A Celebration in Nature

Reflections on Jacob and Sydney’s Relaxed Elopement Ceremony at Washington Pass Overlook

A Day in Nature’s Embrace

There’s something profoundly magical about officiating a wedding in the heart of nature. On October 1, 2024, I had the honor of officiating Jacob and Sydney’s intimate and relaxed elopement ceremony at the breathtaking Washington Pass Overlook in Okanogan County, WA. As the leaves began their autumn transformation and the majestic peaks stood sentinel over the moment, love truly took center stage…a celebration in nature.

A Couple Who Cherished Simplicity

From the moment I met Jacob and Sydney, it was clear they were a couple who cherished simplicity and authenticity. Their vision for the day was heartfelt and stress-free. Their choice of Washington Pass Overlook reflected their deep appreciation for natural beauty. This location, with its sweeping vistas and serene ambiance, provided the perfect backdrop for their love story.

Sweeping vistas of Washington Pass Overlook, North Cascades, Okanogan County, WA. Photo Courtesy of The Foxes Photography

A Windy Adventure with Thoughtful Details

Typically Autumn in the Pacific Northwest, it was quite a windy day, and the temperatures were cooling down. At times, we all felt a bit blown about, but the weather added an element of adventure to the occasion. Jacob, ever thoughtful, brought a new blanket for Sydney to wear around her shoulders so she wouldn’t be cold. She wore it off and on throughout the day. It was truly a touching symbol of his care and love for Sydney.

Honoring a Beloved Mother

Though Sydney’s mom passed away a number of years ago, she found a heartfelt way to include her memory in the day. Attached by a ribbon to her bouquet was a charm with a photo of her mom, a beautiful reminder that her presence was felt in spirit.

Bride holding bouquet with photo charm to honor mother who has passed away.
Photo courtesy of The Foxes Photography

Capturing Every Moment

Hannah Aspen, the incredibly talented photographer from The Foxes Photography, captured every moment with an artistic eye. Her ability to frame the vast landscapes while highlighting the tender moments between Jacob and Sydney was nothing short of extraordinary. As the golden sunlight filtered through the trees, Hannah worked her magic, ensuring their memories were immortalized in breathtaking detail. This is the second elopement I’ve been fortunate to work with Hannah on and I look forward to more opportunities in the future. Looking at the photos even now, I feel like I am right there.

A Ceremony Filled with Love

Jacob’s parents and Sydney’s best friend, along with her husband, were present to witness the ceremony. The intimacy of the gathering added a layer of warmth and connection that is often lost in larger celebrations. Their joy and love for the couple were palpable, enhancing the beauty of the occasion.

Officiant, couple and witnesses asking God's blessings during Autumn elopement in the mountains.
Asking God’s blessings on their ceremony and their marriage. Photo courtesy of The Foxes Photography
Married couple, witnesses and officiant celebrating their new marriage.
I now pronounce you married! Photo courtesy of The Foxes Photography

The ceremony itself was deeply personal, reflecting Jacob and Sydney’s unique journey. Standing before their closest loved ones, they shared heartfelt vows that resonated with authenticity and vulnerability. Every word spoken was a testament to the life they have built together and the future they envision.

A Magical Picnic Celebration

After the ceremony, we all went back down to a picnic table surrounded by trees to sign the marriage certificate and certificates of adoption for their wonderful dogs. Jacob’s mom had created a beautiful picnic luncheon and decorated the table magically. It was a wonderful moment of celebration in nature and connection, filled with laughter, love, and the warmth of family and friends.

A magical picnic to celebrate a truly joyous occasion. Photo courtesy of The Foxes Photography

A Celebration of Pure Love

One of the highlights for me was the relaxed and genuine atmosphere Jacob and Sydney created. There was no rush, no strict timeline—just an organic flow that allowed everyone to fully savor the experience. From shared laughter to quiet, contemplative moments, the day felt like a celebration of love in its purest form.

A celebration of pure love…Photo courtesy of The Foxes Photography

A Reminder of Why I Love What I Do

Jacob and Sydney’s elopement at Washington Pass Overlook reminded me of why I love what I do. As a Professional Wedding Officiant, I have the privilege of witnessing couples step into a new chapter surrounded by love and nature’s beauty. It’s a reminder that the essence of a wedding isn’t in the grandeur but in the authenticity and connection it fosters.

Jacob and Sydney, thank you for trusting me to be a part of your day. Your love is an inspiration, and I am so grateful to have played a small role in your incredible story. Wishing you endless happiness as you continue this journey together!

Bride in white dress, groom in rust-colored suit, holding hands walking into forest of yellowing Larch trees.
Holding hands as they walk off into the forest of Larch trees, happily married. Photo courtesy of The Foxes Photography.

About Chanelle

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Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography

Chanelle Carlin is a Professional Wedding Officiant, Your Celebrant for Life, and the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. With a passion for crafting deeply personal ceremonies, Chanelle helps couples create authentic, meaningful celebrations of love. Whether through intimate elopements, personalized coaching, or VIP retreats, she is dedicated to guiding couples through every step of their journey. Based in the Pacific Northwest, Chanelle draws inspiration from the natural beauty around her and her heartfelt connections with the couples she serves. If this sounds like the type of elopement or intimate wedding for you, reach out to Chanelle today to start the conversation.

How to Create a Lasting Marriage of Love – A Book Review

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Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: Lessons for Lasting Love

At Chanelle Carlin Weddings, we believe marriage is more than a milestone—it’s a journey of partnership, trust, and shared growth. For our clients, who are deeply intentional about building a meaningful life together, understanding how to nurture a lasting marriage is essential.

Dr. John Gottman’s book, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last, is a guide to unlocking the secrets of successful marriages. Based on five decades of research, it offers practical, science-backed tools to strengthen emotional connection and resolve conflicts effectively.

