Planning a wedding is often a beautiful journey filled with excitement, joy, and love—but let’s be honest, it can also come with a lot of pressure to do things a certain way. If you’ve ever felt boxed in by outdated traditions or wedding day “rules,” you’re not alone. Read below to see how my guest, Chris Shelley, and I do some serious debunking of Wedding Ceremony Myths.
This week on the Now You May Kiss™ Podcast, I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with the hilarious, wise, and deeply heartfelt Chris Shelley—a professional wedding officiant, Certified Life-Cycle Celebrant, speaker, and the author of Best. Ceremony. Ever. Chris is known for creating refreshingly honest, personal, and often laugh-out-loud ceremonies for couples who want their wedding day to feel just right for them.
A Conversation Full of Laughter, Love, and Real Talk
Chris and I got real about some of the most common wedding ceremony myths that couples still feel obligated to follow—even at modern, non-traditional weddings! And let me tell you, this was no dry checklist conversation. It was funny, sometimes a little irreverent, and always packed with love and wisdom.
Whether you’re planning a black-tie celebration or a cozy destination elopement, this episode will inspire you to rethink what’s “traditional” and step fully into what’s true for you.
7 Wedding Ceremony Myths We Officially Debunked
Here are just a few wedding ceremony myths Chris and I joyfully busted during our conversation:
“You can’t see each other before the ceremony.” Yes, you can—and for some couples, a first look or private moment before the ceremony brings calm, connection, and a sense of sacred intimacy.
“Weddings always start late.” Not if you don’t want them to! With a well-planned timeline and an experienced officiant and planner, your ceremony can begin exactly when it’s meant to.
“The officiant must stand between you during your vows.” Not true! Chris and I both agree—stepping aside during your vows creates a more powerful, connected moment for you and your guests.
“You have to sign your marriage license after the ceremony.” Actually, you can sign before, DURING or after—it all depends on what feels best for your flow of the day. Spoiler alert, signing before or during your ceremony allows you just to get to the celebrating all the more quickly afterward.
“Outdoor weddings must go on outdoors—no matter the weather.” You and your guests deserve to be comfortable and safe. A stunning backup plan isn’t a failure—it’s good design.
“You need a large wedding party.” You don’t need 14 people in matching outfits to feel supported. A meaningful ceremony can be intimate, relaxed, and still elegant.
“Personal vows should be kept private.” We say: if you want to share your heart in front of your loved ones, do it. That’s where the magic lives.
Why This Matters for Your Wedding Ceremony
If you’re a couple who values intentionality, authenticity, and unforgettable moments, then these myth-busting truths will help you confidently shape a ceremony that reflects your real love story—not someone else’s expectations.
Regardless of budget, your ceremony deserves to be a celebration of your hearts, your values, and your journey—crafted with care, creativity, and maybe even a little comedy.
Meet Chris Shelley
Chris Shelley has been crafting beautiful, deeply personal, and yes—sometimes laugh-out-loud funny—wedding ceremonies since 2011. He’s the author of Best. Ceremony. Ever. (W.W. Norton), speaks regularly at Wedding MBA and other top-tier industry events, and is the owner of Illuminating Ceremonies in New York.
If this conversation lit a fire in your heart and you’re dreaming of a wedding ceremony that’s elegant, intentional, and uniquely yours, I would love to help bring your vision to life.
Whether you’re eloping in the mountains of Washington or the Oregon coast, exchanging vows at a private estate in Coeur d’Alene, or planning an unforgettable destination celebration, your ceremony should be as extraordinary as your love.
Let’s create a moment you’ll remember forever—for all the right reasons.
About Chanelle
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
Chanelle Carlin not only hosts the Now You May KissTM Podcast, she is, first and foremost, a Professional Wedding Officiant, Your Celebrant for LifeTM, and the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. With a passion for crafting deeply personal ceremonies, Chanelle helps couples create authentic, meaningful celebrations of love. Whether through intimate elopements, personalized coaching, or VIP retreats, she is dedicated to guiding couples through every step of their journey. Based in the Pacific Northwest, Chanelle draws inspiration from the natural beauty around her and her heartfelt connections with the couples she serves. If this sounds like the type of elopement or intimate wedding for you, reach out to Chanelle today to start the conversation.
Reflections on Jacob and Sydney’s Relaxed Elopement Ceremony at Washington Pass Overlook
A Day in Nature’s Embrace
There’s something profoundly magical about officiating a wedding in the heart of nature. On October 1, 2024, I had the honor of officiating Jacob and Sydney’s intimate and relaxed elopement ceremony at the breathtaking Washington Pass Overlook in Okanogan County, WA. As the leaves began their autumn transformation and the majestic peaks stood sentinel over the moment, love truly took center stage…a celebration in nature.
A Couple Who Cherished Simplicity
From the moment I met Jacob and Sydney, it was clear they were a couple who cherished simplicity and authenticity. Their vision for the day was heartfelt and stress-free. Their choice of Washington Pass Overlook reflected their deep appreciation for natural beauty. This location, with its sweeping vistas and serene ambiance, provided the perfect backdrop for their love story.
Sweeping vistas of Washington Pass Overlook, North Cascades, Okanogan County, WA. Photo Courtesy of The Foxes Photography
A Windy Adventure with Thoughtful Details
Typically Autumn in the Pacific Northwest, it was quite a windy day, and the temperatures were cooling down. At times, we all felt a bit blown about, but the weather added an element of adventure to the occasion. Jacob, ever thoughtful, brought a new blanket for Sydney to wear around her shoulders so she wouldn’t be cold. She wore it off and on throughout the day. It was truly a touching symbol of his care and love for Sydney.
Honoring a Beloved Mother
Though Sydney’s mom passed away a number of years ago, she found a heartfelt way to include her memory in the day. Attached by a ribbon to her bouquet was a charm with a photo of her mom, a beautiful reminder that her presence was felt in spirit.
Photo courtesy of The Foxes Photography
Capturing Every Moment
Hannah Aspen, the incredibly talented photographer from The Foxes Photography, captured every moment with an artistic eye. Her ability to frame the vast landscapes while highlighting the tender moments between Jacob and Sydney was nothing short of extraordinary. As the golden sunlight filtered through the trees, Hannah worked her magic, ensuring their memories were immortalized in breathtaking detail. This is the second elopement I’ve been fortunate to work with Hannah on and I look forward to more opportunities in the future. Looking at the photos even now, I feel like I am right there.
A Ceremony Filled with Love
Jacob’s parents and Sydney’s best friend, along with her husband, were present to witness the ceremony. The intimacy of the gathering added a layer of warmth and connection that is often lost in larger celebrations. Their joy and love for the couple were palpable, enhancing the beauty of the occasion.
Asking God’s blessings on their ceremony and their marriage. Photo courtesy of The Foxes PhotographyI now pronounce you married! Photo courtesy of The Foxes Photography
The ceremony itself was deeply personal, reflecting Jacob and Sydney’s unique journey. Standing before their closest loved ones, they shared heartfelt vows that resonated with authenticity and vulnerability. Every word spoken was a testament to the life they have built together and the future they envision.
A Magical Picnic Celebration
After the ceremony, we all went back down to a picnic table surrounded by trees to sign the marriage certificate and certificates of adoption for their wonderful dogs. Jacob’s mom had created a beautiful picnic luncheon and decorated the table magically. It was a wonderful moment of celebration in nature and connection, filled with laughter, love, and the warmth of family and friends.
A magical picnic to celebrate a truly joyous occasion. Photo courtesy of The Foxes Photography
A Celebration of Pure Love
One of the highlights for me was the relaxed and genuine atmosphere Jacob and Sydney created. There was no rush, no strict timeline—just an organic flow that allowed everyone to fully savor the experience. From shared laughter to quiet, contemplative moments, the day felt like a celebration of love in its purest form.
A celebration of pure love…Photo courtesy of The Foxes Photography
A Reminder of Why I Love What I Do
Jacob and Sydney’s elopement at Washington Pass Overlook reminded me of why I love what I do. As a Professional Wedding Officiant, I have the privilege of witnessing couples step into a new chapter surrounded by love and nature’s beauty. It’s a reminder that the essence of a wedding isn’t in the grandeur but in the authenticity and connection it fosters.
