Ceremony Is About Presence, Not Performance

    Vic and I discuss what makes ceremonies meaningful.

    It is not about reading beautiful words. It is about paying attention and offering emotional presence.

    We watch how couples interact. We notice laughter, silence, and touch. Those moments shape ceremony. They reveal truth.

    A great ceremony reflects who a couple is. Not who they think they should be.

    Why Micro Weddings Create Powerful Moments

    Vic shared about a micro wedding that she recently officiated. There were just ten guests in attendance (plus the couple’s dog). They chose intimacy over scale.

    The ceremony focused on daily love. Not dramatic storytelling.

    What do you admire about each other? What does marriage feel like at home? Those answers created magic. Quiet, honest magic.

    The Emotional Labor of Celebrancy

    Celebrants do emotional work. That work is rarely discussed.

    We hold stories. Celebrants hold grief, joy, and vulnerability. We sit with families and honor transitions. This labor is invisible. But it is real.

    That is why generic business systems fail celebrants. Our work is unique in the world and even in the wedding industry.

    Building a Business That Supports Real Life

    Vic became a celebrant in 2019. Soon after, she became a mother. She now has three young children and her priorities have shifted.

    She is honoring this season of her life. This required boundaries…and courage. She redesigned her offerings intentionally. Her work proves sustainability matters. It matters most especially for heart-led professionals.

    The “CEO Era” of Celebrancy

    Vic describes entering her “CEO era.” It is a powerful concept. This era rejects survival mode and embraces leadership.

    Systems replace chaos. Boundaries replace burnout.

    Consistency replaces over-explaining. Calm replaces urgency.

    Couples feel that stability. They trust it.

    Why Systems Create More Connection

    Many believe systems reduce intimacy, but actually, the opposite is true.

    Strong systems free emotional energy. They create presence. When admin tasks are handled, connection deepens. Focus sharpens.

    Couples feel supported. They feel seen. That is the heart of Vic’s celebrant-specific business platform. My Celebrant. It’s a collaborative planning experience.

    Modern Couples Expect Modern Experiences

    Today’s couples often plan from their phones. Many are Gen Z. They value convenience, but they
    also value meaning.

    They want stress-free planning and they want an authentic ceremony. Celebrants must meet both needs. Heart and technology must coexist.

    Remember, modern does not mean impersonal. It means intentional.

    Marriage Changes More Than You Expect

    Before they marry, many couples say marriage changes nothing. They are often surprised. Even long-term couples feel shifts.

    Marriage redefines family. You consciously choose your person. That choice matters. It affects identity and it affects all relationships.

    I see this repeatedly…every year.

    Celebrating Love Beyond the Wedding Day

    I stay connected with my couples. Anniversaries matter. So do milestones. So do check-ins. Your marriage deserves ongoing celebration. Not just for one day.

    Vic shares this value deeply. It aligns beautifully. As Celebrants, we do not disappear after the wedding. We walk alongside our couples.

    Love, Legacy, and Long-Term Commitment

    During the episode, Vic shares a very personal story. Her grandparents were married 77 years. They were soulmates and true partners. Always holding hands until her “poppa” transitioned from this life. Their marriage modeled partnership and conscious choice.

    Those stories shape how I serve couples. Legacy matters. Ceremony honors that legacy. It carries hope forward.

    Advice for Couples Planning Their Wedding

    Vic offers simple wisdom. “You do you, Boo.”

    Choose vendors who support presence. Not pressure.

    Design a day that reflects you. Not expectations.

    Let your ceremony feel like an exhale, rather than a performance.

    I promise, this mindset changes everything, including your experience.

    Planning a Wedding in 2026?

    If you’re planning a wedding or elopement in 2026 and want a ceremony that feels grounded, personal, and deeply meaningful, you don’t have to figure it out alone.

    Your ceremony sets the emotional tone for your entire wedding day—and when it’s thoughtfully designed, you and your guests feel present, connected, and at ease. I specialize in creating highly personalized wedding and elopement ceremonies, offering vow writing guidance, and supporting couples who want to feel confident, calm, and fully themselves as they step into marriage.

    Let’s Chat!

    Whether you’re envisioning an intimate elopement or a wedding surrounded by family and friends, your ceremony should reflect who you are—and who you’re becoming together.

    A Global Perspective on Intentional Ceremony

    This conversation with Vic crosses continents, but the values remain universal:

    • Love deserves intention.
    • Your ceremony deserves care.
    • Marriage deserves preparation… and celebration.

    Whether in New Zealand or the U.S., the heart remains the same. That is the power of ceremony. It connects us all.

    Listen to the Full Episode

    🎧 Listen to this episode of Now You May Kiss™ featuring Vic Thomas, NZ Celebrant and Founder of My Celebrant.

    This episode is for couples and for celebrants. It is for anyone who believes marriage matters, and that ceremonies matter too.

    About the Host, Chanelle

    Podcast logo with description, title and image of Chanelle Carlin and microphone
    All things for your bespoke intimate wedding or elopement with Chanelle Carlin

    Chanelle Carlin is a Professional Wedding Officiant, ceremony coach, and the host of the Now You May Kiss™ Podcast. Through Chanelle Carlin Weddings, she creates deeply personalized wedding and elopement ceremonies, offers vow writing guidance, and serves couples as their Celebrant for Life™—supporting them through marriage milestones well beyond the wedding day.

    Learn more: https://chanellecarlin.com
    Instagram: @chanelle.carlin
    Podcast: Now You May Kiss™

    Create, Connect & Flourish

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    How Art & Creative Experiences Bring People Together Through Celebration with Cindy Shaw, owner of Color Collective by Cindy Shaw

    In a world that often feels rushed, digital, and disconnected, creative experiences have a quiet way of bringing us back to ourselves—and to one another. That truth is at the heart of a recent episode of the Now You May Kiss™ Podcast, where host Chanelle Carlin sits down with artist and creative entrepreneur Cindy Shaw, owner of Color Collective by Cindy Shaw.

    This joyful and inspiring conversation explores how art—especially shared creative experiences—can transform the way we celebrate life’s milestones, from weddings and bridal showers to everyday moments that deserve to be honored.

    From Corporate Life to Creative Calling

    After decades working in the corporate world at a Fortune 100 global company, Cindy Shaw made a bold and life-giving shift: she traded spreadsheets for paintbrushes. What began as a personal creative outlet soon became something much bigger—a business rooted in connection, joy, and human flourishing.

    Cindy Shaw, owner of Color Collective by Cindy Shaw

    Through Color Collective by Cindy Shaw, Cindy hosts painting parties, art workshops, and creative experiences designed for people of all skill levels. Her mission is simple yet powerful: help people come together to create, connect, and ultimately flourish.