For couples like you—who are blending ambition with the vulnerability of love—this book is a must-read. Whether you’re planning your wedding, writing your vows, or navigating your early years of marriage, Gottman’s insights can empower you to create a fulfilling and resilient partnership.

Let’s explore some of the key lessons and how they can help you build a marriage that not only lasts but thrives.

The Science of a Lasting Marriage of Love

Dr. Gottman’s expertise is rooted in decades of studying couples. Through rigorous observation, he discovered patterns that predict a marriage’s success or failure. His findings emphasize the importance of emotional connection, effective communication, and managing conflict.

Gottman’s work reveals one key truth: happy marriages are built on mutual respect and understanding. These foundational qualities allow couples to navigate challenges with resilience.

The Four Horsemen: Predictors of Divorce

A cornerstone of Gottman’s research is the concept of the “Four Horsemen.” These are behaviors that often signal marital troubles:

  • Criticism: Attacking a partner’s character rather than addressing specific actions.
  • Defensiveness: Refusing to accept responsibility or deflecting blame.
  • Contempt: Expressing disdain or disrespect toward a partner.
  • Stonewalling: Withdrawing or shutting down during conflicts.

These behaviors erode trust and intimacy over time. Recognizing and addressing them is crucial for a thriving relationship and a lasting marriage.

Building a Strong Foundation

A successful, lasting marriage requires effort and intention. Gottman emphasizes these pillars for a strong foundation:

1. Friendship

Friendship forms the core of a healthy marriage. Couples who maintain a strong friendship feel emotionally connected. Spend time together, share interests, and express appreciation for each other.

2. Positive Interactions

Gottman highlights the “magic ratio” of positive to negative interactions. Successful couples have at least five positive interactions for every negative one. Compliments, laughter, and acts of kindness reinforce emotional bonds.

3. Effective Conflict Management

Conflict is inevitable, but how couples handle it matters. Instead of avoiding disagreements, address them respectfully. Practice active listening and seek solutions together.

Navigating Conflict

Healthy conflict management is a recurring theme in Gottman’s work. He identifies two types of conflicts: solvable and perpetual.

  • Solvable Conflicts: These involve specific issues that can be resolved with compromise. For example, deciding how to split household chores.
  • Perpetual Conflicts: These stem from fundamental differences, like values or personality traits. Couples should aim to understand and accept these differences.

Use soft start-ups to initiate discussions and avoid blame. Express your needs without attacking your partner.

Strengthening Emotional Connection

Emotional intimacy is the heartbeat of a strong marriage. Gottman advises couples to make time for meaningful connection.

1. Create Shared Rituals

Develop routines that foster togetherness. This could include weekly date nights or morning coffee chats.

2. Express Gratitude

Regularly acknowledge your partner’s contributions. Simple gestures of appreciation strengthen trust.

3. Stay Curious

Ask open-ended questions to understand your partner deeply. Show genuine interest in their dreams and challenges.

The Importance of Repair Attempts in a Lasting Marriage of Love

Repair attempts are efforts to de-escalate tension during conflicts. A joke, apology, or affectionate gesture can diffuse negativity. Gottman’s research shows that successful couples value and respond to these efforts.

Practice forgiveness and focus on solutions. This mindset helps partners navigate disagreements without resentment.

How to Make Your Marriage Last

Dr. Gottman’s advice isn’t about perfection. It’s about commitment, kindness, and growth. Here are practical tips to make your marriage last:

  • Prioritize Your Relationship: Dedicate time and energy to nurture your bond.
  • Communicate Openly: Share thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment.
  • Celebrate Successes Together: Support each other’s achievements and milestones.
  • Seek Help When Needed: Don’t hesitate to consult a therapist for guidance.

Final Thoughts: Building a Lasting Marriage That Reflects Your Values

At Chanelle Carlin Weddings, we understand that your marriage is an extension of who you are as a couple—your values, dreams, and shared vision for the future. Dr. Gottman’s insights provide a framework for creating a relationship that reflects those aspirations.

Applying these principles takes intention, but the rewards are transformative. A strong, lasting marriage is one where you feel seen, supported, and celebrated. It’s a relationship that evolves with you, fostering both stability and spontaneity.

As you prepare for this exciting chapter, consider how you can integrate these strategies into your relationship. Let your wedding vows reflect not just your love today but your commitment to growing together tomorrow.

How will you make your marriage a reflection of your values and dreams? If you’d like help crafting personal vows or want guidance as you navigate this journey, we’re here for you. Let’s start creating the love story you’ll be proud to share for a lifetime.

Comment below with your thoughts or reach out—we’d love to hear your story!

About Chanelle

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Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography

Chanelle Carlin is a Professional Wedding Officiant, coach, and Your Celebrant for Life. With a deep commitment to helping couples build intentional, lasting relationships, Chanelle offers personalized ceremonies and guidance that celebrate your unique love story.

Through her coaching and officiating, Chanelle creates a space where couples can reflect on their journey and prepare for a meaningful future together. She blends romance with authenticity, ensuring every moment reflects your values and vision.

When Chanelle isn’t officiating ceremonies or offering expert relationship advice, she hosts her podcast, Now You May Kiss, where she shares insights and inspiration for couples at every stage of their journey. Chanelle is here to support your love story—not just on your wedding day, but for a lifetime.

Week 50: Fa La La La – Love during the holidays

52 Tips to Say I Love You

Chestnuts roasting on an open fire, shop before the stores all close. Yuletide carols sung with those you admire, and gifts wrapped up in pretty bows.— Stephen Arterburn and Carl Dreizler (52 Simple Ways to Say I Love You).”

The holiday season—Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa—is upon us, and what better time to say “I love you” than during this magical time of year? Beyond the traditional gift-giving, there are countless ways to make your loved ones feel extra special while embracing the spirit of the holidays. Let’s explore some heartfelt gestures and creative ideas that will fill your holiday season with warmth and connection.