Jacob and Sydney, thank you for trusting me to be a part of your day. Your love is an inspiration, and I am so grateful to have played a small role in your incredible story. Wishing you endless happiness as you continue this journey together!
Holding hands as they walk off into the forest of Larch trees, happily married. Photo courtesy of The Foxes Photography.
About Chanelle
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
Chanelle Carlin is a Professional Wedding Officiant, Your Celebrant for Life, and the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. With a passion for crafting deeply personal ceremonies, Chanelle helps couples create authentic, meaningful celebrations of love. Whether through intimate elopements, personalized coaching, or VIP retreats, she is dedicated to guiding couples through every step of their journey. Based in the Pacific Northwest, Chanelle draws inspiration from the natural beauty around her and her heartfelt connections with the couples she serves. If this sounds like the type of elopement or intimate wedding for you, reach out to Chanelle today to start the conversation.
Survey says forgetting anniversaries is common, but not OK.
I came across an article this morning that says “82% of people (mostly men) have forgotten their anniversary at some point in a relationship and that 68% of people said they’d end a relationship if their partner forgot their anniversary or a special relationship milestone.” It’s an interesting article and shares some useful findings. Here is the link if you want to check it out. You know I like to focus on positives though. So, for our purposes, I thought it might be helpful to look at a few easy tips to remember your wedding anniversary and other relationship milestones.
Two Tips to help you remember your wedding anniversary
Let’s start with just a couple of easy tips to remember your wedding anniversary. Here are two options you might consider:
1) Choose a wedding date that is easy to remember.
Dates that don’t change or that are somehow sequential can help you more easily remember your anniversary. Examples of dates that don’t change are: A holiday that doesn’t change – Halloween, Veteran’s Day, Christmas, New Year’s Eve, Valentine’s Day, St. Patrick’s Day, Flag Day, Juneteenth, Independence Day, Labor Day, etc; Solstice/Equinox dates – you’re looking at one of four (3/21, 6/21, 9/21 or 12/21); Dates with the same month number – 1/1, 2/2, 3/3, 4/4, 5/5, 6/6, 7/7, 8/8, 9/9, 10/10, 11/11, 12/12 (some of these are holidays and one of these is my wedding anniversary); Sequential month/date numbers – 1/2, 2/3, 3/4, 4/5, 5/6 (you get the idea); Double dates – 1/2, 2/4, 3/6, 4/8, 5/10, 6/12, 7/14, 8/16, 9/18, 10/20, 11/22, 12/24; Palindrome dates (April, 2024) – 4/20/24, 4/21/24, 4/22/24, 4/23/24, 4/25/24, 4/26/24, 4/27/24, 4/28/24 and 4/29/24. According to the Farmers Almanac, between 2025 and 2029, each year will have 11 palindrome dates, with 10 being consecutive. These will occur in April in 2024, May in 2025, June in 2026, July in 2027, August in 2028, and September in 2029.
One of Chanelle’s couples celebrating their palindrome wedding at the historic Okanogan County Courthouse in Okanogan, Washington on 12/02/2021. Photo credit: Roxanne Best
2) Celebrate monthaversaries.
This is my personal favorite and I always encourage my couples to do this. We have friends who have been married for nearly 40 years and still celebrate their monthaversaries! Ok, so when is it and how do you celebrate a monthaversary?
Your monthaversary occurs each month on the date that matches the date of your wedding. If you were married on December 12th, your monthaversary is on the 12th of every month. To celebrate your monthaversary, might be something as simple and meaningful like leaving a handwritten note for your loved one, perhaps leaving a card in their lunch, or cooking a special homemade dinner or dessert together. This does two things: it keeps the romance and magic alive throughout the year AND if you’re celebrating every month on the same date (your monthaversary), you’re more likely to remember your anniversary. (And…just as a quick aside, if I’m your wedding officiant, I won’t let you forget. As your Celebrant for LifeTM , I send reminders.)
Three additional tips to help you remember your wedding anniversary and other relationship milestones
3. Set Calendar Reminders to help you remember your anniversaries and birthdays.
“Put anniversary and birthday reminders in your work calendar. Set additional alerts a month and a couple of weeks ahead of time as reminders to buy a card or small gift or to make a reservation. These reminders will help you not only remember the big day but also be prepared for it. If your partner means well and would like to plan something, but is likely to forget the date, you can put reminders in their phone and computer as well, and let technology do the work for you.”
4. Start planning early.
“If you leave things to the last minute, it can be noticeable to your partner, and stressful to you. If you want to avoid disappointing your partner, plan at least a month to a few weeks in advance for a stress-free day.”
5. Incorporate traditions into your anniversary celebrations.
“Incorporate traditions into your anniversary celebrations. If you’re having trouble coming up with something creative, make a plan to do something you remember you both like. For example, go to your favorite bar or restaurant – someplace familiar that you know you’ll both look forward to revisiting.”
OR…
Another, completely different option is to agree together to not celebrate anniversaries at all. If one or both of you have difficulty remembering dates, and a lot of folks do, you can skip trying to remember to celebrate on a specific date and just celebrate your relationship whenever you want to. How fun is that idea? Just make any old day a celebration of your marriage!
Whatever you decide to do, remember to talk about it and decide together. If I can support you in any way, please let me know.
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
About Chanelle
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC and host of the Now You May Kiss Podcast with Chanelle Carlin. Chanelle believes that life and love should be celebrated every minute. She collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, Pinterest.
Chanelle’s take on the non-traditional “non-wedding wedding” trends for 2024
A “non-wedding wedding” photo at the Upper Lake at Conconully, Washington. The gorgeous Bride is wearing her favorite color, purple; groom is wearing shorts, a short-sleeve shirt AND tie and they travelled from rural Iowa (where they left all the family) to rural Washington state to get married. Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
The article that inspired an article that inspired this post
I just received an email this morning from one of my wedding colleagues at Maroo.us about Vogue’s December article claiming that “non-wedding” weddings (non-traditional weddings) are on the rise for 2024 and thought I would share my thoughts about the subject with you too, but rather than copy their article, I’ve attached the link to the Maroo article, Are “non-wedding” weddings on the rise? Here is a roundup of the ins and outs of 2024, written by Prianka Dhir, in case you’d like to read it for yourself.
Who knew officiating non-traditional ceremonies YEARS would make me trendy in 2024?
What struck me as really noteworthy about these articles is that I’ve been doing ‘non-wedding’ weddings here in the Pacific Northwest with my couples for YEARS without even realizing I was setting a new trend! (Yes, I’ve been celebrating marriages for a while now.) I invite you to check out my blog post, What Does a Wedding Officiant Do & Tips from an Officiant For Your Wedding Day. So, what is a “non-wedding wedding”? According to the article referenced above, a “non-wedding wedding” is essentially a non-traditional wedding. They are casual, less formal and characterized by intimate ceremonies, family-style food menus, and in the moment, real-time photography. Couples are realizing that this most important day in their lives (up until this point) can be whatever they want it to be so it looks and feels authentic and reflects their personalities, and they’re often hiring wedding stylists, designers and other professionals to help bring their vision to life. The photo above is from a breezy July intimate family wedding up at Tipsoo Lake at Mount Rainier. Their wedding planner, Katy Warner from Seattle Stunning Events was super organized, found the exact spot on the lake to have the best view of the mountain AND had a rug for us to stand on to create our sacred space for their beautiful, personal and unique ceremony (photo above). Back at the air B&B where they all gathered for their family meal and post ceremony celebrations, once again, Katy had everything organized and beautiful (though also simple and elegant), so Nathan and Lauren just got to relax and enjoy their moments (photo below). Afterwards, our couple headed up the mountain with their flowers, backpacks and sparkling wine for a toast and their photographer to capture some truly breathtaking, intimate and authentically Nate and Lauren moments (second photo below).