    Why Creative Experiences Matter More Than Ever

    According to Cindy, creativity isn’t just about making art—it’s about balance, well-being, and emotional health. In the podcast episode, she shares how engaging the creative side of the brain can:

    • Reduce stress and anxiety
    • Encourage mindfulness and calm
    • Spark joy and playfulness
    • Counterbalance the pressures of modern life
    • Foster human connection in an increasingly digital world

    She also speaks to creativity as a vital countermeasure to AI and automation—reminding us that while technology can enhance efficiency, it can never replace human imagination, intuition, or shared experience.

    Art Is for Everyone (Yes, Even If You “Can’t Draw”)

    One of the most refreshing takeaways from this conversation is Cindy’s insistence that you do not need to be artistic to be creative.

    Color Collective painting parties are intentionally designed to be approachable and inclusive. With pre-traced canvases, step-by-step guidance, and hands-on support, guests are free to relax, follow along, and enjoy the process—without pressure or perfectionism.

    The goal isn’t to create a masterpiece. It’s to be present, have fun, and say at the end, “Look what I made.”

    A Meaningful Alternative for Wedding Celebrations

    For couples and their loved ones, painting parties offer a heartfelt alternative—or addition—to traditional wedding events.

    Cindy and Chanelle discuss how creative gatherings are becoming increasingly popular for:

    • Bridal showers
    • Bachelorette celebrations
    • Engagement parties
    • Family-centered wedding weekends

    Unlike alcohol-focused events, painting parties are welcoming to all ages and stages of life. Grandmothers, aunts, cousins, children, and friends can sit side by side, laugh together, share stories, and create something meaningful.

    Guests leave not only with memories, but with a tangible keepsake—a piece of art that forever holds the joy of that season.

    The Power of Connection Through Shared Experience

    At its core, this episode is about belonging.

    In the years following 2020, many people never fully returned to gathering the way they once did. Cindy shares how loneliness and isolation have quietly taken root—and how intentional creative spaces can help rebuild what was lost.

    When people gather to paint, listen to music, and create together, something powerful happens:

    • Conversations flow naturally
    • Old relationships are rekindled
    • New bonds are formed
    • People feel seen, valued, and connected

    This is where Cindy’s philosophy truly comes alive—and where flourishing begins.

    Making Space for Creative Experiences in Everyday Life

    Beyond hosted events, Cindy encourages everyone to carve out small moments of creativity in daily life—even just an hour a week. Whether it’s painting, doodling, journaling, or experimenting with color, creative play nurtures mind, body, and spirit.

    And when done together, creativity becomes a celebration in itself.

    Connect with Cindy Shaw

    If you’re curious about hosting or attending a painting party—or simply want to bring more creativity into your life—you can connect with Cindy here:

    About the Now You May Kiss™ Podcast

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    All things for your bespoke intimate wedding or elopement with Chanelle Carlin

    The Now You May Kiss™ Podcast is hosted by Chanelle Carlin, Wedding Officiant and Celebrant for Life™. Through thoughtful conversations with industry experts, creatives, and heart-centered leaders, Chanelle explores love, marriage, celebration, and the meaningful moments that bring people together.

    Whether you’re planning a wedding or simply seeking a more intentional way of living and celebrating, each episode offers inspiration rooted in connection, authenticity, and joy.

    Learn more at https://chanellecarlin.com

    I’m a trend-setter! Who knew?

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    Chanelle’s take on the non-traditional “non-wedding wedding” trends for 2024

    A “non-wedding wedding” photo at the Upper Lake at Conconully, Washington. The gorgeous Bride is wearing her favorite color, purple; groom is wearing shorts, a short-sleeve shirt AND tie and they travelled from rural Iowa (where they left all the family) to rural Washington state to get married. Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography

    The article that inspired an article that inspired this post

    I just received an email this morning from one of my wedding colleagues at Maroo.us about Vogue’s December article claiming that “non-wedding” weddings (non-traditional weddings) are on the rise for 2024 and thought I would share my thoughts about the subject with you too, but rather than copy their article, I’ve attached the link to the Maroo article, Are “non-wedding” weddings on the rise? Here is a roundup of the ins and outs of 2024, written by Prianka Dhir, in case you’d like to read it for yourself.

    Photo credit: Emilee Setting

    Who knew officiating non-traditional ceremonies YEARS would make me trendy in 2024?

    What struck me as really noteworthy about these articles is that I’ve been doing ‘non-wedding’ weddings here in the Pacific Northwest with my couples for YEARS without even realizing I was setting a new trend! (Yes, I’ve been celebrating marriages for a while now.) I invite you to check out my blog post, What Does a Wedding Officiant Do & Tips from an Officiant For Your Wedding Day. So, what is a “non-wedding wedding”? According to the article referenced above, a “non-wedding wedding” is essentially a non-traditional wedding. They are casual, less formal and characterized by intimate ceremonies, family-style food menus, and in the moment, real-time photography. Couples are realizing that this most important day in their lives (up until this point) can be whatever they want it to be so it looks and feels authentic and reflects their personalities, and they’re often hiring wedding stylists, designers and other professionals to help bring their vision to life. The photo above is from a breezy July intimate family wedding up at Tipsoo Lake at Mount Rainier. Their wedding planner, Katy Warner from Seattle Stunning Events was super organized, found the exact spot on the lake to have the best view of the mountain AND had a rug for us to stand on to create our sacred space for their beautiful, personal and unique ceremony (photo above). Back at the air B&B where they all gathered for their family meal and post ceremony celebrations, once again, Katy had everything organized and beautiful (though also simple and elegant), so Nathan and Lauren just got to relax and enjoy their moments (photo below). Afterwards, our couple headed up the mountain with their flowers, backpacks and sparkling wine for a toast and their photographer to capture some truly breathtaking, intimate and authentically Nate and Lauren moments (second photo below).

    wood table set with dishes and flowers in a wooded setting, staged by Seattle Stunning Events and photographed by Emilee Setting Photography
    Staged by Seattle Stunning Events and Photo credit: Emilee Setting Photography
    Man in black suit, woman in white wedding gown sitting on the ground with snowcapped mountain in background.
    Photo credit: Emilee Setting Photography

    “Chanelle is truly a gem – Personable, funny, intelligent, and such a pro at tailoring a memorable ceremony...Our other wedding vendors and our family even commented that Chanelle felt like family, and we could not agree more. It was evident that there was so much careful thought and intention behind each interaction with her.” – L & N (Summer intimate family wedding at Tipsoo Lake in shadow of Mount Rainier)