Celebrate Your Loved Ones

Here are a few simple ways to make this season meaningful for the people closest to you:

  • Take charge of holiday shopping—Promise to do most (or all!) of the gift buying, easing their holiday stress.
  • Volunteer as the gift-wrapper—Wrap all the gifts with care (bonus points if you can wrap gifts addressed to you without peeking!).
  • Plan a holiday light adventure—Drive around to see dazzling displays in your community. Even better, walk around your neighborhood to enjoy the lights and get to know your neighbors. 🙂 A fun adventure for the kids (and parents) is to check out a local zoo lights event.
  • Cook the celebration meal—Take the lead in the kitchen and surprise everyone with a delicious feast.
  • Host a festive evening at home—Invite friends or family over to sing carols, watch holiday movies, or play games and share stories of favorite holiday memories.
  • Embrace the magic of snow—Build a snowman or have a snowball fight for a playful afternoon together.
  • Create cozy moments—Roast chestnuts, pop corn in the fireplace, or sip hot cocoa by the fire.
  • Plan a surprise visit—Reconnect with loved ones you haven’t seen in a while to share the joy of the season.
  • Holiday Music brings great joy – if your loved one loves music, why not treat them to a local concert or afternoon of orchestral music.

Share the Joy with Others

This season is a wonderful time to extend love beyond your immediate circle. Consider making the holidays brighter for those in need:

  • Support a local family—Contact a church or social service organization to adopt a family in need. Provide gifts, holiday meals, or even a tree with ornaments.
  • Volunteer at a shelter—Help cook, serve meals, or simply spend time with individuals or families experiencing homelessness.
  • Visit seniors—Reach out to local senior housing communities to share stories, sing songs, or bring small gifts to brighten their days. Many of these folks no longer have families living nearby and love meeting new folks.

Show Love to Animals and Nature

For animal lovers and outdoor enthusiasts, the holidays provide a perfect opportunity to give back:

  • Volunteer at a pet shelter—Spend time with animals in need of care or donate supplies to support their well-being.
  • Donate to wildlife organizations—Help protect local ecosystems and species by contributing to a conservation group.
  • Support parks and trails—Donate or volunteer for trail maintenance, sign repairs, or youth nature education programs. Partner with local tree farms to assist families or elderly individuals in finding and cutting their perfect tree.

Honor Our Service Members

Show gratitude to those who serve and protect by spreading holiday cheer to military families and veterans:

  • Support military families—Contact family support organizations at nearby bases to see how you can help during the holidays.
  • Send care packages overseas—Work with the USO or other groups to send gifts and letters to service members far from home.
  • Volunteer with veterans’ organizations—Spend time with veterans in your community or donate to groups that provide holiday support.

Get Creative

The beauty of the holidays is that there’s no limit to the ways you can express love. Here are some questions to inspire even more ideas:

  • What are the traditions or activities your loved ones cherish most?
  • How can you bring joy to someone who may be feeling lonely or left out this season?
  • What talents or resources do you have that could make someone’s holiday brighter?

Let’s use this festive time to share love, kindness, and gratitude—not just with those closest to us, but with everyone we meet. What are some ways you plan to say “I love you” this holiday season?

About Chanelle

Chanelle Carlin has always had a special place in her heart for the holiday season. From twinkling lights to the nostalgic scent of evergreen and spiced cider, she finds joy in the traditions that bring people together. Chanelle believes the holidays are the perfect time to say “I love you” in meaningful ways. Some include thoughtful acts of kindness, shared moments with loved ones, or giving back to the community.

As the founder of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, Chanelle’s love for the season extends to holiday weddings. She treasures the unique magic of winter ceremonies. Love shines brightly against the backdrop of snowy landscapes and cozy celebrations. Her mission is to help couples create intimate, heartfelt moments that reflect their story and values.

This holiday season, embrace the spirit of love, with everyone around you. Discover more ways to celebrate love or reach out to Chanelle to help make your holiday wedding dreams come true.

Camera Sly

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“Using photos from your past and captions you have written, give a memory that will last when older you’ll be gettin’.” – Stephen Arterburn and Carl Dreizler

Camera Sly – The Concept

Have you ever noticed how a simple photo can transport you back in time? Whether it’s a graduation shot, a wedding day memory, or a silly childhood moment, these snapshots are so much more than images—they’re touchstones of love, joy, and connection.


Grandchildren understand this instinctively. My great-nephew Ro has been creating pictures for his GGPa (Great Grandpa) for years. GGPa’s fridge has become an ever-evolving gallery of Ro’s artwork, a tangible expression of love that rotates with every new masterpiece. But you don’t have to be a child or a grandparent to use photos to say, “I love you.”


This week’s inspiration comes from 52 Simple Ways to Say ‘I Love You’ by Stephen Arterburn and Carl Dreizler, a treasure trove of creative and heartfelt ideas for showing affection. In their “Camera Sly” chapter, the authors highlight how pairing photos with personal captions can create lasting keepsakes that speak volumes about love and connection. With a little imagination, you can turn your favorite photos into meaningful gestures that resonate for years to come. You can grab your own copy here or anywhere you like to purchase books, but for now, here are a few ideas to get you started:

1. Create a Scrapbook of Your Times Together

Dig out those amazing photos from your favorite moments and trace your relationship’s journey. Add new captions that make your loved one laugh, cry, or swoon. Presenting this scrapbook is like handing them a tangible story of your shared love.

2. Dive into Childhood Memories

Make a scrapbook from childhood photos—yours, theirs, or both. Add humorous or heartfelt captions like, “Here you are at 9, rocking your mom’s high heels. Pretty then, pretty now,” or “Bob at 11, putting up basketball nets because he was so tall. Nice legs!” It’s an instant trip down memory lane, infused with love.