“Chanelle is truly a gem – Personable, funny, intelligent, and such a pro at tailoring a memorable ceremony...Our other wedding vendors and our family even commented that Chanelle felt like family, and we could not agree more. It was evident that there was so much careful thought and intention behind each interaction with her.” – L & N (Summer intimate family wedding at Tipsoo Lake in shadow of Mount Rainier)
Some “non-wedding wedding” ideas, Pacific Northwest style
I never realized how much we were ‘bucking the trends’ (or setting them as in the case of this article) with non traditional weddings and elopements and our sustainable practices. For instance, picture sharing your most personal vows with your loved one in the presence of your closest family and friends on a hiking trail on Whidbey Island, or the Hoh Rainforest in Olympic National Park, on a farm in Leavenworth, or maybe you prefer the beach at sunset, or overlooking the Pacific Ocean on San Juan Island or at sunrise on Mount Rainier at Sunrise (can’t get less traditional or “non-wedding-y” than that). For those wanting a ceremony with their closest family and friends and a low key-no worries intimate reception afterwards, wineries offer a great option with beautiful scenery and relaxed, family style meal settings under the stars. Check out my blog post here for some options in Lake Chelan, or as in the case of Lauren and Nathan, you could rent an air B&B and have your wedding planner bring your vision to fruition in the forest. As for sustainable – in the the Pacific Northwest, we’re all about sustainability (recycling, animal welfare, clean water, land conservation and farm to table dining). Not only that, but as individuals we’re also very community minded. I’ve been volunteering in my communities (wherever I have lived) since I was seven years old and my business has been donating a portion of my fees for every wedding to one of six non-profit organizations since 2020. When you book me as your officiant for your custom wedding, you get to choose which of the six organizations, you’d like the donation from your wedding to go. Want another sustainability idea? Did you know that you can donate your wedding flowers to retirement and memory care centers so they can live on and bring joy to others after your wedding? Yep and in North Central Washington, Lilies of the Valley in East Wenatchee, Washington can help you with that.
Soapbox: The reason for the wedding is the WEDDING part – otherwise, it’s just a fancy party.
There is a part of this article which frustrates me a tiny bit (pardon me as I step up on my ‘soapbox’). It is just that most of the trends listed (awesome as they are) focus mostly on the reception and party. The ceremony (you know, the part where you actually share your non-traditional vows with each other –ask me about this– and join together in marriage…) feels like an aside. Why does it frustrate me, you ask? Well, as your Officiant, I am passionate about helping you start your marriage off with a custom, all-about-the-two-of-you, wedding ceremony, which is beautiful, authentic and memorable for all the right reasons. You’re getting married after all. These trends seem to focus less on the getting married part of a wedding, and more on the party part and yet that’s why you’re having the party (or “non-wedding” wedding) – to celebrate your marriage. – (OK – I’m getting off the ‘soapbox’ now)
Chanelle truly helped to make our whole wedding feel like the most special day in the world...she tailored our wedding to completely fit around us, our belief’s, and our family. “ – L & S (Winter air B&B elopement in Leavenworth with only their children as their witnesses).”
You don’t have to do it by yourself.
I remind all of my couples that your wedding is one of the most important days of your life. There is a lot that goes into planning a wedding ceremony (a “non-wedding” wedding or not) and most couples have never done it before so it can feel a bit overwhelming. There are many, many resources available to help alleviate stress, including amazingly talented and committed wedding professionals. The most important thing to remember is that the two of you have decided that you want to be together and whether you choose to commemorate that with a large family wedding at a larger venue, an intimate family wedding at your favorite winery or elope to your favorite hiking trail with your witnesses and officiant, it’s YOUR special day and you want it to be meaningful to the two of you, not stressful. If you want to start with an easy conversation about your ceremony, please feel free to reach out. I am here to answer questions and help you have the most beautiful ceremony – whatever that looks like for the two of you. This is a magical time, and I’m absolutely delighted for you. Best wishes for a lifetime of love. – Chanelle, Your Pacific Northwest Elopement and Intimate Wedding Officiant and Celebrant for LifeTM.
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC (and now ‘trend-setter’). Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry. As their Celebrant for LifeTM, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest.
Introducing Georgia Williams and Queen’s Hand Calligraphy
Example of hand-calligraphed invitation envelope – queen’s choice font style.
A serendipitous inter-web “oops”
A few weeks ago, I received an email from another wedding professional, Georgia Williams, owner of Queen’s Hand Calligraphy, on the other side of the U.S., who was taking time to research and contact wedding planners across the country to begin networking and promoting her business. You all know that I am not a wedding planner, but I DO love to help people whenever I can, especially other wedding pros, so I looked at her website and social media and then we set up a time to chat. After spending a few minutes talking with Georgia, I knew I wanted to find a way to introduce her to my friends, family and couples…anyone who may love the idea of something beautifully handwritten (think custom wedding invitations, announcements, place cards, poems as a gift, holiday card envelopes, thank you card envelopes).
So, here we are…my little blog post…(and just because I know some folks will wonder, I do not receive anything from Georgia or Queens Hand Calligraphy for introducing her to you or for any future business she may receive – I just think she does amazing work and someone would love to see it.)
Meet Georgia Williams, the founder, owner and head Calligrapher of Queen’s Hand Calligraphy
Georgia Williams, founder and owner of Queen’s Hand Calligraphy
Georgia has more than 40 years calligraphic experience with 15 of those years as a professional. She has a Bachelor’s degree from Loyola University and taught school for over thirty years. (maybe we should call her Saint Georgia?) Georgia told me that as a school teacher, she required her middle school students to write in cursive because she believes it develops a discipline in them for the rest of their lives. That sounds very teacher-like, doesn’t it?
“Handwriting is more connected to a movement of the heart.” – Natalie Goldberg
I am of the age where penmanship was still taught in elementary school and our papers/homework still had a penmanship grading component through high school. If your assignment wasn’t neat enough for the teacher to read, you were going to get a bad grade. End of story. So…we learned to write as neatly as possible. I still admire the penmanship of my aunts, grandmother, great-aunts and even some friends. Their letters flow together so nicely with curves in the right places and it’s so easy to read. Unfortunately (or fortunately if you don’t like writing), with the entry and domination of the computer in the home, workplace and now schools, penmanship (aka cursive writing) is one of those skills that is truly being lost.
“Sending a handwritten letter is becoming such an anomaly. It’s disappearing. My mom is the only one who still writes me letters. And there’s something visceral about opening a letter – I see her on the page. I see her in her handwriting.” – Steve Carell
I see it each time one of my couples goes to sign their marriage certificate. There is a glint of panic in their eyes as they ask the question, “Do I have to write in cursive?” which is quickly followed up by “I don’t know how.” For those of us who have been out of the classroom for decades, this might not be a surprise, especially if our work doesn’t involve any writing, but even at my most recent elopement, the witnesses were young and still not confident in just signing their name in cursive.
Personally, I love to hand write notes, cards, envelopes, certificates, but I do know how intimidating it can be, so to have someone to go to who can write beautifully and create works of art on an envelope makes my heart sing with joy!
Calligraphy — the dance, on a tiny stage, of the living, speaking hand. – Robert Bringhurst
Resurrecting an Art Form
Example of hand-calligraphed invitation envelope – Alexandra font style.
“Nothing can replace the hand-written word when it is done with beauty and grace.” Queen’s Hand Calligraphy
Back to Georgia. She began as a professional calligrapher when she and her daughter started a calligraphy business, which they ran together for about 15 years. They handled invitations and announcements for weddings, corporate events, bar/bat mitzvahs; legal certificates; love poems; Christmas card addressing for large corporations; place cards; and reception favor tags. Eventually, her daughter decided to make a career change and Georgia started Queen’s Hand Calligraphy.
Then…a global pandemic… and the world seemingly stopped – particularly the world of weddings and events. Thankfully though, Georgia hasn’t stopped and she is now in the process of resurrecting this art form that has seemingly gone by the wayside in this world of computers and machines and is sharing it with us.
Do you even remember the last time you received a hand-written letter or card in the mail? I don’t mean one with a mailing label (although these can be really nice too, especially at Christmas time), but an actual piece of mail that has your name and address handwritten (in cursive) on the front of the envelope and when you opened it up, there was paper inside with a hand-written note. Do you remember how it felt to receive it?