    Some “non-wedding wedding” ideas, Pacific Northwest style

    I never realized how much we were ‘bucking the trends’ (or setting them as in the case of this article) with non traditional weddings and elopements and our sustainable practices. For instance, picture sharing your most personal vows with your loved one in the presence of your closest family and friends on a hiking trail on Whidbey Island, or the Hoh Rainforest in Olympic National Park, on a farm in Leavenworth, or maybe you prefer the beach at sunset, or overlooking the Pacific Ocean on San Juan Island or at sunrise on Mount Rainier at Sunrise (can’t get less traditional or “non-wedding-y” than that). For those wanting a ceremony with their closest family and friends and a low key-no worries intimate reception afterwards, wineries offer a great option with beautiful scenery and relaxed, family style meal settings under the stars. Check out my blog post here for some options in Lake Chelan, or as in the case of Lauren and Nathan, you could rent an air B&B and have your wedding planner bring your vision to fruition in the forest. As for sustainable – in the the Pacific Northwest, we’re all about sustainability (recycling, animal welfare, clean water, land conservation and farm to table dining). Not only that, but as individuals we’re also very community minded. I’ve been volunteering in my communities (wherever I have lived) since I was seven years old and my business has been donating a portion of my fees for every wedding to one of six non-profit organizations since 2020. When you book me as your officiant for your custom wedding, you get to choose which of the six organizations, you’d like the donation from your wedding to go. Want another sustainability idea? Did you know that you can donate your wedding flowers to retirement and memory care centers so they can live on and bring joy to others after your wedding? Yep and in North Central Washington, Lilies of the Valley in East Wenatchee, Washington can help you with that.

    Soapbox: The reason for the wedding is the WEDDING part – otherwise, it’s just a fancy party.

    There is a part of this article which frustrates me a tiny bit (pardon me as I step up on my ‘soapbox’). It is just that most of the trends listed (awesome as they are) focus mostly on the reception and party. The ceremony (you know, the part where you actually share your non-traditional vows with each other –ask me about this– and join together in marriage…) feels like an aside. Why does it frustrate me, you ask? Well, as your Officiant, I am passionate about helping you start your marriage off with a custom, all-about-the-two-of-you, wedding ceremony, which is beautiful, authentic and memorable for all the right reasons. You’re getting married after all. These trends seem to focus less on the getting married part of a wedding, and more on the party part and yet that’s why you’re having the party (or “non-wedding” wedding) – to celebrate your marriage. – (OK – I’m getting off the ‘soapbox’ now)

    Chanelle truly helped to make our whole wedding feel like the most special day in the world...she tailored our wedding to completely fit around us, our belief’s, and our family. “ – L & S (Winter air B&B elopement in Leavenworth with only their children as their witnesses).”

    You don’t have to do it by yourself.

    I remind all of my couples that your wedding is one of the most important days of your life. There is a lot that goes into planning a wedding ceremony (a “non-wedding” wedding or not) and most couples have never done it before so it can feel a bit overwhelming. There are many, many resources available to help alleviate stress, including amazingly talented and committed wedding professionals. The most important thing to remember is that the two of you have decided that you want to be together and whether you choose to commemorate that with a large family wedding at a larger venue, an intimate family wedding at your favorite winery or elope to your favorite hiking trail with your witnesses and officiant, it’s YOUR special day and you want it to be meaningful to the two of you, not stressful. If you want to start with an easy conversation about your ceremony, please feel free to reach out. I am here to answer questions and help you have the most beautiful ceremony – whatever that looks like for the two of you. This is a magical time, and I’m absolutely delighted for you. Best wishes for a lifetime of love. – Chanelle, Your Pacific Northwest Elopement and Intimate Wedding Officiant and Celebrant for LifeTM.

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    Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography

    About Chanelle


    Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC (and now ‘trend-setter’). Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry. As their Celebrant for Life TM, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest.

    “Surprise! One of my Leavenworth elopements was published and I didn’t even know it,” says Chanelle Carlin, Washington State Wedding Officiant and Your Celebrant for Life

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    You never know what you’ll find when searching the internet…earlier today, I took part in a 30 minute ‘lunch and learn’ with Sara Dunn, a wedding SEO professional. If you’re a wedding professional and wanting to learn how to rank higher on Google, she is super amazing. Anyway, after the training, I was following up by running an SEO check on my website. That check showed that among other things, my website was ranking for a backlink to the digital wedding magazine, www.offbeatwed.com for a Leavenworth Elopement. I knew I hadn’t written a post for that publication, so of course I had to check it out. Surprise! I found a story submitted by one of my couples that got married in Leavenworth, Washington back in 2021, “An intimate ‘Up’ Adventure Party Leavenworth elopement with gluten-free pizza & donuts!” posted by Chris Wolfgang.

    Chanelle’s Reflections

    From an officiant’s perspective (any wedding professional’s perspective, I’m sure), Randy Joe and Jeremy were pretty much an ideal couple in that they always did what they said they would do, they responded to emails in a timely fashion and they were just plain old organized and very gracious and kind. Crafting their ceremony was just fun and having them love it enough to submit it is a genuine honor. I invite you to check it out here

    Usually, when I write a blog post about one of my weddings, it’s full of my reflections as the officiant on that day, so, even though most of the details of the ceremony are shared in the article linked above, I’ll just add my recollections and feelings about my experience getting to know Randy Joe and Jeremy, their elopement ceremony and why it stands out to me even though it was two years ago and I’ve officiated dozens of weddings since.

    Getting to know you…and YOUR Vision for your Day

    I first met Randy Joe and Jeremy in March of 2021 about their planned elopement (“Act I” of their wedding), and they had pretty much everything already figured out: The venue was Roots Produce and Flower Farm in Leavenworth, Washington. The date would be June 12, 2021. There would be no guests at this time (just their two witnesses and their photographer) because they would have a bigger ceremony for their one year anniversary (Act II of their wedding) …They had everything figured out, except the ceremony…no worries, that is what I do as the Officiant, listen to stories and craft ceremonies…they knew they wanted something fun, laid back and something that totally matched their personalities. SO…we had a zoom chat to get to know each other. Jeremy and Randy Joe met in college in the theater program, which is handy because one of their favorite hobbies to do together is to watch movies. They got to know each other even went out with friends for Halloween: Randy Joe as Carmen San Diego and Jeremy as Waldo (as in “Where’s Waldo?) However, their first “official date” was lunch on 11/11/11 and Jeremy told me that soon after that, he knew he was “done looking.” Randy Joe actually told her mom all about Jeremy after their first date. They dated throughout the remainder of their college years, graduated, moved in together in 2013 and now have been together for twelve years (and married for two). Getting to know Jeremy and Randy Joe was so much fun, I couldn’t wait to draft their ceremony and send it to them for their thoughts and edits. My excitement was rewarded when Randy Joe emailed me with her and Jeremy’s final approval; her response was so sweet,

    “Anyway, this all looks fantastic! I mean, I cried within the first 30 seconds of starting to read it and basically didn’t stop, so that’s a good sign.” 🙂
    Photo credit: Sydney Cave, Everlasting Everly Photography