3. Turn a Favorite Photo into a Poster

Choose a cherished photo of the two of you and have it enlarged into a poster. Add a loving or funny message for a piece of art that’s as personal as it is decorative.

4. Have a Professional Portrait Taken

If your budget allows, schedule a portrait session. A beautifully captured moment together is a gift that will only grow more precious with time. If you’d like help finding a local photographer, email Chanelle. As a professional wedding officiant, she works with some of the most incredible and talented folks.

5. Frame the Favorites

Take a loved one’s favorite photos and have them framed. It’s a thoughtful way to preserve memories they treasure most.

6. Send Photos Regularly to Long-Distance Loved Ones

For parents, grandparents, or anyone far away, sending physical photos regularly helps them feel connected to your life and love.

Camera Sly – Why This Matters

Photos are more than memories—they’re a way of saying, “I love you.” Whether you’re celebrating shared history or bridging the miles, these tangible tokens remind your loved ones of how deeply you care.


So, go ahead—be a little camera sly this week. Let your photos do the talking and watch the love shine through.

About Chanelle

Chanelle Carlin standing in front of lavender bush, holding sunglasses. Logo in top left corner
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography

Chanelle Carlin is the heart behind Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC, where she blends creativity, compassion, and a deep love for storytelling to craft unforgettable moments for couples. From intimate elopements in scenic Washington State to personalized vow-writing sessions, Chanelle’s mission is to help couples celebrate their love in meaningful ways.


As the host of the Now You May Kiss podcast, Chanelle shares insights and inspiration on love, weddings, and everything in between. Whether officiating a wedding, curating a bespoke retreat, or guiding couples through the journey of saying “I do,” Chanelle brings passion and authenticity to every detail.


Explore more at ChanelleCarlin.com and let her help you say “I love you” in unforgettable ways.

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Advertising Your Love – Week 47

Love is a powerful message, and sometimes the best way to express it is to advertise it—literally! Inspired by Carl Dreizler and Stephen Arterburn’s 52 Simple Ways to Say I Love You, this week’s challenge invites you to create a personal ad campaign. The goal is to show your loved one just how much they mean to you in a fun and unique way, by advertising your love.

Creating an ad campaign might sound overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. This isn’t about expensive billboards or flashy commercials. It’s about using everyday tools creatively to spread your message of love. Whether your campaign lasts a day, a week, or even a month, it will leave a lasting impact.

Advertising Your Love – Step 1: Choose Your Media

First, decide how you want to deliver your message. There are so many options:

  • Print Ads: Write love notes and leave them in surprising places like the bathroom mirror or their car.
  • Digital Media: Send sweet texts, emails, or create a series of heartfelt social media posts.
  • Broadcast: Record a voice memo, film a short video, or have a custom song created for your partner. There are songwriting sites AND local songwriters who will work with you to create a personalized song, making this a truly unforgettable gift. If you’d like a recommendation, please reach out to Chanelle.
  • Outdoor Signs: Use sidewalk chalk to write loving messages where they’ll see them.

The possibilities are endless. Use the media your partner will enjoy most.

Step 2: Craft Your Message

Once you’ve chosen your media, focus on creating meaningful and personal messages. These can be lighthearted or deeply emotional, depending on your style. Some examples include:

  • “This just in: You’re the best part of my day, every day.”
  • “Top 5 Reasons I Love You—#1: Your smile makes my heart skip a beat.”
  • “Breaking news: My love for you grows stronger with every passing moment.”

If you’ve opted for a custom song, work with the songwriter to include specific details about your relationship. This makes the song even more meaningful.

Advertising Your Love – Step 3: Plan Your Rollout

Decide on a timeline for your campaign. Will it be a one-day blitz, a week-long lovefest, or a month of little surprises? For a one-day campaign, consider coordinating multiple media. You could start with a love note in their coffee cup, follow with a sweet text at lunch, and end the day with a song recording.

A week-long campaign might involve one message per day. For a month-long effort, focus on spreading out your surprises to keep them guessing.

Why Advertising Your Love Matters

Love thrives on intention and effort. This ad campaign is more than a fun activity. It’s a heartfelt way to remind your partner that they’re seen, valued, and loved. By taking time to craft and share your feelings creatively, you show how much they mean to you.

Advertising your love in this way strengthens your bond and creates unforgettable memories. These small acts of love can make a big difference.

So, what will your campaign look like? Share your creative ideas in the comments below—we’d love to hear how you’re spreading the love!

About Chanelle

Chanelle Carlin standing in front of lavender bush, holding sunglasses. Logo in top left corner
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography

Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM. She is an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant with a passion for celebrating love and life. As the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC, she also coaches couples, believing that every moment of life and love deserves to be cherished. Chanelle works closely with couples who have cultivated strong relationships and ready to embark on the journey of marriage with a unique and unforgettable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, she is dedicated to honoring all of your special milestones. Chanelle is also the host of Now You May Kiss (TM) Podcast. Her podcast focuses on your bespoke, outdoor elopement or intimate wedding Ceremony in the Pacific Northwest. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or on social media on FBLI and IG.

A Friend in Need

Multiply the Love in Week 46: The Simple Act of Helping a Friend in Need

A Friend in Need – Helping Hands with a heart

“When helping someone who’s lonely or someone who is blue, bring your one and only and they’ll feel better too.” – Carl Dreizler and Stephen Arterburn

In today’s fast-paced world, where we’re often wrapped up in the daily grind, it’s easy to overlook how meaningful a small act of kindness can be. Helping a friend or someone in need may seem like a selfless act, but the love you give is often returned to you tenfold. This transformative experience can bring you and your loved one closer while also making a difference in someone’s life. Inspired by Stephen Arterburn and Carl Dreizler’s book, “52 Simple Ways to Say I Love You”, why not take this opportunity to not only help someone in need but also deepen your relationship by working together to make someone else feel truly cared for?