Do you still have it?
Sampling of some of the handwritten letters I have saved over the years.
As you can see, I do. They’re special. I receive so few that I treasure them. I even have some of the notes I wrote to my mom when I lived in Ireland (because she saved them)!
You only get one chance to make a first impression
So, what if you would like to have custom lettered envelopes for your invitations or announcements of place cards for your reception, but it feels a bit royal-like. Well, conveniently enough, Georgia believes that just as every bride should feel like a princess on her wedding day, your guests want to feel special when they are being invited to a wedding. What better time to do this than with your invitations? After all, you only get one chance to make a first impression. All of the work done by Queen’s Hand Calligraphy is done by hand! Nothing is computer generated, which truly makes your guests feel that you (as a couple) took the extra time to make them feel special—like they are being invited to a truly wonderful event.
Example of hand-calligraphed invitation envelope – charlotte font style.
Most of my couples are having smaller weddings and elopements with between two and fifty guests. Sometimes, it is to save money, but most of the time, it is just who they are – they don’t want a lot of fuss or working parts that come with a large event, but they DO want their guests (family and close friends) to know how much they mean to the couple. There is an entire industry that creates custom wedding invitations now, but who do you get to write out the envelopes? Most of the time, they have typed labels or at best, they’re hand-printed; but…what if you could have your beautiful, custom-made invitations addressed by a professional, calligrapher, someone who has turned a lost skill into a beautiful art form? Now, receiving that in the mail would be something!
“Calligraphy is a kind of music not for the ears, but for the eyes.” – V. Lazursky
How does it work?
Intrigued?
Think it’s probably a “hassle” and maybe too much work?
According to Georgia, it’s not at all. It is their goal to make every one of their couples getting married have one less thing to worry about. It is obviously working. They have been told their process is the easiest part of wedding planning and they have a five-star rating on theknot.com.
Queens Hand Calligraphy on the Knot.com
All she needs from you is a type-written list of guests’ names and addresses and some envelopes. They will even stuff your invitations for a nominal fee.
Awesome, right? I know!
I’m already thinking of special items I would like hand calligraphed, including my Christmas card envelopes for next year. (OOhh!) How about you? Wedding invitations? Baby Announcements? A poem for your special someone for their birthday or Valentine’s Day?
“Calligraphy paints words.” – Author unknown
Q & A Time
So…now…for those of you with a few more questions, here are some FAQ’s (and answers) – you can also find more details on Georgia’s website at https://www.queenshandcalligraphy.com/
We have some guests with mixed names. How do you address the wedding invitation envelopes?
We advise on and use all the proper traditional etiquette in addressing the envelopes. Salutations are written out (Doctor, the Honorable Judge, Officer, Master). No abbreviations are used on street names (Court, Boulevard, Avenue, Road). Numerals up to 100 are written out in word form (three, seven, ten). However, while we advise on etiquette, we will abide with the couple’s wishes if they prefer something else.
Why do I need to send extra envelopes?
We require 25-30 (depending on the size of the order) extra envelopes. Often people move; or guest couples break up and no longer want to be on the same envelope; or a mistake was made on the list.
Can I choose the color of ink for my Calligraphy project? What colors can I choose from?
Of course. The color choice of ink and font selection is up to our customer. Black is the color most often chosen because it is the most elegant. We also letter in blue, charcoal gray, gold and silver. If you have another color in mind, we often suggest you find the color you would like and we can work from there.
Example of a place card with gold ink.
Can I choose my preferred font?
Absolutely. Elegance doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are some samples of beautiful fonts to choose from. If you have questions, please ask.
How do you deliver?
With over 35 years of experience, we have handled every situation with ease. Local clients drop off and pick up their orders (Naperville, Illinois). Out of state customers ship either by USPS, Fed-Ex, or UPS and items are returned by the same method.
How long does it take to create my project?
Feel confident that Queen’s Hand Calligraphy is dedicated to giving your order the personal attention it so rightly deserves. We will notify you via email once your order has been received by Queen’s Hand Calligraphy.
Our turnaround time is 7-10 business days once we receive your complete order.
Upon completion of your order, we will notify you again via email that your order is being shipped back with a return tracking order.
Do you only do wedding invitations?
No. Queen’s Hand Calligraphy provides hand lettering for:
· Invitation envelope addressing · Place cards · Save the Dates · Certificates · Special projects · Corporate addressing · Thank you notes · Birth announcements
Place-card decorated with crystals.
How can I contact you about a calligraphy project?
You can visit our website for information and details at Queenshandcalligraphy.com and then send me an email or even the old fashioned method of a making a phone call: (630) 286-9382.
I hope you enjoyed meeting Georgia, learning about her business, Queen’s Hand Calligraphy and seeing some of her beautiful work. I certainly have. Please feel free to share this blog post with anyone you think might be interested in beautifully hand crafted, hand lettered invitations or gifts.
About Chanelle
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest and Ireland primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry. As their Celebrant for Life, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest.
You never know what you’ll find when searching the internet…earlier today, I took part in a 30 minute ‘lunch and learn’ with Sara Dunn, a wedding SEO professional. If you’re a wedding professional and wanting to learn how to rank higher on Google, she is super amazing. Anyway, after the training, I was following up by running an SEO check on my website. That check showed that among other things, my website was ranking for a backlink to the digital wedding magazine, www.offbeatwed.com for a Leavenworth Elopement. I knew I hadn’t written a post for that publication, so of course I had to check it out. Surprise! I found a story submitted by one of my couples that got married in Leavenworth, Washington back in 2021, “An intimate ‘Up’ Adventure Party Leavenworth elopement with gluten-free pizza & donuts!” posted by Chris Wolfgang.
Chanelle’s Reflections
From an officiant’s perspective (any wedding professional’s perspective, I’m sure), Randy Joe and Jeremy were pretty much an ideal couple in that they always did what they said they would do, they responded to emails in a timely fashion and they were just plain old organized and very gracious and kind. Crafting their ceremony was just fun and having them love it enough to submit it is a genuine honor. I invite you to check it out here
Usually, when I write a blog post about one of my weddings, it’s full of my reflections as the officiant on that day, so, even though most of the details of the ceremony are shared in the article linked above, I’ll just add my recollections and feelings about my experience getting to know Randy Joe and Jeremy, their elopement ceremony and why it stands out to me even though it was two years ago and I’ve officiated dozens of weddings since.
Getting to know you…and YOUR Vision for your Day
I first met Randy Joe and Jeremy in March of 2021 about their planned elopement (“Act I” of their wedding), and they had pretty much everything already figured out: The venue was Roots Produce and Flower Farm in Leavenworth, Washington. The date would be June 12, 2021. There would be no guests at this time (just their two witnesses and their photographer) because they would have a bigger ceremony for their one year anniversary (Act II of their wedding) …They had everything figured out, except the ceremony…no worries, that is what I do as the Officiant, listen to stories and craft ceremonies…they knew they wanted something fun, laid back and something that totally matched their personalities. SO…we had a zoom chat to get to know each other. Jeremy and Randy Joe met in college in the theater program, which is handy because one of their favorite hobbies to do together is to watch movies. They got to know each other even went out with friends for Halloween: Randy Joe as Carmen San Diego and Jeremy as Waldo (as in “Where’s Waldo?) However, their first “official date” was lunch on 11/11/11 and Jeremy told me that soon after that, he knew he was “done looking.” Randy Joe actually told her mom all about Jeremy after their first date. They dated throughout the remainder of their college years, graduated, moved in together in 2013 and now have been together for twelve years (and married for two). Getting to know Jeremy and Randy Joe was so much fun, I couldn’t wait to draft their ceremony and send it to them for their thoughts and edits. My excitement was rewarded when Randy Joe emailed me with her and Jeremy’s final approval; her response was so sweet,
“Anyway, this all looks fantastic! I mean, I cried within the first 30 seconds of starting to read it and basically didn’t stop, so that’s a good sign.” 🙂
Photo credit: Sydney Cave, Everlasting Everly Photography
On “The Day,” their ceremony was just as fun for me. You can see it in my photos. It was relaxed and was with two people who were just so happy to be married, nothing else really mattered once we got there. One of my favorite memories from that day was watching them hand paint their mailbox which would be used for cards during “Act II” of their ceremony (the bigger wedding party on their anniversary). I promise you, there is nothing like watching a couple don colorful aprons, smoosh paint on their hands and then put their painted handprints all over a white mailbox. In case you’re wondering how that activity fits within a wedding ceremony, I’ll tell you. They each put on their own apron, but had the other person tie it for them. This speaks to helping each other with the everyday tasks during the marriage. Then, they squirt paint on their hands, smoosh them together and put handprints all over the mailbox. This is FUN and embraces the messiness of life (two very important elements in marriage and life in general). Finally, their witnesses were on hand with baby wipes so they could clean off their hands, which reminds us that there are times when even the strongest couples, need support from others. You can check out Chris Wolfgang’s article on Offbeatwed.com for photos of this fun activity, which I genuinely hope you do, or just use your imagination. 🙂
I also loved when they shared their vows (sweet and funny – check out the link above) and then signing their paperwork during the ceremony with their witnesses, so that when they walked up the aisle after I pronounced them married, they were actually completely and officially married. (You know…it’s not official til the paperwork is signed).
Photo credit: Sydney Cave, Everlasting Everly Photography
“’And love, true love, will follow you forever’ and may you always be each other’s greatest adventure.” – the final wish from their ceremony borrowed from their fave movies, “Up” and “The Princess Bride”
Celebrating Randy Joe and Jeremy’s elopement was as beautiful for me as their Wedding Officiant as “finally” getting married was for them and I’m grateful they enjoyed the experience enough to submit their wedding story to be published. For those wondering how Act II went, Randy Joe emailed me after receiving their anniversary card and shared,
“We did go ahead with our Act II this past Saturday and it was lovely! Frantic and stressful, but lovely!”
OH! and if you’ve never been to Roots Produce and Flower Farm, you should go. It’s absolutely stunning and the location for weddings is down below the road in a little valley surrounded by the majestic mountains. Truly, it will take your breath away.
Other Wedding Pros involved in this beautiful adventure:
You’ll see a list of the other wedding professionals and vendors if you read the Offbeatwed.com article, but I’ll share them here so it’s handy for you:
If you’re ready to schedule your consultation to talk about your elopement or intimate wedding ceremony, please feel free to reach out. I’d love to chat with you.
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest and Ireland primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry. As their Celebrant for Life, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest.
“Everyday someone new turns to us for a helping hand, be it for health care, veterans’ benefits, housing needs or employment assistance, with contributions such as the one received, it assures that those who courageously served our country will not ever be forgotten.” – Jack McManus, National President VVA, 11/2/2023 in a thank you letter to Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC
Veterans Day 2023 image of American flags flying at Spring Canyon Cemetery near Grand Coulee, WA. Photo credit: Chanelle Carlin
Since starting my business, it has been my genuine desire that I would provide the highest quality officiating and coaching services and that Chanelle Carlin Weddings would exemplify my continued commitment to community. After each wedding, I donate a portion of my fees to a not-for-pofit organization whose mission I support and whose financial dealings I feel are honorable and trustworthy. Over the past three years, Chanelle Carlin Weddings has donated thousands of dollars on behalf our couples to their chosen organization. One of those organizations is the Vietnam Veterans of America (VVA) and I am mentioning them in this article because just this past week, I received a letter of thanks from their National President. Having worked for many years in the not-for-profit sector, I know how important every donation is and I also know that thank you letters are generally sent out to thank donors, let them kow how their donation will be used and to invite them to donate more. This wasn’t the first donation that Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC has sent to the VVA and we have always received a nice email and receipt in the past for our donations, but this is the first letter we received from them so I wanted to acknowledge it and tell you a little about the Vietnam Veterans of America and why they are one of the chosen organizations of Chanelle Carlin Weddings.
First, the VVA is the only national Vietnam veterans organization congressionally chartered and exclusively dedicated to Vietnam-era veterans and their families. Although the war was declared finished in 1975, by the late 1970s, it was clear the established veterans groups in America had failed to make a priority of the issues of concern to Vietnam veterans and there were many. In January 1978, a small group of Vietnam veteran activists came to Washington, D.C., searching for allies to support the creation of an advocacy organization devoted exclusively to the needs of Vietnam veterans. VVA, initially known as the Council of Vietnam Veterans, began its work. Finally, in 1986, Congress recognized them with an official charter. Today, the VVA has a national membership of over 85,000, with over 650 chapters throughout the United States, Puerto Rico, the Virgin Islands, Guam and the Philippines dedicated to serving the needs of Vietnam veterans and those who serve our nation regardless of the war they fought in.
Second, in case you’re still curious about why I chose the VVA, it’s simple and relates directly back to my own life. My Dad, Fred is a Vietnam Veteran who served as a teenager like many others of his generation. In 1969, at the age of 19 (younger than my son and three of my nephews now), he was seriously wounded by a land mine. Many were killed. My father was thrown, and initially presumed dead, though thankfully he wasn’t. Dad suffered many physical and psychological traumas during this conflict, only some of which were the result of this accident. I have chosen to support this organization to support the efforts and healing of all Vietnam Veterans, their families and the Veterans who remain in harm’s way today. Their founding principle, of “never again will one generation of veterans abandon another” touches deep within my heart. The VVA members know what returning veterans face. They have been through it before and understand full well that despite all the heart felt “thank you for your service” comments, returning veterans will face major hurdles. It is their mission to make sure that those who serve our country receive the care and respect they have earned and I support that mission.
In case you’d like to learn more about the work of the Vietnam Veterans of America and how they help all veterans, I invite you to check out this YouTube video which I found on their website. It describes their history and current work far more effectively that I can in this short article.
Brief video of history of Vietnam Veterans of America and their mission, found at https://vva.org/who-we-are/history/
Just for a little lighthearted fun after talking about such an important topic, here is a photo of teenage me as cadet in the Civil Air Patrol in the mid-1980’s. Taken by another cadet, we were “in the field” at our monthly search and rescue training program in Shelton, Washington. For those who don’t know, I grew up in a family that believes in military service and at that time I had grand plans to join the air force. While my life took another direction (many, in fact), I treasure the memories of this time in my life and also still hold the gratitude of all who have served in the military. See, the things you learn about your wedding officiant when you read their blog posts. 🙂
Chanelle in the mid-1980’s as a Civil Air Patrol cadet. Photo credit: Kathleen Holly Waud.
Now, back to the thank you letter…
Thank you letter from Vietnam Veterans of America for donation.
I’d like to personally thank Ciara and Joshua DeLys for allowing me the honor of officiating their intimate wedding ceremony and also because it was their decision to choose the VVA as their preferred donation recipient.
Also, thanks to my dad for his service and to all other service men and women who have responded to the call of our nation and served bravely (even if you didn’t feel brave sometimes). It is never easy and no one ever knows what they’re signing up for or sacrificing. I am grateful to each of you.
As I mentioned above, the Vietnam Veterans of America is just one of the organizations that Chanelle Carlin Weddings donates to and they are the only national organization. Each of the other organizations is unique to the Pacific Northwest:
Camp Fire of Snohomish County – https://campfiresnoco.org/ Oregon Dachshund Rescue, Inc. – http://www.odr-inc.org/ KSPS – Public Television in Spokane – https://www.ksps.org/ KSER (90.7) – Everett – http://www.kser.org/ Washington Trails Association – https://www.wta.org/
I’ll highlight another organization in a separate blog post, but since we’re so close to Veteran’s Day AND I just received this lovely letter, I thought I would start with the Vietnam Veterans of America. I’ve included links to each of the other organizations website though in case you’d like to learn more about what they do as well.
If you’re ready to schedule your consultation to talk about your wedding OR how you can donate to one of these organizations, please feel free to reach out. I’d love to chat with you.
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest and Ireland primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry. As their Celebrant for Life, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest.
I LOVE being a Lake Chelan Wedding Officiant. It is truly a stunning place and one where memories made will last a lifetime. – Just ask any of us who spent our summers (or part of our summers) there as children. My husband (his grandparents had an orchard and his parents went to high school there) and I both have vivid memories of swimming in the lake, sliding down the water slides into the lake, getting ice cream at the Drive-In in the park, sleeping outside and of Campbell’s, which though a beautiful resort now, was a much smaller version of itself then. If you would like to learn more about me personally or my journey as a wedding officiant, I invite you to check out the About Chanelle page of my website.
The name Chelan is a Salish Indigenous word, “Tsi-laan,” meaning ‘Deep Water’. It’s the third deepest lake in the United States (nearly 1500 feet deep) and the 26th deepest in the world. Chelan is surrounded by mountains, trees and now, on the southern end, wineries and orchards. It’s breathtakingly beautiful.
Most people don’t realize just how much Lake Chelan has to offer. Just three hours from Seattle, it is a lifetime away from the big city and the grey skies of the west side of the mountains. Did you know that Chelan has 300 days (about 10 months) of sunshine? There are also more than 30 wineries in the area. There is a fabulous small-town feel, with an artistic community and a year-round outdoor lifestyle (for those who enjoy camping, fishing, hiking, boating, skiing – snow and water). If you want more information on how you can fill your time in Chelan, check out this link to the Chamber of Commerce. For now though, I’d like to focus on your Lake Chelan wedding. That is why you’re taking time to read this post after all…right?
Throughout the rest of this article, I’ll share some stories from a few of the weddings I’ve officiated in Lake Chelan, as well as some reviews from a few of my amazing couples that have honored me over the years by letting me celebrate their marriage with them. Then we’ll look at what working with me looks like and if by chance you haven’t found all your wedding team members, I’ll share some of the amazing wedding professionals I have worked with over the years and who believe your wedding is as important as you and I do.
Anna and Daniel at Tsillan Cellars.
Your Lake Chelan Officiant
Let’s get started, shall we? As your Lake Chelan wedding officiant, I am honored to celebrate the most beautiful elopements and intimate weddings with some of the most amazing people. We laugh, we have fun, but we also take time to be fully present in the moment as you say your “I do’s.”
As a professional Wedding Officiant, I receive a lot of questions from couples who don’t even know where to start thinking about their wedding event, let alone their ceremony (the part during which they actually get married) and they start feeling stressed. Fortunately, while there can be a lot to consider when planning a wedding and putting together a wedding ceremony, you don’t have to do everything by yourself.
In fact, for every part of your special day, there is a wedding professional available and desiring to assist you: Wedding Venues, Wedding Planners, Florists, Stylists, and Stationary designers, Party Rentals, Caterers, Bakers, DJ’s, Musicians, Photographers, Videographers, Jewelers, Tailors, Retailers, Hotels AND, of course Officiants. Each professional can lead you to another.
If you’re already feeling the pressure, please know you’re not alone, but also that it doesn’t have to be so stressful. Planning a wedding should be a fun and an enjoyable process for the two of you. To aid in this process, I created the E.P.I.C. ceremony planning framework. For more info on creating your own E.P.I.C. ceremony, feel free to check out my blog article here, or give me a shout and we’ll talk through it. For now, though, let’s get back to Lake Chelan.
Winery Weddings
Intimate multi-cultural Family Wedding at Siren Song Vineyard, Chelan, WA PC Tetiana Photography
With more than 30 in the area, it will be no surprise to you that many of the weddings I’ve officiated in Chelan have been at wineries. There is a winery in Chelan for every couple’s personality and dream wedding ceremony/event. Some couples include their children in their ceremony and I have had couples who planned beautiful, elaborate, interfaith ceremonies that took place at a winery. Sometimes couples have included large numbers of family for a more formal wedding and dinner reception, while others opt for the very casual dress, quick, yet truly personal ceremony with just a wine reception afterwards.
Hey! Can anyone here marry us?
One such ‘mini-mony’ took place on a Labor Day weekend at Tsillan Cellars and a local couple had decided they were ready to get married but didn’t want a big “to do.” They had family visiting them from out of town and “decided” to take them wine tasting one evening. They had it worked out that after enjoying some wine in the tasting room, they’d all come out and enjoy the stunning view over the lake and then the groom, Bill would just say to Tamara, “Hey! Let’s elope!” He would then turn to crowd outside and kind of shout, “Can anyone here marry us?” Conveniently, I was there to answer the call as was their photographer. Of course, their guests didn’t know that Bill and Tamara and I had already planned the ceremony and they had the celebrations all worked out with the winery and the photographer.
Lakeside weddings
If getting married at a winery isn’t really your thing, how about a B&B on the Lake? There are houses on the North Shore with back yards that are literally lakeside. You can’t get any closer to the water (without standing in the lake) than having your ceremony on the dock or the patio next to the lake wall of your patio. Two lovely ceremonies come to mind.
On the lake? Prepare for boats
When Jessica and Matthew got married, they had everything planned for the two of them and me to stand on the dock for their summer evening elopement. Their photographer and photographer’s assistant agreed to act as their witnesses and the couple had set up the iPad outside in the yard to live stream the ceremony for family and friends, all of whom lived far away.
It was picture perfect…until a very loud jet boat came by. Up and down the length of the lake, even when it was completely out of site, you could still hear the roar of the engine. There was no worry for time on our part, we just waited to finish their ceremony until the boat was gone and the peaceful sounds of the lake returned, but I’m sure the family on the other end was having a great laugh and it’s a memory I will keep.
The moral of this story is if you’re planning a wedding on a lake in the summer, be prepared for boats and folks who want to be part of the ceremony, invited or not.
How about a little dancing?
Mistie and Sean’s intimate family wedding on the lake was much more low-key – at least there were no boats involved. Of course, theirs took place on a September afternoon while most folks were at work or school. The B&B that they had rented for the event was large enough to hold their entire extended family in attendance. The ceremony took place on the back patio, with the couple and I (and their sweet little girl) standing up front, next to the wall with the water literally right on the other side. When I sat down on the wall prior to the ceremony, I could run my hand in the lake. Their ceremony is also memorable for how the couple and their family entered the ceremony spot…music blaring over the sound system and the couples exiting the house, dancing up the aisle to their seats and then Mistie, Sean and their little sweet pea dancing up to another song. It was fantastic. The setting was beautiful and everyone was having fun.
Campbell’s Resort – Beach Wedding Location
Other amazing options for wedding locations
Of course, if B&B’s aren’t your thing either, how about a beach wedding at Campbell’s Resort. If you’d like something a little more luxurious and less tourist focused? How about the stunning Harmony Meadows Tennis Resort in Manson (just up the road)? Looking for something a bit more secluded? There is always the option of a gorgeous boat ride on the Lady of the Lake up to Stehekin and rent a cabin and get married in the forest. Whether you’re eloping on the dock of your Lake Chelan B&B, having an intimate wedding with just a few family/friends at your favorite winery or dream of a wedding on the lake shore, I would love to talk with you about your Lake Chelan Wedding.
Here is what some of my amazing couples have to say
Claudia and Jarred at Tsillan Cellars. PC Bill Black
Chanelle officiated our wedding in Lake Chelan. She was wonderful! She took the time to really get to know us as a couple, and worked with us to make sure our ceremony reflected our personalities and story. She’s very sweet, professional, and extremely responsive. She communicated well with the venue and wedding coordinator to ensure everything went smoothly, down to the smallest details. If you are looking for someone who genuinely cares, and who can craft and deliver a heartfelt ceremony tailored to your wishes, I highly recommend Chanelle! – Claudia and Jarred
5 stars! The best ever! While I’ve not tied the knot before I couldn’t have imagined our special day any other way! Chanelle is personable, confident, respectful and caring, we are so happy we found her to officiate our wedding. She listened closely to what we wanted, and welcomed feedback, the ceremony was absolutely perfect! If I had to do it over again I would call her! Thank you! Yip! – Jillian and Bruce
Chanelle was absolutely amazing to work with. She helped us every step of the way in crafting the most perfect ceremony for us. She was very clear and transparent and because of her process there were no hiccups on the big day! She also was also very flexible and supportive when we had many changes to our wedding due to Covid. We would recommend Chanelle to anyone – she is a kind soul who truly cares about the couples she is working with and has the ability to understand and represent their love as an officiant. – Jessica and Matthew
Chanelle officiated our wedding in Lake Chelan a few weeks ago and it was perfect! She was so nice from the first meeting to the ceremony. We were planning the wedding from out of state, and very busy with other life events too. Even with communication low on our end, Chanelle reached out monthly and was always engaged during our zoom meetings. We felt she truly tried to get to know us and make sure the ceremony was what we wanted and matched us. Highly recommend Chanelle! – Jake and Tara
Working together
If you haven’t already spent much time on my website yet, I invite you to visit a while and browse. All the information about working with me and my fees is on the services page . You can also read reviews from some of my other couples here.
In a nutshell, as your wedding officiant, I work with you both to create a custom wedding ceremony that matches your personalities, your vision for your wedding and captures the magic and uniqueness of your one-of-a-kind love story. We begin this process with a complimentary consultation with the two of you to answer any questions you have, hear your ideas for your wedding and see if we all feel like we’re a good fit for each other (it’s important to feel good about the people working with you on your wedding).
David and Chialu’s wedding at Tsillan Cellars. Photo Credit: Bella Fritz Photography
Some other Lake Chelan Wedding Pros
In case you’re still looking for just the right people to help bring your E.P.I.C. wedding vision to life, I’ve put together this exclusive list of some of my top wedding pros that serve couples wanting to get married in Lake Chelan. This is not a paid list. I have either worked with these folks and been truly impressed with their professionalism and commitment to our couples’ joy on their wedding day OR I have heard about how amazing they are from other trusted professionals.
VENUES:
Tsillan Cellars – 3875 Highway 97A, Chelan, WA 98816; 509-682-9463 – Talk with Sandy McDonald
Siren Song Winery – 635 South Lakeshore Road, Chelan, WA, 98816; (509) 888-4657
Vin du Lac Winery – 105 Hwy 150, Chelan, WA 98816; (509) 682-2882 – Talk with Maggie
I remind all of my couples that your wedding is one of the most important days of your life. There is a lot that goes into planning a wedding ceremony and most couples have never done it before so it can feel a bit overwhelming. The most important thing to remember is that the two of you have decided that you want to be together and whether you choose to commemorate that with a large family wedding at Campbell’s, an intimate family wedding at your favorite winery or elope with your witnesses and officiant to Stehekin, it’s YOUR special day and you want it to be meaningful to the two of you, not stressful. There are many, many resources available to help alleviate stress, including amazingly talented and committed wedding professionals and E.P.I.C. (my wedding ceremony planning framework that I’ve shared a bit about in this article). However, if you start with remembering to just breathe and enjoy your engagement together, all will fall into place. This is a magical time, and I’m absolutely delighted for you. Best wishes for a lifetime of love. – Chanelle, Your Lake Chelan Wedding Officiant.
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest and Ireland primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry. As their Celebrant for Life, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest.
Each wedding is so special to me and always stands out in my memory for a few reasons. First, and foremost, is the relationship I’ve been honored to build with the couple. There is no wedding ceremony without them. After that are the truly beautiful venues these amazing weddings take place – case in point, the gorgeous, historic Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate in Spokane, Washington. Finally, there are the truly exceptional wedding professionals that I’m fortunate to work with. Here are some of my favorite reflections from this sweet, intimate family wedding.
Wedding cake with “It was always you” cake topper and autumn-themed flowers. PC Abby Muir Photography.
Austyn and Marisa – “It was always you.”
Austyn and Marisa are a very sweet couple that I was honored to “meet” virtually in the spring before their Autumn wedding. Marisa told me their special quote that they really wanted to have as the theme for their ceremony was “It was always you,” because it was. Their marriage was a decade in the making.
Fast friends = best friends
During our initial zoom meeting, they told me that they had met the 2nd day of 5th grade and became fast, best friends. Many afternoons after school saw Austyn at Marisa’s house, watching TV, doing homework, playing games – just hanging out.
First date to the ‘always’ date
Then, in 7th grade, they had their first “date” at Austyn’s house where they had Papa Murphy’s pepperoni pizza and watched Cake Boss with Austyn’s mom. Their young relationship continued through middle and high school, even when Marisa moved to Spokane. Although they contemplated a break-up as a couple, they couldn’t imagine not being best friends anymore, so twice a month, Austyn found himself making a long trek (sometimes via Greyhound) from the Seattle area to Spokane and home just so they could be together. Finally, when Marisa turned 18, she moved back to Seattle and graduated from high school with Austyn and their other classmates.
Planning a lifetime together
Fast forward a few more years…living in their home in Washington, being together day to day, preparing for the rest of their life together. Who wouldn’t want to be part of their wedding day?! Austyn and Marisa LOVE to laugh and its infectious. They are also kind and so in love with one another. Over the months of planning their ceremony, I saw multiple examples of this, but one I want to share here is so sweet. You see, Marisa had always wanted a pearl necklace so Austyn made that dream a reality on their wedding day. With the most beautiful, tender hearted note for his beloved, he gifted Marisa with a lovely strand of pearls. Marisa wore them on their wedding day and Austyn saw them around her neck for the first time as she walked up the aisle.
Austyn’s tender hearted gift to his beloved. “You are without a doubt, the most gorgeous woman I have ever met. I got you this as a symbol of your forever timeless beauty <3.” PC Abby Muir Photography at Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate
Austyn and Marisa – their day…
The day of their wedding was a gorgeous September day in Eastern Washington…beautiful sunshine and not too hot. The venue, Roberts Mansion, is a 120+ year old historic mansion located in the Brown’s Addition of Spokane, Washington. It has a stunning, walled garden (back yard) perfect for elopements, weddings and other events that need a little shade and privacy. Marisa had always wanted to have a wedding here.
There were actually several things that stood out to me during this ceremony and because I couldn’t choose just one, I decided to include all the ones that are STILL standing out in my mind.
First Reflection – a beautiful “Boho” paradise
First, the incredible detail and beautiful design and decoration of this wedding still stand out to me. Marisa’s mom worked with the Coordinator at the Roberts Mansion to transform the event space from a lush, shaded back yard into a beautiful, romantic, “boho” paradise. The couple had chosen gorgeous autumn colors of forest green, rust and purple as their colors and the wedding party (and most of the guests) dressed in those colors. The effect was truly beautiful and felt just like fall in the Pacific Northwest.
As the wedding started, the guests were seated. The groom, Austyn was in his spot waiting for his beautiful Marisa. Standing behind him, I could see and feel his nerves as well as the tears of joy as she was escorted up the aisle. Once his best friend and future wife arrived in front of him, they held hands and closed their eyes. I grounded everyone in the moment and then they were ready. They both had tears in their eyes and the very biggest of smiles. Talk about a joyful moment for everyone!
Third Reflection – A tardy guest arrives in the “knick” of time.
Just as we were getting ready to pronounce Austyn and Marisa married and have them kiss, a late guest arrived and walked straight through the wedding party and up the aisle, taking center stage…
A tardy guest. PC Abby Muir PhotographyMaking his way through the crowd. PC Abby Muir Photography
Rather than being shocked or irritated by this, our couple thought it was brilliant! Both passionate cat lovers (with three at home), Austyn shouted, “I was hoping he’d come back for the ceremony!” We allowed the tardy but very welcome guest to join the festivities. I then pronounced Austyn and Marisa married, they kissed and as they danced up the aisle, their family and friends stood and cheered!
Then…on to what is probably (to me), the most important part of a couple’s wedding ceremony…the part that makes them legally and officially married…the signing of the Marriage Certificate. Don’t get me wrong – as your Celebrant, I am all about the ceremony, the vows, the ring exchange AND the pronouncement in front of family, friends and witnesses. However, I also believe that as a couple, you are making a legal commitment to one another, so the signing of the certificate is just as important as the rest. I loved that they were both so happy to sign the ‘paperwork’. Look at that smile on Austyn’s face.
Signing the Marriage Certificate upstairs in the bridal suite at Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate – now it’s official! PC Abby Muir Photography
Thank you, Mr. and Mrs. Saunders for the honor of celebrating your magical autumn wedding. It was truly a joy filled day! I wish you both (and now little Master Saunders) daily celebrations of love for a lifetime.
The Wedding Team
A quick note about the venue:
Roberts Mansion & Urban Estate – Spokane’s Historic Bed, Breakfast & Event Center – www.ejrobertsmansion.com The 24-room mansion was built in 1889, and was one of Spokane’s premiere homes. Featuring granite window trim, spindle work in the gables and a prominent turret, the Mansion is one of the best examples of Queen Anne architecture in Spokane. Seasonally, the gardens are lush and worthy of a park-like stroll. Inside you will find beautifully appointed suites complete with antique furnishings, private balconies, claw-foot tubs, and modern amenities. Roberts Mansion is also conveniently located just one block from local restaurants and bars, a 3-minute walk from the Northwest Museum of Arts and Culture, and a 5-minute walk to downtown Spokane. With its rich history and romantic charm, The Roberts Mansion + Urban Estate is the perfect setting for your next elopement, wedding or other celebratory or even corporate event.
And the Photographer:
Abby Muir Photography – http://www.abbymuirphotography.com/ Abby is an elopement + wedding photographer living in Spokane Washington with her husband, their dog, Blu and the two gorgeous little humans. They love spending time in the outdoors and enjoying all the amazing views the Pacific Northwest has to offer. While Spokane is Abby’s home base, she also loves to travel and visit new places so don’t fret if you’re not close by!
Photo credit Roxanne Best
Finally about Chanelle:
Chanelle Carlin is a Washington State Elopement and Intimate Wedding Officiant and Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest and Ireland primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry (especially Spokane). As your Celebrant for Life, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest.
Exchanging rings during an intimate Family Wedding at Coulee Dam, WA
A Wedding Officiant for All People
As a wedding officiant, it is one of the real pleasures of my job to become a chameleon for my couples. What do I mean by this? I mean that every couple- their history, customs, religion, culture, orientation -is different and unique, and should be honored. The uniqueness of their love is honored largely by their wedding officiant on their wedding or elopement day.
Contact Chanelle about Officiating Your Ceremony. – pc: Roxanne Best
Your wedding officiant is more than just the person who helps you legalize your marriage. They are more than a moderator for a wedding ceremony. They are storytellers. They are given the great privilege of understanding what is important to a couple, where they came from, where they are going, and who they are, together and separate, in all aspects.
Officiant for a Traditional Native Ceremony
I was honored to officiate my husband’s cousin’s wedding ceremony in Coulee Dam, Washington. Each couple that asks me to officiate their wedding honors me. This wedding was even more so, because it was family and also because I was asked to participate in a sacred, traditional, native joining ceremony. I have never witnessed this kind of ceremony before, let alone had a part to play in it.
It was a bright, warm, sunny spring day – the equinox, actually. Brenda and Jason’s big moment was actually six years in the making. Children were outside in the front yard waiting, and adults were inside the house preparing food, arranging chairs, also waiting patiently. Soon enough, we heard the bell. The ringing bell says it is time! It’s time to come together. It’s time to begin. It’s time to join this couple and their families together.
Every Aspect was Sacred
Jason and Brenda honoring their children
As we gathered indoors, we moved to our separated seating areas: Women on the left. Men on the right. Every aspect of this ceremony was a tradition passed down. From an elder between the two seating areas praying as the ceremony commenced, to every song that was sung. After three songs, which initiated the ceremony, the wedding party began to enter.
First to enter was the groom, Jason, dressed in his traditional wedding clothes. As he came forward toward the elder, he was escorted by his eldest son, Chris. They gracefully danced around the wedding blanket on the floor and took their places in front of where the women guests were seated.
Next, wearing her beautiful, red traditional wedding dress, the bride, Brenda, entered with her eldest son, Jaymon and eldest daughter, Monica. The couple was then joined by their remaining five children. The elder offered prayer and songs and then called the elders of the two families forward to exchange gifts.
This gift exchange is an acknowledgment that they all support the marriage of Jason and Brenda. In previous generations, they may have exchanged horses, but on this day, they exchanged beautiful Pendleton blankets and shawls chosen specifically for the occasion.
Every Wedding I Officiate Makes Me Better at Living my Purpose
On a personal note, I can share that as I stood, watching, listening and taking part in the traditional joining ceremony and waiting for my part as the officiant, I felt wholly inadequate. I felt underdressed, and quite nervous. I so wanted to make sure Brenda and Jason’s wedding was all they hoped and dreamed it would be. They had waited six years and been through much alone and together.
With each couple, whose wedding I am honored to officiate, I spend time getting to know them and to learn more of their story. I learn about the details that most people don’t know: their dreams, their fears, their favorite things about each other and their frustrations. Then, we create their sacred ceremony.
Every couple who works with me deserves their own version of a sacred ceremony. I spend time with them to learn what’s most important for them? For Brenda and Jason, it was always about their family and their children – all eight of them. Their lives revolve around them. Their ceremony should, therefore, include and honor their children and all children of the family.
A beautiful, blended family
One more song, then onto the second part of the ceremony…my part. This included sharing their story, leading them through their vows to each other, to their children and finally, after six long years, pronouncing them legally married! Even at this moment, this brings tears to my eyes!
Even though this was the first wedding of this traditional background I had ever done, when it came time to do the work, I felt at ease and well capable. I have officiated more than a hundred weddings that have brought a couple’s unique journey to life, and honored them. This was no different!
In my process, I take the time to deep dive into my couples’ stories. This allows me to connect, to envision, to fully comprehend, and embody. I may not have come from the same heritage or cultural experience as Brenda and Jason, but I was certainly able to learn, to listen, and to celebrate them and all that they are. After the ceremony and the vows were spoken, I watched Jason, Brenda and their guests as they took in the last of my storytelling and the sacred vows. Watching the love and joy fill the room filled me with so much gratitude for what I get to be a part of.
After the Vows were Spoken
After a blur of hugs, laughter, photos, and congratulations, the groom called everyone to the tables with the sacred bell. As their officiant, Brenda and Jason had me sitting at their left, in a place of honor. This gave me a chance to ask lots of questions, which Brenda kindly answered for me. I have to say, I felt just like I did the first time I traveled to Europe in my 20’s. It’s so exciting to experience and admire traditions from other cultures.
Once the guests were seated, a prayer was sung, the tables were set, water was poured and food was served. Once the food was placed on the tables, the daughters joined the family at the table, the groom again rang the bell and sang in prayer. He then explained what would happen next. He would call for the water, we would drink. He would call out the traditional foods, we would honor each and then we would eat what we needed to nourish ourselves. Food was passed around in a traditional manner, and then we were encouraged to join in feasting and speech-making!
Find a Wedding Officiant Who will Celebrate You
I could go on and on about how much it meant to me to be a part of this ceremony. To be embraced in such a sacred tradition, such a precious event, was truly a privilege. I aspire to learn and grow from every wedding officiating experience I have. What can I take from this experience into the next? What have I learned? What will I remember? I want to speak to any couple who has found their way here! If you have not yet found your wedding or elopement officiant, I encourage you to think about the following things:
What about your history, traditions, customs, culture, make you and your partner, together and individually unique? Is it important to you that these things be honored on your wedding day?
Do you dream of having a custom wedding ceremony written for you that honors the details and nuance of your story?
Imagine having a wedding officiant who creates a custom wedding ceremony that makes you laugh, cry, brings you down memory lane, and makes you feel completely understood. On that believes as strongly in the success of your marriage as they do your wedding day.
I would be honored to talk with you and answer any questions you may have as you journey forth in choosing an officiant and planning your elopement or wedding ceremony. Please feel free to reach out!
Photo credit Roxanne Best
About Chanelle:
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest and Ireland primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry. As their Celebrant for Life, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest.