    On “The Day,” their ceremony was just as fun for me. You can see it in my photos. It was relaxed and was with two people who were just so happy to be married, nothing else really mattered once we got there. One of my favorite memories from that day was watching them hand paint their mailbox which would be used for cards during “Act II” of their ceremony (the bigger wedding party on their anniversary). I promise you, there is nothing like watching a couple don colorful aprons, smoosh paint on their hands and then put their painted handprints all over a white mailbox. In case you’re wondering how that activity fits within a wedding ceremony, I’ll tell you. They each put on their own apron, but had the other person tie it for them. This speaks to helping each other with the everyday tasks during the marriage. Then, they squirt paint on their hands, smoosh them together and put handprints all over the mailbox. This is FUN and embraces the messiness of life (two very important elements in marriage and life in general). Finally, their witnesses were on hand with baby wipes so they could clean off their hands, which reminds us that there are times when even the strongest couples, need support from others. You can check out Chris Wolfgang’s article on Offbeatwed.com for photos of this fun activity, which I genuinely hope you do, or just use your imagination. 🙂

    I also loved when they shared their vows (sweet and funny – check out the link above) and then signing their paperwork during the ceremony with their witnesses, so that when they walked up the aisle after I pronounced them married, they were actually completely and officially married. (You know…it’s not official til the paperwork is signed).

    Photo credit: Sydney Cave, Everlasting Everly Photography

    “’And love, true love, will follow you forever’ and may you always be each other’s greatest adventure.” – the final wish from their ceremony borrowed from their fave movies, “Up” and “The Princess Bride”

    Celebrating Randy Joe and Jeremy’s elopement was as beautiful for me as their Wedding Officiant as “finally” getting married was for them and I’m grateful they enjoyed the experience enough to submit their wedding story to be published. For those wondering how Act II went, Randy Joe emailed me after receiving their anniversary card and shared,

    “We did go ahead with our Act II this past Saturday and it was lovely! Frantic and stressful, but lovely!”

    OH! and if you’ve never been to Roots Produce and Flower Farm, you should go. It’s absolutely stunning and the location for weddings is down below the road in a little valley surrounded by the majestic mountains. Truly, it will take your breath away.

    Other Wedding Pros involved in this beautiful adventure:

    You’ll see a list of the other wedding professionals and vendors if you read the Offbeatwed.com article, but I’ll share them here so it’s handy for you:

    If you’re ready to schedule your consultation to talk about your elopement or intimate wedding ceremony, please feel free to reach out. I’d love to chat with you.

    Let’s Chat!

    About Chanelle:  

    Photo credit: Roxanne Best

    Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest and Ireland primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry. As their Celebrant for Life, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest. 

    Thank you for your service

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    “Everyday someone new turns to us for a helping hand, be it for health care, veterans’ benefits, housing needs or employment assistance, with contributions such as the one received, it assures that those who courageously served our country will not ever be forgotten.” – Jack McManus, National President VVA, 11/2/2023 in a thank you letter to Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC
    Veterans Day 2023 image of American flags flying at Spring Canyon Cemetery near Grand Coulee, WA. Photo credit: Chanelle Carlin

    Since starting my business, it has been my genuine desire that I would provide the highest quality officiating and coaching services and that Chanelle Carlin Weddings would exemplify my continued commitment to community. After each wedding, I donate a portion of my fees to a not-for-pofit organization whose mission I support and whose financial dealings I feel are honorable and trustworthy. Over the past three years, Chanelle Carlin Weddings has donated thousands of dollars on behalf our couples to their chosen organization. One of those organizations is the Vietnam Veterans of America (VVA) and I am mentioning them in this article because just this past week, I received a letter of thanks from their National President. Having worked for many years in the not-for-profit sector, I know how important every donation is and I also know that thank you letters are generally sent out to thank donors, let them kow how their donation will be used and to invite them to donate more. This wasn’t the first donation that Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC has sent to the VVA and we have always received a nice email and receipt in the past for our donations, but this is the first letter we received from them so I wanted to acknowledge it and tell you a little about the Vietnam Veterans of America and why they are one of the chosen organizations of Chanelle Carlin Weddings.


    First, the VVA is the only national Vietnam veterans organization congressionally chartered and exclusively dedicated to Vietnam-era veterans and their families. Although the war was declared finished in 1975, by the late 1970s, it was clear the established veterans groups in America had failed to make a priority of the issues of concern to Vietnam veterans and there were many. In January 1978, a small group of Vietnam veteran activists came to Washington, D.C., searching for allies to support the creation of an advocacy organization devoted exclusively to the needs of Vietnam veterans. VVA, initially known as the Council of Vietnam Veterans, began its work. Finally, in 1986, Congress recognized them with an official charter. Today, the VVA has a national membership of over 85,000, with over 650 chapters throughout the United States, Puerto Rico, the Virgin Islands, Guam and the Philippines dedicated to serving the needs of Vietnam veterans and those who serve our nation regardless of the war they fought in.


    Second, in case you’re still curious about why I chose the VVA, it’s simple and relates directly back to my own life. My Dad, Fred is a Vietnam Veteran who served as a teenager like many others of his generation. In 1969, at the age of 19 (younger than my son and three of my nephews now), he was seriously wounded by a land mine. Many were killed. My father was thrown, and initially presumed dead, though thankfully he wasn’t. Dad suffered many physical and psychological traumas during this conflict, only some of which were the result of this accident. I have chosen to support this organization to support the efforts and healing of all Vietnam Veterans, their families and the Veterans who remain in harm’s way today. Their founding principle, of “never again will one generation of veterans abandon another” touches deep within my heart. The VVA members know what returning veterans face. They have been through it before and understand full well that despite all the heart felt “thank you for your service” comments, returning veterans will face major hurdles. It is their mission to make sure that those who serve our country receive the care and respect they have earned and I support that mission.

    In case you’d like to learn more about the work of the Vietnam Veterans of America and how they help all veterans, I invite you to check out this YouTube video which I found on their website. It describes their history and current work far more effectively that I can in this short article.

    Brief video of history of Vietnam Veterans of America and their mission, found at https://vva.org/who-we-are/history/

    Just for a little lighthearted fun after talking about such an important topic, here is a photo of teenage me as cadet in the Civil Air Patrol in the mid-1980’s. Taken by another cadet, we were “in the field” at our monthly search and rescue training program in Shelton, Washington. For those who don’t know, I grew up in a family that believes in military service and at that time I had grand plans to join the air force. While my life took another direction (many, in fact), I treasure the memories of this time in my life and also still hold the gratitude of all who have served in the military. See, the things you learn about your wedding officiant when you read their blog posts. 🙂

    Chanelle in the mid-1980’s as a Civil Air Patrol cadet. Photo credit: Kathleen Holly Waud.

    Now, back to the thank you letter…

    Thank you letter from Vietnam Veterans of America for donation.

    I’d like to personally thank Ciara and Joshua DeLys for allowing me the honor of officiating their intimate wedding ceremony and also because it was their decision to choose the VVA as their preferred donation recipient.