Imagine this: you and your partner selecting someone who may be feeling lonely, disconnected, or overlooked—maybe it’s a friend who’s been going through a tough time, a neighbor facing unexpected challenges, or even a stranger in your community who could use a boost. Offering your time, compassion, and understanding doesn’t have to involve grand gestures. It could be as simple as a coffee date with a friend who’s been feeling down, or perhaps surprising someone with a warm meal. When you make these connections, you create a ripple effect of kindness and compassion that will likely extend far beyond this single act.

Step 1: Select the One in Need

Think carefully about the person who might need a little extra love right now. Consider who in your life may be dealing with a difficult season—such as a friend who’s navigating a recent loss, someone facing health challenges, or a family member who may be feeling isolated. Pay attention to subtle cues: have they been quiet lately? Have they canceled plans more than usual? If no one close to you comes to mind, consider volunteering together at a local shelter or organization that serves those in need. When my mom lived in a memory care residence, my family and I spent a lot of time not just visiting her, but also laughing, talking, dancing and sharing stories with the other residents. Helping someone you don’t know personally can be equally rewarding and can offer a new perspective on gratitude and giving.

Step 2: Find Ways to Make Them Feel Loved and Cared About

Once you’ve chosen someone to reach out to, get creative in planning a way to brighten their day. It doesn’t have to be costly or elaborate. You could cook a homemade meal and deliver it to their doorstep, plan a low-key hangout like a movie night or a walk in a nearby park, or simply spend time with them, offering your listening ear. If the person lives far away, consider writing a heartfelt letter, sending a small gift, or arranging a surprise video call. A gesture as simple as bringing someone their favorite coffee or dessert can be enough to show them that someone cares. Tailor your actions to what would feel most meaningful for them. The goal is to make them feel genuinely seen, loved, and remembered.

Step 3: Reflect and Carry It Forward

After your experience, take time to reflect together. How did it feel to connect with someone in need? What did it mean to your friend or the person you helped? Discuss whether you want to continue doing acts of kindness, individually or as a couple. Perhaps you want to make it a tradition that brings warmth to both you and others.

Multiply the Love during Week 46

Helping someone in need has the power to multiply love and forge connections that benefit everyone involved. So, take this step with your loved one. Reach out to someone who could use a friend, and let the ripple of kindness carry forward. It’s a simple, heartfelt way to spread love, and who knows? It may bring unexpected blessings back to you, too.

About Chanelle

Chanelle Carlin standing in front of lavender bush, holding sunglasses. Logo in top left corner
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography

Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM. She is an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant with a passion for celebrating love and life. As the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC, she also coaches couples, believing that every moment of life and love deserves to be cherished. Chanelle works closely with couples who have cultivated strong relationships and ready to embark on the journey of marriage with a unique and unforgettable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, she is dedicated to honoring all of your special milestones. Chanelle is also the host of Now You May Kiss (TM) Podcast. Her podcast focuses on your bespoke, outdoor elopement or intimate wedding Ceremony in the Pacific Northwest. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or on social media on FBLI and IG.

A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words

Expressing Love Through Art – Tips to Say I Love You for Week 41

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A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words – Week 41

“Van Gogh was quite an artist, from sunflowers to oceans; now you can try your hardest to paint from YOUR emotions.” – Stephen Arterburn and Carl Dreizler (52 Simple Ways to Say I Love you)

Welcome back to our creative journey to show our partner how much we care. This week, we dive into the enchanting world of art as a language of love. Inspired by the insightful words of Stephen Arterburn and Carl Dreizler from their cherished book, “52 Simple Ways to Say, ‘I Love You,’” this week’s activity encourages us to express our deepest emotions through the vibrant medium of art. After all, when words fall short, let your paintbrushes, pencils, or clay do the talking because a “picture is worth a thousand words.”

The Power of Art: Unleashing Emotions

Have you ever stood in front of a masterpiece and pondered the emotions that swirled within the artist’s heart? While analyzing art, we often attempt to unravel the mysteries behind the strokes and colors. But what if we, the so-called ‘non-artists,’ could capture our own emotions on a canvas? Creating art is not just for the Picassos and Van Goghs of the world—it’s an innate form of expression that we’ve all engaged in since childhood.

Crafting Love: Your Personal Art Adventure

This week, embark on a creative adventure with your loved one. Whether you choose to share a studio or work from separate spaces, the joy of this activity lies in the shared experience. Here’s how to start:

  1. Choose an activity that resonates with both of you and gather your art supplies.
  2. Set a time frame—perhaps two hours—and commit to crafting a piece that embodies your love. Remember, it’s about the emotion, not perfection.
  3. Once completed, share your artwork with each other, explaining the thought and emotions behind your creation.

Choosing Your Medium: The Color of Love

The beauty of this activity is the freedom to select your medium. Here are some options to consider:

  • Oil Painting: Share a set of paints but keep your canvases a secret until you’re ready to reveal them.
  • Watercolors: A gentle, versatile option that works beautifully on paper.
  • Finger Painting: Rekindle the carefree spirit of childhood with vibrant, hands-on art.
  • Pastels or Pencil Sketching: Perfect for those who find comfort in the simplicity of pencils or pastels.
  • Clay: Sculpt your story with potter’s clay or playful ‘play-doh.’

The Grand Reveal: Your Art Show

Once your masterpieces are ready, it’s time for the big reveal. Display your creations and dive into a heartfelt conversation. What stories do your pieces tell? What hidden details emerge as you discuss them? Through this artistic exchange, you’ll discover new layers of understanding and appreciation for each other.