    Also, thanks to my dad for his service and to all other service men and women who have responded to the call of our nation and served bravely (even if you didn’t feel brave sometimes). It is never easy and no one ever knows what they’re signing up for or sacrificing. I am grateful to each of you.

    As I mentioned above, the Vietnam Veterans of America is just one of the organizations that Chanelle Carlin Weddings donates to and they are the only national organization. Each of the other organizations is unique to the Pacific Northwest:

    Camp Fire of Snohomish County – https://campfiresnoco.org/
    Oregon Dachshund Rescue, Inc. – http://www.odr-inc.org/
    KSPS – Public Television in Spokane – https://www.ksps.org/
    KSER (90.7) – Everett – http://www.kser.org/
    Washington Trails Association – https://www.wta.org/

    I’ll highlight another organization in a separate blog post, but since we’re so close to Veteran’s Day AND I just received this lovely letter, I thought I would start with the Vietnam Veterans of America. I’ve included links to each of the other organizations website though in case you’d like to learn more about what they do as well.

    If you’re ready to schedule your consultation to talk about your wedding OR how you can donate to one of these organizations, please feel free to reach out. I’d love to chat with you.

    Let’s Chat!

    About Chanelle:  

    Photo credit: Roxanne Best

    Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest and Ireland primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry. As their Celebrant for Life, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest. 

    In honor of St. Patrick’s Day, a reflection on one of my favorite Irish symbols – The Claddagh by Chanelle Carlin, Washington State Wedding Officiant and Your ‘Celebrant for Life’

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    For those who know me or have spent any time reading my website, you know that I lived in Ireland for eight years…and loved every minute of my time there. So, in honor of the month we’re in…March… and a little over a week from St. Patrick’s Day, I thought I would share a post today about one of my favorite Irish symbols and one that couples often ask about…the Claddagh.  Before I get to that, I thought I would reflect on Ireland for a sec. It is the one place apart from Camp Killoqua in Stanwood, Washington that ever truly felt like home. Sometime, I will share a bit more about my Irish experience and how it influences me as your Celebrant for Life. In the meantime, here are a couple of photos from my time there. The first is a photo of the top of the street that I lived on when I first moved to Ireland (after staying with friends). If you look closely, there is a red brick building in the middle of the photo on the right. That was my building. I shared a flat (apartment) with two other girls. My first job in Ireland was down at the other end of the street on the left.

    Dublin Street, Monaghan. The street where I first lived in Monaghan, Ireland. 

    woman standing in a pink coat next to a hedge in rural ireland with gray buildings in background
    Me standing along the side of a hedge in Clogher, Co. Tyrone (approx. 2010)

    The Claddagh – enough about me for now…

    I thought you might enjoy a little history as well as info on how to wear the Claddagh ring, plus one VERY important piece of info that you’ll want to read at the very end. 

    The Claddagh is one of Ireland’s most recognized and precious images. Two hands embracing a heart adorned with a crown symbolize the purity of a cherished relationship – friendship (hands), love (heart) and loyalty (crown).  

    Image by Mégane Percier from Pixabay 

    Claddagh is a Place 

    When we hear “Claddagh”, most of us think ring or maybe even door knocker. But Claddagh is actually a place. It’s located in County Galway on the west coast of Ireland and THE place where a fisherman-turned-goldsmith transformed his undying commitment to the woman he loved into the renowned band of gold. (More about the legend in a bit…)  

    In an area once known as the Fish Market and named after the Irish word for “shore” – an Cladach, Claddagh is one of Ireland’s oldest former fishing communities. It is located in Galway city, just across the River Corrib from the Spanish and Caoċ Arches, the remaining structure of a protective wall constructed in 1584. Very little of the original village is present today due to shifts in industry, emigration, disease and war but the history and lore remains. You can find out more about Claddagh here .

    Image by Snail from Pixabay

    Hands, Heart & Crown 

    There are many legends surrounding the original design of the Claddagh ring and most point toward Galway fisherman Richard Joyce.  In the late 17th century, Joyce was captured by pirates and sold into slavery. While in servitude, he forged a ring of gold for his true love back in Galway featuring three symbols: a heart of love, a crown of loyalty and hands of friendship.  After his release back to his village of Claddagh, he married the woman who had waited years for him to return. “With these hands I give you my heart, and I crown it with my love”. 

    Image by Mégane Percier from Pixabay   

    Traditionally, a Claddagh ring was passed from a mother to her daughter. Or in my case, from daughter to mother. I gave my mom a pair of Claddagh earrings when I lived in Ireland. Often a family heirloom, the symbol of love, loyalty and friendship is also commonly exchanged between friends.  

    Most popular though is the wearing of a Claddagh ring as a symbol of romance. The Claddagh ring is to be worn in a specific way depending upon your relationship ‘status.’ 

    How to Wear a Claddagh Ring 

    Before getting married, the ring should be worn on your right hand. 

    If you’re single, wear the ring with your heart facing out. This tells people you’re open to dating, i.e. that your heart is available to give to another person. The heart should point toward the end of your finger, rather than the center of your hand, and the crown should point inward. 

    Once you’re dating someone and you feel committed, wear the ring with the heart facing in. This shows your heart is currently unavailable. The Claddagh should be turned around so the heart points toward the center of your hand. 

    Once you are married, the ring can be moved to the left hand. For some, you can move the Claddagh ring to the left hand once you’re engaged (heart pointing out to the tip of your finger) and then turned around to have the heart pointed toward the center of your hand as part of the wedding ceremony. 

    Image by Kilkenny Design 

    Important….

    Regardless of whether or not you’re looking for love, one thing is certain – never buy your own Claddagh ring. It must be gifted or received. It’s bad luck, and who knows more about luck than the Irish? 

    Image by Alexa from Pixabay   

    I hope you enjoyed this brief little post about one of my favorite Irish symbols as we get ready for St. Patrick’s Day. Do you have a favorite Irish symbol? Have you been to Ireland? I’d love to hear one of your stories. 

    Thank you as well to https://www.claddaghrings.com/the-meaning-and-origin-of-the-claddagh-ring/ and https://oghamart.com/blogs/news/the-meaning-of-the-claddagh for much of the information gathered for this post. 

    About Chanelle:  

    Photo credit: Roxanne Best

    Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest and Ireland primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry. As their Celebrant for Life, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest. 

    Chanelle Carlin is your Lake Chelan Wedding Officiant 

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    I LOVE being a Lake Chelan Wedding Officiant. It is truly a stunning place and one where memories made will last a lifetime. – Just ask any of us who spent our summers (or part of our summers) there as children. My husband (his grandparents had an orchard and his parents went to high school there) and I both have vivid memories of swimming in the lake, sliding down the water slides into the lake, getting ice cream at the Drive-In in the park, sleeping outside and of Campbell’s, which though a beautiful resort now, was a much smaller version of itself then.  If you would like to learn more about me personally or my journey as a wedding officiant, I invite you to check out the About Chanelle page of my website.

    Lake Chelan Cove. PC AndrewLWiggins from Pixabay

    Chelan is a stunning place with deep meaning 

    The name Chelan is a Salish Indigenous word, “Tsi-laan,” meaning ‘Deep Water’. It’s the third deepest lake in the United States (nearly 1500 feet deep) and the 26th deepest in the world. Chelan is surrounded by mountains, trees and now, on the southern end, wineries and orchards. It’s breathtakingly beautiful. 

    Most people don’t realize just how much Lake Chelan has to offer. Just three hours from Seattle, it is a lifetime away from the big city and the grey skies of the west side of the mountains. Did you know that Chelan has 300 days (about 10 months) of sunshine? There are also more than 30 wineries in the area. There is a fabulous small-town feel, with an artistic community and a year-round outdoor lifestyle (for those who enjoy camping, fishing, hiking, boating, skiing – snow and water).  If you want more information on how you can fill your time in Chelan, check out this link to the Chamber of Commerce.  For now though, I’d like to focus on your Lake Chelan wedding. That is why you’re taking time to read this post after all…right? 

    Throughout the rest of this article, I’ll share some stories from a few of the weddings I’ve officiated in Lake Chelan, as well as some reviews from a few of my amazing couples that have honored me over the years by letting me celebrate their marriage with them. Then we’ll look at what working with me looks like and if by chance you haven’t found all your wedding team members, I’ll share some of the amazing wedding professionals I have worked with over the years and who believe your wedding is as important as you and I do.  

    Anna and Daniel at Tsillan Cellars.

    Your Lake Chelan Officiant 

    Let’s get started, shall we? As your Lake Chelan wedding officiant, I am honored to celebrate the most beautiful elopements and intimate weddings with some of the most amazing people. We laugh, we have fun, but we also take time to be fully present in the moment as you say your “I do’s.”

    As a professional Wedding Officiant, I receive a lot of questions from couples who don’t even know where to start thinking about their wedding event, let alone their ceremony (the part during which they actually get married) and they start feeling stressed. Fortunately, while there can be a lot to consider when planning a wedding and putting together a wedding ceremony, you don’t have to do everything by yourself.

    In fact, for every part of your special day, there is a wedding professional available and desiring to assist you: Wedding Venues, Wedding Planners, Florists, Stylists, and Stationary designers, Party Rentals, Caterers, Bakers, DJ’s, Musicians, Photographers, Videographers, Jewelers, Tailors, Retailers, Hotels AND, of course Officiants. Each professional can lead you to another. 

    If you’re already feeling the pressure, please know you’re not alone, but also that it doesn’t have to be so stressful. Planning a wedding should be a fun and an enjoyable process for the two of you. To aid in this process, I created the E.P.I.C. ceremony planning framework. For more info on creating your own E.P.I.C. ceremony, feel free to check out my blog article here, or give me a shout and we’ll talk through it. For now, though, let’s get back to Lake Chelan.

    Winery Weddings

    Intimate multi-cultural Family Wedding at Siren Song Vineyard, Chelan, WA PC Tetiana Photography

    With more than 30 in the area, it will be no surprise to you that many of the weddings I’ve officiated in Chelan have been at wineries. There is a winery in Chelan for every couple’s personality and dream wedding ceremony/event. Some couples include their children in their ceremony and I have had couples who planned beautiful, elaborate, interfaith ceremonies that took place at a winery. Sometimes couples have included large numbers of family for a more formal wedding and dinner reception, while others opt for the very casual dress, quick, yet truly personal ceremony with just a wine reception afterwards.  

    Hey! Can anyone here marry us? 

    One such ‘mini-mony’ took place on a Labor Day weekend at Tsillan Cellars and a local couple had decided they were ready to get married but didn’t want a big “to do.” They had family visiting them from out of town and “decided” to take them wine tasting one evening. They had it worked out that after enjoying some wine in the tasting room, they’d all come out and enjoy the stunning view over the lake and then the groom, Bill would just say to Tamara, “Hey! Let’s elope!” He would then turn to crowd outside and kind of shout, “Can anyone here marry us?” Conveniently, I was there to answer the call as was their photographer. Of course, their guests didn’t know that Bill and Tamara and I had already planned the ceremony and they had the celebrations all worked out with the winery and the photographer.  

    Lakeside weddings 

    If getting married at a winery isn’t really your thing, how about a B&B on the Lake? There are houses on the North Shore with back yards that are literally lakeside. You can’t get any closer to the water (without standing in the lake) than having your ceremony on the dock or the patio next to the lake wall of your patio. Two lovely ceremonies come to mind.  

    On the lake? Prepare for boats 

    When Jessica and Matthew got married, they had everything planned for the two of them and me to stand on the dock for their summer evening elopement. Their photographer and photographer’s assistant agreed to act as their witnesses and the couple had set up the iPad outside in the yard to live stream the ceremony for family and friends, all of whom lived far away.

    It was picture perfect…until a very loud jet boat came by. Up and down the length of the lake, even when it was completely out of site, you could still hear the roar of the engine. There was no worry for time on our part, we just waited to finish their ceremony until the boat was gone and the peaceful sounds of the lake returned, but I’m sure the family on the other end was having a great laugh and it’s a memory I will keep.

    The moral of this story is if you’re planning a wedding on a lake in the summer, be prepared for boats and folks who want to be part of the ceremony, invited or not. 

    How about a little dancing? 

    Mistie and Sean’s intimate family wedding on the lake was much more low-key – at least there were no boats involved. Of course, theirs took place on a September afternoon while most folks were at work or school. The B&B that they had rented for the event was large enough to hold their entire extended family in attendance. The ceremony took place on the back patio, with the couple and I (and their sweet little girl) standing up front, next to the wall with the water literally right on the other side. When I sat down on the wall prior to the ceremony, I could run my hand in the lake. Their ceremony is also memorable for how the couple and their family entered the ceremony spot…music blaring over the sound system and the couples exiting the house, dancing up the aisle to their seats and then Mistie, Sean and their little sweet pea dancing up to another song. It was fantastic. The setting was beautiful and everyone was having fun.

     

    Campbell’s Resort – Beach Wedding Location

    Other amazing options for wedding locations 

    Of course, if B&B’s aren’t your thing either, how about a beach wedding at Campbell’s Resort. If you’d like something a little more luxurious and less tourist focused? How about the stunning Harmony Meadows Tennis Resort in Manson (just up the road)? Looking for something a bit more secluded? There is always the option of a gorgeous boat ride on the Lady of the Lake up to Stehekin and rent a cabin and get married in the forest. Whether you’re eloping on the dock of your Lake Chelan B&B, having an intimate wedding with just a few family/friends at your favorite winery or dream of a wedding on the lake shore, I would love to talk with you about your Lake Chelan Wedding. 