Still feeling a little nervous: This is not about perfection; it’s about authentic expression

Remember, this activity is a celebration of love and creativity, a unique way to connect with your partner on a deeper level. So, gather your supplies, set your intentions, and let your heart guide your hand. After all, a picture is worth a thousand words, and in this case, a thousand expressions of love.

About Chanelle

Chanelle Carlin standing in front of lavender bush, holding sunglasses. Logo in top left corner
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography

Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM, an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant with a passion for celebrating love and life. As the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC, she also coaches couples, believing that every moment of life and love deserves to be cherished. Chanelle works closely with couples who have cultivated strong relationships and are ready to embark on the journey of marriage with a unique and unforgettable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, she is dedicated to honoring all of your special milestones. Chanelle is also the host of Now You May Kiss (TM) Podcast, during which she talks about all things related to your bespoke, outdoor elopement or intimate wedding Ceremony in the Pacific Northwest. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or, Pinterest on social media on FBLI and IG.

Making Musical Memories – Tips to say “I Love You” for week 40

When simply saying “I Love You” isn’t enough, or when the right words elude you, consider these ideas and tips from the book “52 Simple Ways to Say ‘I Love You'” by Stephen Arterburn and Carl Dreizler, published by Thomas Nelson Publishers in 1991. This week, we explore unique ways to express love through music and create lasting musical memories. This week’s featured image is courtesy of Tetiana Photography.

“Top 40” for Week 40

“Choose some songs, your favorite hits – From ‘Sunny’ to ‘Stormy Weather.’ Act as DJ, use your wits. Then, put it all together.” – Stephen Arterburn, Carl Dreizler

The Idea – Making Musical Memories

Music has been humanity’s love language for centuries, a universal way to say “I love you.” Here are some fun and heartfelt ways to weave music into your moments together:


Creating Musical Memories – Make a mixed tape, cd, MP3 or private YouTube Channel

Compile a mixtape, CD, MP3 playlist, or even a private YouTube channel filled with songs that hold special meaning for you and your loved one. Enhance the experience by adding a narrative for each track, explaining where you first heard it or why it’s significant. Play this collection when you’re together and savor their reactions. My husband Bill and I have a unique tradition: we continuously update a shared YouTube channel with songs the other hasn’t heard before. It’s a fun way to explore new music together.


Creating Musical Memories – Attend a musical play or movie together

Check out a local community theater or a major performing arts center and enjoy a musical together. Purchase the soundtrack in advance so you can sing along on the way home. Here in Omak, the Omak Performing Arts Center puts on incredible shows every spring. One of my favorites was “The Music Man.”


Creating Musical Memories – Write a love song

You don’t need to be a Beethoven or Lennon/McCartney to write a love song. Pen new lyrics to the tune of a popular song that resonates with your relationship. This personal touch can be incredibly touching. One of my cherished high school memories is receiving handwritten songs from a boyfriend.


Creating Musical Memories – Go to a concert

Find out who your partner’s favorite artist is and grab tickets—even if it’s not your usual genre. Experiencing their joy can make the event special for you, too.


Creating Musical Memories – Gift their favorite music

If attending a concert isn’t feasible, gifting a tape or CD of their favorite performer is a thoughtful alternative. It’s a wonderful way to enjoy their most loved tunes together, even from the comfort of home.

Creating musical memories together can strengthen your bond and provide a soundtrack to your shared experiences. So, go ahead, be the DJ of your love story!

About Chanelle

Chanelle Carlin standing in front of lavender bush, holding sunglasses. Logo in top left corner
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography

Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM, an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant with a passion for celebrating love and life. As the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC, she also coaches couples, believing that every moment of life and love deserves to be cherished. Chanelle works closely with couples who have cultivated strong relationships and are ready to embark on the journey of marriage with a unique and unforgettable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, she is dedicated to honoring all of your special milestones. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or on social media on FBLI and IG.

A Summer Lake Chelan Wedding at Siren Song Winery

Celebrating Emily and Jared with a sweet ceremony

On a sunny late July afternoon, the picturesque Siren Song Winery played host to the enchanting Lake Chelan wedding of Emily and Jared with the support of Erin Petersen of Ellie Haisch Wedding and Events and an all-star team of wedding pros. Nestled amidst rolling vineyards and offering breathtaking views of the lake, the winery provided the perfect backdrop for a day of celebration filled with love, laughter, and cherished memories.

Lake Chelan Wedding at Siren Song Winery: The Ceremony Begins

As guests found their seats, the melody of “Stand By Me” by Ben E. King set the tone for the heartfelt, yet fun ceremony that was about to unfold. Emily and Jared’s Officiant, Chanelle stood poised and ready, welcoming the gathering with a warm smile.

Jared, the groom, made his entrance by escorting his proud parents to their seats before taking his place up front. The procession of Jared’s attendants followed, each offering a hug or handshake, a testament to the camaraderie and support surrounding the groom.

Jared escorting his parents to their seats. Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography

Wedding Attendants Extraordinaire

Jared and his attendants, (aka best mates, brothers in arms) at Siren Song Winery. Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography
Emily with her attendants and Mom, Kim at Siren Song Winery. Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography

Jared’s friends, Jacob, Nate, Darryl, Andrew, Matt, and Adam, joined him at the altar, each one standing by his side, reflecting the strength of their bonds. Next, Emily’s attendants entered gracefully, led by Nancy and followed by Jenna, Matron of Honor Katie, and Maid of Honor Jonnica, each taking their places with elegance and poise.

Emily’s Grand Entrance

Emily’s Grand (yet sweet and relaxed) Entrance with her mom, Kim. Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography

As the first notes of “Can’t Help Falling in Love” by Elvis Presley began to play softly, all eyes turned to face Emily. Accompanied by her mom, Kim, she walked through the doors, radiating beauty, joy and fun. Officiant Chanelle signaled for them to pause near the front row, where a heartfelt moment of gratitude and a tender hug were shared. Jared then stepped forward, escorting Emily the final steps to the ceremony spot, where she handed her flowers to Matron of Honor, Katie and took Jared’s hands.

With the couple facing each other, Officiant Chanelle invited everyone to join in a calming breathing exercise, grounding Emily and Jared in the significance of the moment. With serene smiles and nerves settled, they were ready to begin.


Chanelle welcomed the guests and offered a blessing before acknowledging the family and friends who had come to celebrate. Once guests were seated, a moment of remembrance was held for Emily and Jared’s grandparents.

“Lord, we thank you for this amazing day, for the gift of Jared and Emily and for the gift of their love in our lives.” Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photograhy

The ceremony continued with the reading of “Love Is Friendship Set on Fire” by Laura Hendricks, which beautifully transitioned into the couple’s love story. Chanelle recounted their journey from their first date at Washington State University in January 2017, through the milestones of moving in together and raising a puppy, to the deep, enduring love that brought them to their wedding day above Lake Chelan.

The Vows and Rings

With words inspired by Wendell Berry, Officiant Chanelle explained the meaning of marriage and asked the couple for their declaration of intent. Their affirmations were heartfelt and clear: “It is!”


The vows were exchanged, each word a promise of unwavering support and love. Jared’s brother, Jacob presented the rings, which were “warmed” by the couple before being exchanged, symbolizing the eternal nature of their commitment (and making them easier to slide on their fingers).

May you wear them with deep abiding faith in one another always and forever: Emily and Jared “warming the rings.” Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography

Final Blessing and Pronouncement

Chanelle offered a final blessing and a heartfelt wish for Emily and Jared’s future together. With a discreet prompt, she ensured the couple was ready for the moment everyone had been waiting for.


By the power vested in me,” Chanelle declared, “I now pronounce you married. Now You May Kiss!”


As Emily and Jared shared their first kiss as a married couple, the guests erupted in cheers, capturing the joy and excitement of the occasion.

Now You May Kiss. Jared and Emily share a kiss at their Lake Chelan Wedding under the arch overlooking the lake at Siren Song Winery. Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography

The Presentation

Beaming, Emily and Jared turned to face their guests, Jared took Emily’s hand in his and their photographer Svetlana captured their beautiful smiles. The guests were invited to stand once again and with genuine honor and pleasure, Chanelle introduced the newlyweds for the first time as Mr. and Mrs. Nichols!

The guests cheered enthusiastically once again.

The Recessional

FINALLY! Mr. and Mrs. Nichols are married surrounded by the love of family and friends. Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography.

To the upbeat tune of “Then He Kissed Me” by The Crystals, Emily and Jared sauntered back up the aisle, stopping quickly for a dip and kiss and surrounded by the cheers and applause of their loved ones. Their attendants followed in joyful procession, each one sharing in the couple’s happiness.

Signing the Marriage License

In the privacy of the Blue Room, Emily, Jared, and their witnesses, including Officiant Chanelle, signed the marriage license, making everything official. Svetlana, the photographer, captured the intimate moments, preserving the memories of this special day.

A Celebration to Remember

As guests moved to the cocktail hour, the newlyweds took a moment to themselves, reflecting on the ceremony and looking forward to the celebrations ahead. With the formalities complete, it was time to join their family and friends and create even more lasting memories.


Emily and Jared’s Lake Chelan wedding at Siren Song Winery was a beautiful testament to their love and commitment. Surrounded by the people who matter most to them, they embarked on their journey as husband and wife, ready to face the future together with hearts full of joy and love.

Emily and Jared’s Amazing Lake Chelan Wedding Team:

WEDDING PLANNER:
Erin Petersen, Ellie Haisch Wedding + Events

OFFICIANT:
Chanelle Carlin, Chanelle Carlin Weddings

VENUES:
Siren Song Winery (Wedding Day)
Tsillan Cellars (Rehearsal Dinner)

CATERING
Siren Song Winery
Deb’s Delights, Desserts
Sorrento’s Restaurant at Tsillan Cellars (Rehearsal Dinner)

PHOTOGRAPHER
Svetlana Sauer, Svetlana Sauer Photography

FLOWERS:
Flowers on the Wall (Arch)
Something Borrowed Blooms (Bouquets)

HAIR AND MAKEUP:
Beauty in a Box

DJ:
Jed // JMG, DJ

SHUTTLE SERVICE:
Kokopelli’s Run

HOTELS:
Campbell’s/Midtowner
Grandview
Lakeside Lodge

LINEN SERVICE:
BBJ La Tavola

About Chanelle

Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography

Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM. She is an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant (she especially loves celebrating Lake Chelan Weddings). Chanelle is also a coach and the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. She believes life and love should be celebrated every minute. Chanelle collaborates with couples who have built strong relationships over the years. They are now ready to venture into marriage with a custom, memorable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, Chanelle celebrates all your special milestones. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or on social media on FBLI and IG.

Why Wedding Ceremonies Matter

The question is – Why do Wedding Ceremonies Matter?

In a world that no longer requires couples to be married (for the most part), one question I ask all my couples is “Why?” “Why do you want to get married?” A wedding is beautiful, sure, but marriage (even to your best friend) can be tough. There are many things that can crop up during the course of two people’s lives. So, before I commit to being a couple’s officiant and their Celebrant for Life (TM), I ask the hard question. Their answer is never about the event, and rarely about the practicalities like mortgages or insurance. It is usually about wanting to share their life loving and supporting their other person. These couples want to start that official phase of their relationship surrounded by the people most important to them. That’s really the crux of it.

Wedding ceremonies (regardless of size) transcend mere formality. They are exquisite celebrations of love, commitment, and the dawn of a beautiful, shared journey. These ceremonies have been cherished cornerstones of human culture for centuries, gracefully weaving through geographical boundaries and societal norms. Please join me in exploring the profound significance of wedding ceremonies. We’ll delve into some cherished traditions they uphold and the deep emotional connections they foster.

The Historical Significance of Wedding Ceremonies:

Wedding ceremonies boast rich historical roots, stretching back to ancient civilizations. These sacred events have played pivotal roles in forging social bonds, alliances, and the continuity of family lineages. Across many cultures, weddings were not merely personal celebrations but grand communal events that reinforced social structures and traditions. Understanding this historical context underscores the enduring importance of wedding ceremonies in shaping societies and preserving our treasured cultural heritage.

Wedding Ceremonies matter because they are a Celebration of Love and Commitment.

At the heart of every wedding ceremony lies the joyous celebration of love and commitment between two souls. This public declaration is a powerful affirmation of the couple’s devotion to each other. Vows exchanged during the ceremony are symbolic promises to support, cherish, and stand by one another through life’s challenges and triumphs. This profound commitment is not only a personal milestone but also an inspiring testament to all who witness the union. During one wedding a few years ago, the bride’s grandparents came to speak to me after the ceremony. They had been married for more than 70 years and claimed to love one another as much that day as on their wedding day.

The Role of Traditions and Rituals in Wedding Ceremonies:

Traditions and rituals infuse wedding ceremonies with layers of meaning and symbolism. Whether it’s rings, unity candles, or cultural customs, these rituals connect couples to their heritage and community. They offer continuity and belonging, reminding us we are part of a larger, beautiful tapestry of human experience. These cherished traditions also provide a sacred structure to the ceremony, making it a truly memorable occasion.

Over the years, I have been honored to help couples incorporate a variety of rituals and traditions into their ceremonies. For example, I recently officiated a ceremony that included a traditional Sugar Veil ritual. For those who are unfamiliar with this Persian wedding tradition, that’s ok. I was too. For the Sugar Veil ritual, the couple are seated, and the women closest to them come forward. In this case, it was their mothers and the groom’s sister. The mothers held a specially chosen veil above the couple’s heads. The groom’s sister, rubbed two sugar cones above the veil, sprinkling sugar on the couple’s heads. Now their lives will be forever filled with sweetness.

Another beautiful ritual happened at the wedding shown in the photo at the beginning of this article. Their’s was a multicultural wedding that blended the bride’s Jewish faith and the groom’s Catholic background. The bride’s parents and grandfather sang the Shabat (Seven Blessings) in Hebrew. At the same time, the couple danced a circle dance to symbolically build their house.

wedding ceremonies matter - couple incorporating cultural traditions into their wedding.
Lillian and Michael symbolically creating their house during the singing of the Seven Blessings. Photo courtesy of Tetiana Photography.

Wedding Ceremonies Matter because they help create lasting memories.

Wedding ceremonies are often regarded as one of life’s most memorable days. The emotions, joyous gatherings, and shared moments create timeless memories for the couple and their loved ones. The ceremony itself becomes a cherished story, recounted and celebrated in the years to come. These lasting memories serve as a foundational cornerstone for the couple’s relationship. It reminds them of their love and the unwavering support of their community. Couples to tell me years after their wedding, that their ceremony was the most memorable part of their day.

Wedding Ceremonies Matter because they help strengthening family and community bonds.

Weddings have the magical ability to bring together families, friends, and communities, fostering a sense of unity and togetherness. The ceremony provides a beautiful opportunity for families to merge. It also allows old friends to reconnect, and new relationships to blossom. This gathering of loved ones enhances the couple’s support network and strengthens the social fabric of the community. The shared experience of the wedding ceremony reinforces the bonds that hold us all together.

Wedding Ceremonies Matter because they allow couples to express their personalities and creativity.

Modern wedding ceremonies offer couples a wonderful chance to express their unique personalities and love stories. Some couples express themselves through choosing a picturesque venue. For others, it is selecting meaningful readings and music. For many, it is a combination of both. Every detail of the ceremony can be elegantly tailored to reflect the couple’s values and preferences. This personal expression adds depth and authenticity to their ceremony. Incorporating their personalities makes their ceremony a true reflection of their beautiful journey and aspirations. This is one of my favorite parts of being an Officiant.

Why Weddings Matter - couple standing at their picturesque locale
Intimate Family Wedding at Tipsoo Lake, Mount Rainier. Photo courtesy of Emilee Setting Photography

Wedding Ceremonies Matter because they impact us emotionally.

The emotional impact of a wedding ceremony is simply unparalleled. The joy, tears, laughter, and heartfelt speeches create an atmosphere of love and connection. For the couple, it is a moment of profound emotional significance, marking the beginning of their life together. For guests, it is a chance to share in the couple’s joy and reflect on their own relationships. This emotional resonance is what makes wedding ceremonies so powerful and meaningful. During a recent ceremony, the bride and groom asked their sisters to read some poetry. One of the sisters was so overwhelmed by emotion she found it difficult to start.

Wedding Ceremonies Matter because they are elegant celebrations of love.

Wedding ceremonies matter because they are elegant celebrations of love, testaments to commitment, and bridges between past, present, and future. They bring people together, create lasting memories, and uphold cherished traditions. Our world is constantly evolving. The enduring significance of wedding ceremonies reminds us of the timeless value of love and connection. As we honor these ceremonies, we honor the very essence of what it means to be human.

At Chanelle Carlin Weddings, we help you celebrate your unique, one-of-a-kind love story with an elegant, custom ceremony. I promise that you’ll cherish it forever. If you would like to chat with Chanelle about your wedding, click here.

Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography

About Chanelle:

Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM. She is an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant. Chanelle is also a coach and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. She believes life and love should be celebrated every minute. Chanelle collaborates with couples who have built strong relationships over the years. They are now ready to venture into marriage with a custom, memorable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, Chanelle celebrates all your special milestones. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or on social media on FB, LI and IG.