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    Here is what some of my amazing couples have to say

    Claudia and Jarred at Tsillan Cellars. PC Bill Black

    Chanelle officiated our wedding in Lake Chelan. She was wonderful! She took the time to really get to know us as a couple, and worked with us to make sure our ceremony reflected our personalities and story. She’s very sweet, professional, and extremely responsive. She communicated well with the venue and wedding coordinator to ensure everything went smoothly, down to the smallest details. If you are looking for someone who genuinely cares, and who can craft and deliver a heartfelt ceremony tailored to your wishes, I highly recommend Chanelle! – Claudia and Jarred

     
    5 stars! The best ever! While I’ve not tied the knot before I couldn’t have imagined our special day any other way! Chanelle is personable, confident, respectful and caring, we are so happy we found her to officiate our wedding. She listened closely to what we wanted, and welcomed feedback, the ceremony was absolutely perfect! If I had to do it over again I would call her! Thank you! Yip! – Jillian and Bruce

     
    Chanelle was absolutely amazing to work with. She helped us every step of the way in crafting the most perfect ceremony for us. She was very clear and transparent and because of her process there were no hiccups on the big day! She also was also very flexible and supportive when we had many changes to our wedding due to Covid. We would recommend Chanelle to anyone – she is a kind soul who truly cares about the couples she is working with and has the ability to understand and represent their love as an officiant. – Jessica and Matthew

     
    Chanelle officiated our wedding in Lake Chelan a few weeks ago and it was perfect! She was so nice from the first meeting to the ceremony. We were planning the wedding from out of state, and very busy with other life events too. Even with communication low on our end, Chanelle reached out monthly and was always engaged during our zoom meetings. We felt she truly tried to get to know us and make sure the ceremony was what we wanted and matched us. Highly recommend Chanelle! – Jake and Tara  

    Working together 

    If you haven’t already spent much time on my website yet, I invite you to visit a while and browse. All the information about working with me and my fees is on the services page . You can also read reviews from some of my other couples here. 


    In a nutshell, as your wedding officiant, I work with you both to create a custom wedding ceremony that matches your personalities, your vision for your wedding and captures the magic and uniqueness of your one-of-a-kind love story. We begin this process with a complimentary consultation with the two of you to answer any questions you have, hear your ideas for your wedding and see if we all feel like we’re a good fit for each other (it’s important to feel good about the people working with you on your wedding).  

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    David and Chialu’s wedding at Tsillan Cellars. Photo Credit: Bella Fritz Photography

    Some other Lake Chelan Wedding Pros

    In case you’re still looking for just the right people to help bring your E.P.I.C. wedding vision to life, I’ve put together this exclusive list of some of my top wedding pros that serve couples wanting to get married in Lake Chelan. This is not a paid list. I have either worked with these folks and been truly impressed with their professionalism and commitment to our couples’ joy on their wedding day OR I have heard about how amazing they are from other trusted professionals.

    VENUES: 

    Tsillan Cellars  – 3875 Highway 97A, Chelan, WA 98816; 509-682-9463 – Talk with Sandy McDonald

    Siren Song Winery  – 635 South Lakeshore Road, Chelan, WA, 98816; (509) 888-4657

    Vin du Lac Winery – 105 Hwy 150, Chelan, WA 98816; (509) 682-2882 – Talk with Maggie

    Campbell’s Resort – 104 W Woodin Ave, Chelan, WA 98816; 509-888-7094 

    Harmony Meadows Tennis Resort – 4848 Green Ave, Manson, WA 98831; 509-888-2344

    WEDDING PLANNERS: 

    Ellie Haisch  – 425.330.5873; hello@elliehaischevents.com

    True Expressions – 509.679.6078; trueexpressions@live.com

    Kaija Cheyne Events – 509.679.4504; info@kaijacheyneevents.com

    PHOTOGRAPHERS: 

    Svetlana Sauer  – (509) 860-6221

    BellaFritz Photography – 206-681-7377; info@bellafritzphotography.com

    Brandon Lovejoy (Lovejoy Images) – (509) 429-7506  

    Evergreen Films 

    FLORIST: 

    Chelan Floral  – kelsey@chelanfloral.com; (509) 818-3335

    DJ/Musicians: 

    DJ Smallz – Djsmallz.sp@gmail.com; (509) 322-1860 

    Seattle String Quartet

    I remind all of my couples that your wedding is one of the most important days of your life. There is a lot that goes into planning a wedding ceremony and most couples have never done it before so it can feel a bit overwhelming. The most important thing to remember is that the two of you have decided that you want to be together and whether you choose to commemorate that with a large family wedding at Campbell’s, an intimate family wedding at your favorite winery or elope with your witnesses and officiant to Stehekin, it’s YOUR special day and you want it to be meaningful to the two of you, not stressful. There are many, many resources available to help alleviate stress, including amazingly talented and committed wedding professionals and E.P.I.C. (my wedding ceremony planning framework that I’ve shared a bit about in this article). However, if you start with remembering to just breathe and enjoy your engagement together, all will fall into place. This is a magical time, and I’m absolutely delighted for you. Best wishes for a lifetime of love. – Chanelle, Your Lake Chelan Wedding Officiant. 

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    Photo credit Roxanne Best

    About Chanelle: 

    Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest and Ireland primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry. As their Celebrant for Life, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest.

    AN INTIMATE AUTUMN “BOHO” STYLE FAMILY WEDDING AT ROBERTS MANSION & URBAN ESTATE IN SPOKANE, WASHINGTON – BY CHANELLE CARLIN, SPOKANE OFFICIANT AND YOUR CELEBRANT FOR LIFE

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    An intimate family wedding at Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate in Spokane, Washington. PC Abby Muir Photography

    Reflections from your Officiant

    Each wedding is so special to me and always stands out in my memory for a few reasons. First, and foremost, is the relationship I’ve been honored to build with the couple. There is no wedding ceremony without them. After that are the truly beautiful venues these amazing weddings take place – case in point, the gorgeous, historic Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate in Spokane, Washington. Finally, there are the truly exceptional wedding professionals that I’m fortunate to work with. Here are some of my favorite reflections from this sweet, intimate family wedding.

    Wedding cake with “It was always you” cake topper and autumn-themed flowers. PC Abby Muir Photography.

    Austyn and Marisa – “It was always you.”

    Austyn and Marisa are a very sweet couple that I was honored to “meet” virtually in the spring before their Autumn wedding. Marisa told me their special quote that they really wanted to have as the theme for their ceremony was “It was always you,” because it was. Their marriage was a decade in the making.

    Fast friends = best friends

    During our initial zoom meeting, they told me that they had met the 2nd day of 5th grade and became fast, best friends. Many afternoons after school saw Austyn at Marisa’s house, watching TV, doing homework, playing games – just hanging out.

    First date to the ‘always’ date

    Then, in 7th grade, they had their first “date” at Austyn’s house where they had Papa Murphy’s pepperoni pizza and watched Cake Boss with Austyn’s mom. Their young relationship continued through middle and high school, even when Marisa moved to Spokane. Although they contemplated a break-up as a couple, they couldn’t imagine not being best friends anymore, so twice a month, Austyn found himself making a long trek (sometimes via Greyhound) from the Seattle area to Spokane and home just so they could be together. Finally, when Marisa turned 18, she moved back to Seattle and graduated from high school with Austyn and their other classmates.

    Planning a lifetime together

    Fast forward a few more years…living in their home in Washington, being together day to day, preparing for the rest of their life together. Who wouldn’t want to be part of their wedding day?! Austyn and Marisa LOVE to laugh and its infectious. They are also kind and so in love with one another. Over the months of planning their ceremony, I saw multiple examples of this, but one I want to share here is so sweet. You see, Marisa had always wanted a pearl necklace so Austyn made that dream a reality on their wedding day. With the most beautiful, tender hearted note for his beloved, he gifted Marisa with a lovely strand of pearls. Marisa wore them on their wedding day and Austyn saw them around her neck for the first time as she walked up the aisle.

    Austyn’s tender hearted gift to his beloved. “You are without a doubt, the most gorgeous woman I have ever met. I got you this as a symbol of your forever timeless beauty <3.” PC Abby Muir Photography at Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate

    Austyn and Marisa – their day…

    The day of their wedding was a gorgeous September day in Eastern Washington…beautiful sunshine and not too hot. The venue, Roberts Mansion, is a 120+ year old historic mansion located in the Brown’s Addition of Spokane, Washington. It has a stunning, walled garden (back yard) perfect for elopements, weddings and other events that need a little shade and privacy. Marisa had always wanted to have a wedding here.

    Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate, Spokane, Washington. PC Abby Muir Photography.
    The ceremony arbor in the walled back garden at Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate, Spokane. PC Abby Muir Photography.

    There were actually several things that stood out to me during this ceremony and because I couldn’t choose just one, I decided to include all the ones that are STILL standing out in my mind.

    First Reflection – a beautiful “Boho” paradise

    First, the incredible detail and beautiful design and decoration of this wedding still stand out to me. Marisa’s mom worked with the Coordinator at the Roberts Mansion to transform the event space from a lush, shaded back yard into a beautiful, romantic, “boho” paradise. The couple had chosen gorgeous autumn colors of forest green, rust and purple as their colors and the wedding party (and most of the guests) dressed in those colors. The effect was truly beautiful and felt just like fall in the Pacific Northwest.

    Forest green, burnt orange and purple boho-style floral arrangement at an autumn Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate wedding. PC Abby Muir Photography
    An autumn-themed, family-style banquet table designed by Marisa’s Mom in the walled garden at Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate. PC Abby Muir Photography.

    Second Reflection – tears of joy

    As the wedding started, the guests were seated. The groom, Austyn was in his spot waiting for his beautiful Marisa. Standing behind him, I could see and feel his nerves as well as the tears of joy as she was escorted up the aisle. Once his best friend and future wife arrived in front of him, they held hands and closed their eyes. I grounded everyone in the moment and then they were ready. They both had tears in their eyes and the very biggest of smiles. Talk about a joyful moment for everyone!

    Tears of Joy and smiles all around at Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate. PC Abby Muir Photography.

    As the ceremony progressed, Marisa and Austyn shared their heart-felt, personal vows and exchanged wedding rings with each other.

    Austyn shares his vows with his beloved Marisa at Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate wedding. PC Abby Muir Photography.

    Third Reflection – A tardy guest arrives in the “knick” of time.

    Just as we were getting ready to pronounce Austyn and Marisa married and have them kiss, a late guest arrived and walked straight through the wedding party and up the aisle, taking center stage…

    A tardy guest. PC Abby Muir Photography
    Making his way through the crowd. PC Abby Muir Photography

    Rather than being shocked or irritated by this, our couple thought it was brilliant! Both passionate cat lovers (with three at home), Austyn shouted, “I was hoping he’d come back for the ceremony!” We allowed the tardy but very welcome guest to join the festivities. I then pronounced Austyn and Marisa married, they kissed and as they danced up the aisle, their family and friends stood and cheered!

    The Kiss at Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate. PC Abby Muir Photography.
    Mr. and Mrs. Saunders dance up the aisle after their autumn-themed ceremony at Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate in Spokane, Washington. PC Abby Muir Photography

    Fourth Reflection – Let’s make it Official

    Then…on to what is probably (to me), the most important part of a couple’s wedding ceremony…the part that makes them legally and officially married…the signing of the Marriage Certificate. Don’t get me wrong – as your Celebrant, I am all about the ceremony, the vows, the ring exchange AND the pronouncement in front of family, friends and witnesses. However, I also believe that as a couple, you are making a legal commitment to one another, so the signing of the certificate is just as important as the rest. I loved that they were both so happy to sign the ‘paperwork’. Look at that smile on Austyn’s face.

    Signing the Marriage Certificate upstairs in the bridal suite at Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate – now it’s official! PC Abby Muir Photography

    Thank you, Mr. and Mrs. Saunders for the honor of celebrating your magical autumn wedding. It was truly a joy filled day! I wish you both (and now little Master Saunders) daily celebrations of love for a lifetime.

    The Wedding Team

    A quick note about the venue:

    Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate – Spokane’s Historic Bed, Breakfast & Event Center – www.ejrobertsmansion.com
    The 24-room mansion was built in 1889, and was one of Spokane’s premiere homes. Featuring granite window trim, spindle work in the gables and a prominent turret, the Mansion is one of the best examples of Queen Anne architecture in Spokane. Seasonally, the gardens are lush and worthy of a park-like stroll. Inside you will find beautifully appointed suites complete with antique furnishings, private balconies, claw-foot tubs, and modern amenities. Roberts Mansion is also conveniently located just one block from local restaurants and bars, a 3-minute walk from the Northwest Museum of Arts and Culture, and a 5-minute walk to downtown Spokane. With its rich history and romantic charm, The Roberts Mansion + Urban Estate is the perfect setting for your next elopement, wedding or other celebratory or even corporate event.

    And the Photographer:

    Abby Muir Photography – http://www.abbymuirphotography.com/
    Abby is an elopement + wedding photographer living in Spokane Washington with her husband, their dog, Blu and the two gorgeous little humans. They love spending time in the outdoors and enjoying all the amazing views the Pacific Northwest has to offer. While Spokane is Abby’s home base, she also loves to travel and visit new places so don’t fret if you’re not close by!

    Photo credit Roxanne Best

    Finally about Chanelle:

    Chanelle Carlin is a Washington State Elopement and Intimate Wedding Officiant and Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest and Ireland primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry (especially Spokane). As your Celebrant for Life, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest.