Love is a powerful message, and sometimes the best way to express it is to advertise it—literally! Inspired by Carl Dreizler and Stephen Arterburn’s 52 Simple Ways to Say I Love You, this week’s challenge invites you to create a personal ad campaign. The goal is to show your loved one just how much they mean to you in a fun and unique way, by advertising your love.
Creating an ad campaign might sound overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. This isn’t about expensive billboards or flashy commercials. It’s about using everyday tools creatively to spread your message of love. Whether your campaign lasts a day, a week, or even a month, it will leave a lasting impact.
Advertising Your Love – Step 1: Choose Your Media
First, decide how you want to deliver your message. There are so many options:
Print Ads: Write love notes and leave them in surprising places like the bathroom mirror or their car.
Digital Media: Send sweet texts, emails, or create a series of heartfelt social media posts.
Broadcast: Record a voice memo, film a short video, or have a custom song created for your partner. There are songwriting sites AND local songwriters who will work with you to create a personalized song, making this a truly unforgettable gift. If you’d like a recommendation, please reach out to Chanelle.
Outdoor Signs: Use sidewalk chalk to write loving messages where they’ll see them.
The possibilities are endless. Use the media your partner will enjoy most.
Step 2: Craft Your Message
Once you’ve chosen your media, focus on creating meaningful and personal messages. These can be lighthearted or deeply emotional, depending on your style. Some examples include:
“This just in: You’re the best part of my day, every day.”
“Top 5 Reasons I Love You—#1: Your smile makes my heart skip a beat.”
“Breaking news: My love for you grows stronger with every passing moment.”
If you’ve opted for a custom song, work with the songwriter to include specific details about your relationship. This makes the song even more meaningful.
Advertising Your Love – Step 3: Plan Your Rollout
Decide on a timeline for your campaign. Will it be a one-day blitz, a week-long lovefest, or a month of little surprises? For a one-day campaign, consider coordinating multiple media. You could start with a love note in their coffee cup, follow with a sweet text at lunch, and end the day with a song recording.
A week-long campaign might involve one message per day. For a month-long effort, focus on spreading out your surprises to keep them guessing.
Why Advertising Your Love Matters
Love thrives on intention and effort. This ad campaign is more than a fun activity. It’s a heartfelt way to remind your partner that they’re seen, valued, and loved. By taking time to craft and share your feelings creatively, you show how much they mean to you.
Advertising your love in this way strengthens your bond and creates unforgettable memories. These small acts of love can make a big difference.
So, what will your campaign look like? Share your creative ideas in the comments below—we’d love to hear how you’re spreading the love!
About Chanelle
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM. She is an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant with a passion for celebrating love and life. As the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC, she also coaches couples, believing that every moment of life and love deserves to be cherished. Chanelle works closely with couples who have cultivated strong relationships and ready to embark on the journey of marriage with a unique and unforgettable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, she is dedicated to honoring all of your special milestones. Chanelle is also the host of Now You May Kiss(TM)Podcast. Her podcast focuses on your bespoke, outdoor elopement or intimate wedding Ceremony in the Pacific Northwest. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or on social media on FB, LI and IG.
Multiply the Love in Week 46: The Simple Act of Helping a Friend in Need
A Friend in Need – Helping Hands with a heart
“When helping someone who’s lonely or someone who is blue, bring your one and only and they’ll feel better too.” – Carl Dreizler and Stephen Arterburn
In today’s fast-paced world, where we’re often wrapped up in the daily grind, it’s easy to overlook how meaningful a small act of kindness can be. Helping a friend or someone in need may seem like a selfless act, but the love you give is often returned to you tenfold. This transformative experience can bring you and your loved one closer while also making a difference in someone’s life. Inspired by Stephen Arterburn and Carl Dreizler’s book, “52 Simple Ways to Say I Love You”, why not take this opportunity to not only help someone in need but also deepen your relationship by working together to make someone else feel truly cared for?
Imagine this: you and your partner selecting someone who may be feeling lonely, disconnected, or overlooked—maybe it’s a friend who’s been going through a tough time, a neighbor facing unexpected challenges, or even a stranger in your community who could use a boost. Offering your time, compassion, and understanding doesn’t have to involve grand gestures. It could be as simple as a coffee date with a friend who’s been feeling down, or perhaps surprising someone with a warm meal. When you make these connections, you create a ripple effect of kindness and compassion that will likely extend far beyond this single act.
Step 1: Select the One in Need
Think carefully about the person who might need a little extra love right now. Consider who in your life may be dealing with a difficult season—such as a friend who’s navigating a recent loss, someone facing health challenges, or a family member who may be feeling isolated. Pay attention to subtle cues: have they been quiet lately? Have they canceled plans more than usual? If no one close to you comes to mind, consider volunteering together at a local shelter or organization that serves those in need. When my mom lived in a memory care residence, my family and I spent a lot of time not just visiting her, but also laughing, talking, dancing and sharing stories with the other residents. Helping someone you don’t know personally can be equally rewarding and can offer a new perspective on gratitude and giving.
Step 2: Find Ways to Make Them Feel Loved and Cared About
Once you’ve chosen someone to reach out to, get creative in planning a way to brighten their day. It doesn’t have to be costly or elaborate. You could cook a homemade meal and deliver it to their doorstep, plan a low-key hangout like a movie night or a walk in a nearby park, or simply spend time with them, offering your listening ear. If the person lives far away, consider writing a heartfelt letter, sending a small gift, or arranging a surprise video call. A gesture as simple as bringing someone their favorite coffee or dessert can be enough to show them that someone cares. Tailor your actions to what would feel most meaningful for them. The goal is to make them feel genuinely seen, loved, and remembered.
Step 3: Reflect and Carry It Forward
After your experience, take time to reflect together. How did it feel to connect with someone in need? What did it mean to your friend or the person you helped? Discuss whether you want to continue doing acts of kindness, individually or as a couple. Perhaps you want to make it a tradition that brings warmth to both you and others.
Multiply the Love during Week 46
Helping someone in need has the power to multiply love and forge connections that benefit everyone involved. So, take this step with your loved one. Reach out to someone who could use a friend, and let the ripple of kindness carry forward. It’s a simple, heartfelt way to spread love, and who knows? It may bring unexpected blessings back to you, too.
About Chanelle
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM. She is an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant with a passion for celebrating love and life. As the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC, she also coaches couples, believing that every moment of life and love deserves to be cherished. Chanelle works closely with couples who have cultivated strong relationships and ready to embark on the journey of marriage with a unique and unforgettable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, she is dedicated to honoring all of your special milestones. Chanelle is also the host of Now You May Kiss(TM)Podcast. Her podcast focuses on your bespoke, outdoor elopement or intimate wedding Ceremony in the Pacific Northwest. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or on social media on FB, LI and IG.
Celebrate Love in Week 43 with a Cinematic Experience
“Find a movie house near you, pick a film that’s right. See a matinee or two or drive-in late at night.” – Stephen Arterburn and Carl Dreizler
In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it can be easy for couples to fall into a routine. However, it’s important to remember that love thrives on creativity and spontaneity. Inspired by Stephen Arterburn and Carl Dreizler’s book, “52 Simple Ways to Say I Love You”, let’s take a moment to focus on Week 43 and embrace the magic of movies as a unique way to celebrate love. This week, why not whisk your beloved away to the cinema, but with a “Movie Mania” twist? Let’s explore some inventive ways to make this outing extraordinary.
Movie Mania – Rediscover Romance at a Drive-In Theater
Experience Nostalgia Under the Stars
Drive-in theaters, like the Auto-Vue Drive-in Theater in Colville, Washington offer a nostalgic charm that transports you back to a simpler time. Imagine cuddling up under a blanket, stars twinkling above, with the sound of your favorite movie playing softly in the background. It’s an intimate setting that fosters a sense of connection, free from the distractions of modern life. Drive-ins often screen a mix of classic and contemporary films, so you’re sure to find something that appeals to both of you.
Tips for the Perfect Drive-In Date
Plan ahead by checking the weather and bringing cozy blankets or a comfortable seating arrangement. Pack a picnic basket with your favorite snacks or grab a meal from the concession stand to enjoy during the screening. Arrive early to secure a good spot and take some time to appreciate the serene ambiance before the movie begins.
Movie Mania – Embrace a Matinee Adventure
Break the Routine with a Midday Movie
Why wait for the weekend when you can enjoy a matinee during the week? Matinee showings are often less crowded, allowing for a more relaxed and personal experience. This option is perfect for couples looking to break the monotony of their daily routine. If you can’t go to a weekday movie, aim for a Saturday matinee. Remember to bring your sunglasses though. It will still be daylight when you come out of the theater.
Make It a Day to Remember
Start your day with a leisurely brunch, then head to the theater for an afternoon of cinematic delight. After the movie, take a stroll and discuss the film over coffee or dessert. This simple change in schedule can turn an ordinary day into a memorable adventure.
Movie Mania – Host a Home Film Festival
Create a Cozy Cinema at Home
If venturing out isn’t in the cards, why not host a film festival in the comfort of your own home? Select a theme or pick a lineup of your favorite movies, then set the stage for a cozy viewing experience. Dim the lights, arrange comfortable seating, and prepare a selection of snacks to enjoy throughout the night.
Invite Friends for a Social Movie Night
Extend the invitation to friends who share your love for cinema. This can add a social element to the evening, turning it into a fun and interactive event. Encourage everyone to bring their favorite films and be prepared to discover new favorites together.
Explore Classic Cinema
Travel Back in Time with Timeless Movies
Classic films like “Gone with the Wind” or “Casablanca” offer a glimpse into the history of cinema and storytelling. Many theaters occasionally host special screenings of these timeless masterpieces. Attending such an event can be a romantic way to spend an evening together, appreciating the art of film.
Discover Hidden Gems in Vintage Theaters
Seek out an old or historic theater in your area, as these venues often feature unique architecture and an ambiance that adds to the overall experience. Watching a classic film in a theater from the same era can be a magical experience.
Make Week 43 Unforgettable
This week, Week 43 of 52, why not take the opportunity to express your love in a creative and unique way by going to the movies? Whether you choose to visit a drive-in, enjoy a matinee, host a film festival, or explore classic cinema, the key is to make it special. Remember, it’s not just about watching the film—it’s about creating memories and cherishing the time spent together. So, grab your popcorn, hold hands, and let the magic of movies bring you closer together. After all, the best stories are the ones we create with the people we love.
About Chanelle
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM, an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant with a passion for celebrating love and life. As the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC, she also coaches couples, believing that every moment of life and love deserves to be cherished. Chanelle works closely with couples who have cultivated strong relationships and are ready to embark on the journey of marriage with a unique and unforgettable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, she is dedicated to honoring all of your special milestones. Chanelle is also the host of Now You May Kiss(TM)Podcast, during which she talks about all things related to your bespoke, outdoor elopement or intimate wedding Ceremony in the Pacific Northwest. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or on social media on FB, LI and IG.
Creating a Love-Packed Newspaper: A Unique Way to Say ‘I Love You’ – Tips to Say I Love You for Week 42
Image created in Canva by Chanelle…
Extra Extra Read All About it! – Week 42
Start the presses! Beat the deadlines! No more morning blues. Let your loved one read the headlines. Now they’re front page news! – Stephen Arterburn and Carl Dreizler
In a world where digital communication often takes center stage, there’s something incredibly charming about the tactile experience of reading a newspaper. Inspired by Stephen Arterburn & Carl Dreizler’s book, “52 Simple Ways to Say ‘I Love You’,” this activity for Week 42 encourages you to turn the traditional morning routine into a delightful surprise for your loved one. Imagine their day starting with their name in the headlines as the most lovable person in town. How special would that make them feel?
The Vision
Picture this: your loved one, still groggy from sleep, shuffles to the front door to retrieve the morning newspaper. The crisp morning air wakes them up, and they find comfort in their first cup of coffee. As they settle down to read, they are greeted with a delightful surprise—their name splashed across the front page, declaring them “THE MOST LOVED PERSON IN TOWN!” But it doesn’t stop there. Every article, comic, and editorial in this special edition is a heartfelt note just for them. Suddenly, their morning routine transforms into an extraordinary experience that sets a joyful tone for the rest of their day.
Start by assembling a group of friends or family members who share your enthusiasm for making this day special. Each person can contribute their unique perspective and talents to create a memorable newspaper.
Plan the Sections
Think about the various sections you want to include. You might have headline news, which could feature major “events” in your loved one’s life, such as their recent achievements or cherished memories. The editorial section can be a space for heartfelt letters, while the comics page offers lighthearted fun with personalized jokes or drawings. Don’t forget a lifestyle section that highlights their favorite hobbies or future aspirations.
Assign Roles and Deadlines
Once you’ve decided on the sections, assign roles to your team. Designate “reporters” for each section and set a deadline for submissions to ensure a smooth process. This collaborative effort will not only make the project more manageable but also foster a sense of camaraderie among the team.
Review and Edit
As the submissions come in, review and edit them to ensure consistency and a unified tone. This step is crucial for maintaining the quality of your love letter in newspaper form.
Craft Headlines
A good headline captures the reader’s attention. Create catchy and endearing headlines that will make your loved one’s heart swell with joy.
Design the Newspaper
You have several options here. You could use online tools like Canva to design and print your newspaper, or you could opt for a more traditional approach by using a blank sheet of newsprint and hand-printing the articles. Each method has its charm, so choose what feels right for you.
The Big Reveal
On the morning of the reveal, ensure the newspaper is placed where your loved one will find it first thing. Watching their face light up as they read through the personalized articles will be a rewarding experience for everyone involved.
Why This Matters
This activity is more than just a creative project; it’s a testament to the thought and effort you’re willing to invest in your relationship. It shows your loved one that you cherish them enough to bring together a team of people to celebrate their presence in your life. It’s an affirmation of love that is as unique as it is touching.
Incorporating this loving gesture into your routine is a powerful way to communicate affection and appreciation. Whether it’s a one-time surprise or a tradition you begin, the impact of seeing their name in the headlines—celebrated and cherished—will be a memory they hold dear. So, gather your team, unleash your creativity, and watch as your crafted love story unfolds with each turn of the page.
About Chanelle
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM, an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant with a passion for celebrating love and life. As the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC, she also coaches couples, believing that every moment of life and love deserves to be cherished. Chanelle works closely with couples who have cultivated strong relationships and are ready to embark on the journey of marriage with a unique and unforgettable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, she is dedicated to honoring all of your special milestones. Chanelle is also the host of Now You May Kiss(TM)Podcast, during which she talks about all things related to your bespoke, outdoor elopement or intimate wedding Ceremony in the Pacific Northwest. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or on social media on FB, LI and IG.
Expressing Love Through Art – Tips to Say I Love You for Week 41
AI generated image of an artist’s bedroom, generated by Julie Zimmi (courtesy of Pixabay)
A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words – Week 41
“Van Gogh was quite an artist, from sunflowers to oceans; now you can try your hardest to paint from YOUR emotions.” – Stephen Arterburn and Carl Dreizler (52 Simple Ways to Say I Love you)
Welcome back to our creative journey to show our partner how much we care. This week, we dive into the enchanting world of art as a language of love. Inspired by the insightful words of Stephen Arterburn and Carl Dreizler from their cherished book, “52 Simple Ways to Say, ‘I Love You,’” this week’s activity encourages us to express our deepest emotions through the vibrant medium of art. After all, when words fall short, let your paintbrushes, pencils, or clay do the talking because a “picture is worth a thousand words.”
The Power of Art: Unleashing Emotions
Have you ever stood in front of a masterpiece and pondered the emotions that swirled within the artist’s heart? While analyzing art, we often attempt to unravel the mysteries behind the strokes and colors. But what if we, the so-called ‘non-artists,’ could capture our own emotions on a canvas? Creating art is not just for the Picassos and Van Goghs of the world—it’s an innate form of expression that we’ve all engaged in since childhood.
Crafting Love: Your Personal Art Adventure
This week, embark on a creative adventure with your loved one. Whether you choose to share a studio or work from separate spaces, the joy of this activity lies in the shared experience. Here’s how to start:
Choose an activity that resonates with both of you and gather your art supplies.
Set a time frame—perhaps two hours—and commit to crafting a piece that embodies your love. Remember, it’s about the emotion, not perfection.
Once completed, share your artwork with each other, explaining the thought and emotions behind your creation.
Choosing Your Medium: The Color of Love
The beauty of this activity is the freedom to select your medium. Here are some options to consider:
Oil Painting: Share a set of paints but keep your canvases a secret until you’re ready to reveal them.
Watercolors: A gentle, versatile option that works beautifully on paper.
Finger Painting: Rekindle the carefree spirit of childhood with vibrant, hands-on art.
Pastels or Pencil Sketching: Perfect for those who find comfort in the simplicity of pencils or pastels.
Clay: Sculpt your story with potter’s clay or playful ‘play-doh.’
The Grand Reveal: Your Art Show
Once your masterpieces are ready, it’s time for the big reveal. Display your creations and dive into a heartfelt conversation. What stories do your pieces tell? What hidden details emerge as you discuss them? Through this artistic exchange, you’ll discover new layers of understanding and appreciation for each other.
Still feeling a little nervous: This is not about perfection; it’s about authentic expression
Remember, this activity is a celebration of love and creativity, a unique way to connect with your partner on a deeper level. So, gather your supplies, set your intentions, and let your heart guide your hand. After all, a picture is worth a thousand words, and in this case, a thousand expressions of love.
About Chanelle
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM, an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant with a passion for celebrating love and life. As the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC, she also coaches couples, believing that every moment of life and love deserves to be cherished. Chanelle works closely with couples who have cultivated strong relationships and are ready to embark on the journey of marriage with a unique and unforgettable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, she is dedicated to honoring all of your special milestones. Chanelle is also the host of Now You May Kiss(TM)Podcast, during which she talks about all things related to your bespoke, outdoor elopement or intimate wedding Ceremony in the Pacific Northwest. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or, Pinterest on social media on FB, LI and IG.
“Choose some songs, your favorite hits – From ‘Sunny’ to ‘Stormy Weather.’ Act as DJ, use your wits. Then, put it all together.” – Stephen Arterburn, Carl Dreizler
The Idea – Making Musical Memories
Music has been humanity’s love language for centuries, a universal way to say “I love you.” Here are some fun and heartfelt ways to weave music into your moments together:
Creating Musical Memories – Make a mixed tape, cd, MP3 or private YouTube Channel
Compile a mixtape, CD, MP3 playlist, or even a private YouTube channel filled with songs that hold special meaning for you and your loved one. Enhance the experience by adding a narrative for each track, explaining where you first heard it or why it’s significant. Play this collection when you’re together and savor their reactions. My husband Bill and I have a unique tradition: we continuously update a shared YouTube channel with songs the other hasn’t heard before. It’s a fun way to explore new music together.
Creating Musical Memories – Attend a musical play or movie together
Check out a local community theater or a major performing arts center and enjoy a musical together. Purchase the soundtrack in advance so you can sing along on the way home. Here in Omak, the Omak Performing Arts Center puts on incredible shows every spring. One of my favorites was “The Music Man.”
Creating Musical Memories – Write a love song
You don’t need to be a Beethoven or Lennon/McCartney to write a love song. Pen new lyrics to the tune of a popular song that resonates with your relationship. This personal touch can be incredibly touching. One of my cherished high school memories is receiving handwritten songs from a boyfriend.
Creating Musical Memories – Go to a concert
Find out who your partner’s favorite artist is and grab tickets—even if it’s not your usual genre. Experiencing their joy can make the event special for you, too.
Creating Musical Memories – Gift their favorite music
If attending a concert isn’t feasible, gifting a tape or CD of their favorite performer is a thoughtful alternative. It’s a wonderful way to enjoy their most loved tunes together, even from the comfort of home.
Creating musical memories together can strengthen your bond and provide a soundtrack to your shared experiences. So, go ahead, be the DJ of your love story!
About Chanelle
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM, an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant with a passion for celebrating love and life. As the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC, she also coaches couples, believing that every moment of life and love deserves to be cherished. Chanelle works closely with couples who have cultivated strong relationships and are ready to embark on the journey of marriage with a unique and unforgettable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, she is dedicated to honoring all of your special milestones. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or on social media on FB, LI and IG.
On a sunny late July afternoon, the picturesque Siren Song Winery played host to the enchanting Lake Chelan wedding of Emily and Jared with the support of Erin Petersen of Ellie Haisch Wedding and Events and an all-star team of wedding pros. Nestled amidst rolling vineyards and offering breathtaking views of the lake, the winery provided the perfect backdrop for a day of celebration filled with love, laughter, and cherished memories.
Lake Chelan Wedding at Siren Song Winery: The Ceremony Begins
As guests found their seats, the melody of “Stand By Me” by Ben E. King set the tone for the heartfelt, yet fun ceremony that was about to unfold. Emily and Jared’s Officiant, Chanelle stood poised and ready, welcoming the gathering with a warm smile.
Jared, the groom, made his entrance by escorting his proud parents to their seats before taking his place up front. The procession of Jared’s attendants followed, each offering a hug or handshake, a testament to the camaraderie and support surrounding the groom.
Jared’s friends, Jacob, Nate, Darryl, Andrew, Matt, and Adam, joined him at the altar, each one standing by his side, reflecting the strength of their bonds. Next, Emily’s attendants entered gracefully, led by Nancy and followed by Jenna, Matron of Honor Katie, and Maid of Honor Jonnica, each taking their places with elegance and poise.
Emily’s Grand Entrance
Emily’s Grand (yet sweet and relaxed) Entrance with her mom, Kim. Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography
As the first notes of “Can’t Help Falling in Love” by Elvis Presley began to play softly, all eyes turned to face Emily. Accompanied by her mom, Kim, she walked through the doors, radiating beauty, joy and fun. Officiant Chanelle signaled for them to pause near the front row, where a heartfelt moment of gratitude and a tender hug were shared. Jared then stepped forward, escorting Emily the final steps to the ceremony spot, where she handed her flowers to Matron of Honor, Katie and took Jared’s hands.
With the couple facing each other, Officiant Chanelle invited everyone to join in a calming breathing exercise, grounding Emily and Jared in the significance of the moment. With serene smiles and nerves settled, they were ready to begin.
Chanelle welcomed the guests and offered a blessing before acknowledging the family and friends who had come to celebrate. Once guests were seated, a moment of remembrance was held for Emily and Jared’s grandparents.
“Lord, we thank you for this amazing day, for the gift of Jared and Emily and for the gift of their love in our lives.” Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photograhy
The ceremony continued with the reading of “Love Is Friendship Set on Fire” by Laura Hendricks, which beautifully transitioned into the couple’s love story. Chanelle recounted their journey from their first date at Washington State University in January 2017, through the milestones of moving in together and raising a puppy, to the deep, enduring love that brought them to their wedding day above Lake Chelan.
The Vows and Rings
With words inspired by Wendell Berry, Officiant Chanelle explained the meaning of marriage and asked the couple for their declaration of intent. Their affirmations were heartfelt and clear: “It is!”
The vows were exchanged, each word a promise of unwavering support and love. Jared’s brother, Jacob presented the rings, which were “warmed” by the couple before being exchanged, symbolizing the eternal nature of their commitment (and making them easier to slide on their fingers).
May you wear them with deep abiding faith in one another always and forever: Emily and Jared “warming the rings.” Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography
Final Blessing and Pronouncement
Chanelle offered a final blessing and a heartfelt wish for Emily and Jared’s future together. With a discreet prompt, she ensured the couple was ready for the moment everyone had been waiting for.
“By the power vested in me,” Chanelle declared, “I now pronounce you married. Now You May Kiss!”
As Emily and Jared shared their first kiss as a married couple, the guests erupted in cheers, capturing the joy and excitement of the occasion.
Now You May Kiss. Jared and Emily share a kiss at their Lake Chelan Wedding under the arch overlooking the lake at Siren Song Winery. Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography
The Presentation
Beaming, Emily and Jared turned to face their guests, Jared took Emily’s hand in his and their photographer Svetlana captured their beautiful smiles. The guests were invited to stand once again and with genuine honor and pleasure, Chanelle introduced the newlyweds for the first time as Mr. and Mrs. Nichols!
The guests cheered enthusiastically once again.
The Recessional
FINALLY! Mr. and Mrs. Nichols are married surrounded by the love of family and friends. Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography.
To the upbeat tune of “Then He Kissed Me” by The Crystals, Emily and Jared sauntered back up the aisle, stopping quickly for a dip and kiss and surrounded by the cheers and applause of their loved ones. Their attendants followed in joyful procession, each one sharing in the couple’s happiness.
Signing the Marriage License
In the privacy of the Blue Room, Emily, Jared, and their witnesses, including Officiant Chanelle, signed the marriage license, making everything official. Svetlana, the photographer, captured the intimate moments, preserving the memories of this special day.
Finally Official: Emily signing the Marriage Certificate. Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography.Finally Official: Jared signing the Marriage Certificate. Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer PhotographyFinally Official: Emily and Jared with their witnesses and Officiant Chanelle. Photo courtesy of Svetlana Sauer Photography
A Celebration to Remember
As guests moved to the cocktail hour, the newlyweds took a moment to themselves, reflecting on the ceremony and looking forward to the celebrations ahead. With the formalities complete, it was time to join their family and friends and create even more lasting memories.
Emily and Jared’s Lake Chelan wedding at Siren Song Winery was a beautiful testament to their love and commitment. Surrounded by the people who matter most to them, they embarked on their journey as husband and wife, ready to face the future together with hearts full of joy and love.
Emily and Jared’s Amazing Lake Chelan Wedding Team:
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM. She is an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant (she especially loves celebrating Lake Chelan Weddings). Chanelle is also a coach and the owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. She believes life and love should be celebrated every minute. Chanelle collaborates with couples who have built strong relationships over the years. They are now ready to venture into marriage with a custom, memorable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, Chanelle celebrates all your special milestones. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or on social media on FB, LI and IG.
The question is – Why do Wedding Ceremonies Matter?
In a world that no longer requires couples to be married (for the most part), one question I ask all my couples is “Why?” “Why do you want to get married?” A wedding is beautiful, sure, but marriage (even to your best friend) can be tough. There are many things that can crop up during the course of two people’s lives. So, before I commit to being a couple’s officiant and their Celebrant for Life (TM), I ask the hard question. Their answer is never about the event, and rarely about the practicalities like mortgages or insurance. It is usually about wanting to share their life loving and supporting their other person. These couples want to start that official phase of their relationship surrounded by the people most important to them. That’s really the crux of it.
Wedding ceremonies (regardless of size) transcend mere formality. They are exquisite celebrations of love, commitment, and the dawn of a beautiful, shared journey. These ceremonies have been cherished cornerstones of human culture for centuries, gracefully weaving through geographical boundaries and societal norms. Please join me in exploring the profound significance of wedding ceremonies. We’ll delve into some cherished traditions they uphold and the deep emotional connections they foster.
The Historical Significance of Wedding Ceremonies:
Wedding ceremonies boast rich historical roots, stretching back to ancient civilizations. These sacred events have played pivotal roles in forging social bonds, alliances, and the continuity of family lineages. Across many cultures, weddings were not merely personal celebrations but grand communal events that reinforced social structures and traditions. Understanding this historical context underscores the enduring importance of wedding ceremonies in shaping societies and preserving our treasured cultural heritage.
Wedding Ceremonies matter because they are a Celebration of Love and Commitment.
At the heart of every wedding ceremony lies the joyous celebration of love and commitment between two souls. This public declaration is a powerful affirmation of the couple’s devotion to each other. Vows exchanged during the ceremony are symbolic promises to support, cherish, and stand by one another through life’s challenges and triumphs. This profound commitment is not only a personal milestone but also an inspiring testament to all who witness the union. During one wedding a few years ago, the bride’s grandparents came to speak to me after the ceremony. They had been married for more than 70 years and claimed to love one another as much that day as on their wedding day.
The Role of Traditions and Rituals in Wedding Ceremonies:
Traditions and rituals infuse wedding ceremonies with layers of meaning and symbolism. Whether it’s rings, unity candles, or cultural customs, these rituals connect couples to their heritage and community. They offer continuity and belonging, reminding us we are part of a larger, beautiful tapestry of human experience. These cherished traditions also provide a sacred structure to the ceremony, making it a truly memorable occasion.
Over the years, I have been honored to help couples incorporate a variety of rituals and traditions into their ceremonies. For example, I recently officiated a ceremony that included a traditional Sugar Veil ritual. For those who are unfamiliar with this Persian wedding tradition, that’s ok. I was too. For the Sugar Veil ritual, the couple are seated, and the women closest to them come forward. In this case, it was their mothers and the groom’s sister. The mothers held a specially chosen veil above the couple’s heads. The groom’s sister, rubbed two sugar cones above the veil, sprinkling sugar on the couple’s heads. Now their lives will be forever filled with sweetness.
Another beautiful ritual happened at the wedding shown in the photo at the beginning of this article. Their’s was a multicultural wedding that blended the bride’s Jewish faith and the groom’s Catholic background. The bride’s parents and grandfather sang the Shabat (Seven Blessings) in Hebrew. At the same time, the couple danced a circle dance to symbolically build their house.
Lillian and Michael symbolically creating their house during the singing of the Seven Blessings. Photo courtesy of Tetiana Photography.
Wedding Ceremonies Matter because they help create lasting memories.
Wedding ceremonies are often regarded as one of life’s most memorable days. The emotions, joyous gatherings, and shared moments create timeless memories for the couple and their loved ones. The ceremony itself becomes a cherished story, recounted and celebrated in the years to come. These lasting memories serve as a foundational cornerstone for the couple’s relationship. It reminds them of their love and the unwavering support of their community. Couples to tell me years after their wedding, that their ceremony was the most memorable part of their day.
Wedding Ceremonies Matter because they help strengthening family and community bonds.
Weddings have the magical ability to bring together families, friends, and communities, fostering a sense of unity and togetherness. The ceremony provides a beautiful opportunity for families to merge. It also allows old friends to reconnect, and new relationships to blossom. This gathering of loved ones enhances the couple’s support network and strengthens the social fabric of the community. The shared experience of the wedding ceremony reinforces the bonds that hold us all together.
Wedding Ceremonies Matter because they allow couples to express their personalities and creativity.
Modern wedding ceremonies offer couples a wonderful chance to express their unique personalities and love stories. Some couples express themselves through choosing a picturesque venue. For others, it is selecting meaningful readings and music. For many, it is a combination of both. Every detail of the ceremony can be elegantly tailored to reflect the couple’s values and preferences. This personal expression adds depth and authenticity to their ceremony. Incorporating their personalities makes their ceremony a true reflection of their beautiful journey and aspirations. This is one of my favorite parts of being an Officiant.
Wedding Ceremonies Matter because they impact us emotionally.
The emotional impact of a wedding ceremony is simply unparalleled. The joy, tears, laughter, and heartfelt speeches create an atmosphere of love and connection. For the couple, it is a moment of profound emotional significance, marking the beginning of their life together. For guests, it is a chance to share in the couple’s joy and reflect on their own relationships. This emotional resonance is what makes wedding ceremonies so powerful and meaningful. During a recent ceremony, the bride and groom asked their sisters to read some poetry. One of the sisters was so overwhelmed by emotion she found it difficult to start.
Wedding Ceremonies Matter because they are elegant celebrations of love.
Wedding ceremonies matter because they are elegant celebrations of love, testaments to commitment, and bridges between past, present, and future. They bring people together, create lasting memories, and uphold cherished traditions. Our world is constantly evolving. The enduring significance of wedding ceremonies reminds us of the timeless value of love and connection. As we honor these ceremonies, we honor the very essence of what it means to be human.
At Chanelle Carlin Weddings, we help you celebrate your unique, one-of-a-kind love story with an elegant, custom ceremony. I promise that you’ll cherish it forever. If you would like to chat with Chanelle about your wedding, click here.
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
About Chanelle:
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM. She is an ordained minister and professional wedding officiant. Chanelle is also a coach and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC. She believes life and love should be celebrated every minute. Chanelle collaborates with couples who have built strong relationships over the years. They are now ready to venture into marriage with a custom, memorable ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, Chanelle celebrates all your special milestones. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com or on social media on FB, LI and IG.
Survey says forgetting anniversaries is common, but not OK.
I came across an article this morning that says “82% of people (mostly men) have forgotten their anniversary at some point in a relationship and that 68% of people said they’d end a relationship if their partner forgot their anniversary or a special relationship milestone.” It’s an interesting article and shares some useful findings. Here is the link if you want to check it out. You know I like to focus on positives though. So, for our purposes, I thought it might be helpful to look at a few easy tips to remember your wedding anniversary and other relationship milestones.
Two Tips to help you remember your wedding anniversary
Let’s start with just a couple of easy tips to remember your wedding anniversary. Here are two options you might consider:
1) Choose a wedding date that is easy to remember.
Dates that don’t change or that are somehow sequential can help you more easily remember your anniversary. Examples of dates that don’t change are: A holiday that doesn’t change – Halloween, Veteran’s Day, Christmas, New Year’s Eve, Valentine’s Day, St. Patrick’s Day, Flag Day, Juneteenth, Independence Day, Labor Day, etc; Solstice/Equinox dates – you’re looking at one of four (3/21, 6/21, 9/21 or 12/21); Dates with the same month number – 1/1, 2/2, 3/3, 4/4, 5/5, 6/6, 7/7, 8/8, 9/9, 10/10, 11/11, 12/12 (some of these are holidays and one of these is my wedding anniversary); Sequential month/date numbers – 1/2, 2/3, 3/4, 4/5, 5/6 (you get the idea); Double dates – 1/2, 2/4, 3/6, 4/8, 5/10, 6/12, 7/14, 8/16, 9/18, 10/20, 11/22, 12/24; Palindrome dates (April, 2024) – 4/20/24, 4/21/24, 4/22/24, 4/23/24, 4/25/24, 4/26/24, 4/27/24, 4/28/24 and 4/29/24. According to the Farmers Almanac, between 2025 and 2029, each year will have 11 palindrome dates, with 10 being consecutive. These will occur in April in 2024, May in 2025, June in 2026, July in 2027, August in 2028, and September in 2029.
One of Chanelle’s couples celebrating their palindrome wedding at the historic Okanogan County Courthouse in Okanogan, Washington on 12/02/2021. Photo credit: Roxanne Best
2) Celebrate monthaversaries.
This is my personal favorite and I always encourage my couples to do this. We have friends who have been married for nearly 40 years and still celebrate their monthaversaries! Ok, so when is it and how do you celebrate a monthaversary?
Your monthaversary occurs each month on the date that matches the date of your wedding. If you were married on December 12th, your monthaversary is on the 12th of every month. To celebrate your monthaversary, might be something as simple and meaningful like leaving a handwritten note for your loved one, perhaps leaving a card in their lunch, or cooking a special homemade dinner or dessert together. This does two things: it keeps the romance and magic alive throughout the year AND if you’re celebrating every month on the same date (your monthaversary), you’re more likely to remember your anniversary. (And…just as a quick aside, if I’m your wedding officiant, I won’t let you forget. As your Celebrant for LifeTM , I send reminders.)
Three additional tips to help you remember your wedding anniversary and other relationship milestones
3. Set Calendar Reminders to help you remember your anniversaries and birthdays.
“Put anniversary and birthday reminders in your work calendar. Set additional alerts a month and a couple of weeks ahead of time as reminders to buy a card or small gift or to make a reservation. These reminders will help you not only remember the big day but also be prepared for it. If your partner means well and would like to plan something, but is likely to forget the date, you can put reminders in their phone and computer as well, and let technology do the work for you.”
4. Start planning early.
“If you leave things to the last minute, it can be noticeable to your partner, and stressful to you. If you want to avoid disappointing your partner, plan at least a month to a few weeks in advance for a stress-free day.”
5. Incorporate traditions into your anniversary celebrations.
“Incorporate traditions into your anniversary celebrations. If you’re having trouble coming up with something creative, make a plan to do something you remember you both like. For example, go to your favorite bar or restaurant – someplace familiar that you know you’ll both look forward to revisiting.”
OR…
Another, completely different option is to agree together to not celebrate anniversaries at all. If one or both of you have difficulty remembering dates, and a lot of folks do, you can skip trying to remember to celebrate on a specific date and just celebrate your relationship whenever you want to. How fun is that idea? Just make any old day a celebration of your marriage!
Whatever you decide to do, remember to talk about it and decide together. If I can support you in any way, please let me know.
Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
About Chanelle
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for LifeTM. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC and host of the Now You May Kiss Podcast with Chanelle Carlin. Chanelle believes that life and love should be celebrated every minute. She collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. As your Celebrant for LifeTM, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, Pinterest.
Chanelle’s take on the non-traditional “non-wedding wedding” trends for 2024
A “non-wedding wedding” photo at the Upper Lake at Conconully, Washington. The gorgeous Bride is wearing her favorite color, purple; groom is wearing shorts, a short-sleeve shirt AND tie and they travelled from rural Iowa (where they left all the family) to rural Washington state to get married. Photo credit: Roxanne Best, Roxtography
The article that inspired an article that inspired this post
I just received an email this morning from one of my wedding colleagues at Maroo.us about Vogue’s December article claiming that “non-wedding” weddings (non-traditional weddings) are on the rise for 2024 and thought I would share my thoughts about the subject with you too, but rather than copy their article, I’ve attached the link to the Maroo article, Are “non-wedding” weddings on the rise? Here is a roundup of the ins and outs of 2024, written by Prianka Dhir, in case you’d like to read it for yourself.
Who knew officiating non-traditional ceremonies YEARS would make me trendy in 2024?
What struck me as really noteworthy about these articles is that I’ve been doing ‘non-wedding’ weddings here in the Pacific Northwest with my couples for YEARS without even realizing I was setting a new trend! (Yes, I’ve been celebrating marriages for a while now.) I invite you to check out my blog post, What Does a Wedding Officiant Do & Tips from an Officiant For Your Wedding Day. So, what is a “non-wedding wedding”? According to the article referenced above, a “non-wedding wedding” is essentially a non-traditional wedding. They are casual, less formal and characterized by intimate ceremonies, family-style food menus, and in the moment, real-time photography. Couples are realizing that this most important day in their lives (up until this point) can be whatever they want it to be so it looks and feels authentic and reflects their personalities, and they’re often hiring wedding stylists, designers and other professionals to help bring their vision to life. The photo above is from a breezy July intimate family wedding up at Tipsoo Lake at Mount Rainier. Their wedding planner, Katy Warner from Seattle Stunning Events was super organized, found the exact spot on the lake to have the best view of the mountain AND had a rug for us to stand on to create our sacred space for their beautiful, personal and unique ceremony (photo above). Back at the air B&B where they all gathered for their family meal and post ceremony celebrations, once again, Katy had everything organized and beautiful (though also simple and elegant), so Nathan and Lauren just got to relax and enjoy their moments (photo below). Afterwards, our couple headed up the mountain with their flowers, backpacks and sparkling wine for a toast and their photographer to capture some truly breathtaking, intimate and authentically Nate and Lauren moments (second photo below).
“Chanelle is truly a gem – Personable, funny, intelligent, and such a pro at tailoring a memorable ceremony...Our other wedding vendors and our family even commented that Chanelle felt like family, and we could not agree more. It was evident that there was so much careful thought and intention behind each interaction with her.” – L & N (Summer intimate family wedding at Tipsoo Lake in shadow of Mount Rainier)
Some “non-wedding wedding” ideas, Pacific Northwest style
I never realized how much we were ‘bucking the trends’ (or setting them as in the case of this article) with non traditional weddings and elopements and our sustainable practices. For instance, picture sharing your most personal vows with your loved one in the presence of your closest family and friends on a hiking trail on Whidbey Island, or the Hoh Rainforest in Olympic National Park, on a farm in Leavenworth, or maybe you prefer the beach at sunset, or overlooking the Pacific Ocean on San Juan Island or at sunrise on Mount Rainier at Sunrise (can’t get less traditional or “non-wedding-y” than that). For those wanting a ceremony with their closest family and friends and a low key-no worries intimate reception afterwards, wineries offer a great option with beautiful scenery and relaxed, family style meal settings under the stars. Check out my blog post here for some options in Lake Chelan, or as in the case of Lauren and Nathan, you could rent an air B&B and have your wedding planner bring your vision to fruition in the forest. As for sustainable – in the the Pacific Northwest, we’re all about sustainability (recycling, animal welfare, clean water, land conservation and farm to table dining). Not only that, but as individuals we’re also very community minded. I’ve been volunteering in my communities (wherever I have lived) since I was seven years old and my business has been donating a portion of my fees for every wedding to one of six non-profit organizations since 2020. When you book me as your officiant for your custom wedding, you get to choose which of the six organizations, you’d like the donation from your wedding to go. Want another sustainability idea? Did you know that you can donate your wedding flowers to retirement and memory care centers so they can live on and bring joy to others after your wedding? Yep and in North Central Washington, Lilies of the Valley in East Wenatchee, Washington can help you with that.
Soapbox: The reason for the wedding is the WEDDING part – otherwise, it’s just a fancy party.
There is a part of this article which frustrates me a tiny bit (pardon me as I step up on my ‘soapbox’). It is just that most of the trends listed (awesome as they are) focus mostly on the reception and party. The ceremony (you know, the part where you actually share your non-traditional vows with each other –ask me about this– and join together in marriage…) feels like an aside. Why does it frustrate me, you ask? Well, as your Officiant, I am passionate about helping you start your marriage off with a custom, all-about-the-two-of-you, wedding ceremony, which is beautiful, authentic and memorable for all the right reasons. You’re getting married after all. These trends seem to focus less on the getting married part of a wedding, and more on the party part and yet that’s why you’re having the party (or “non-wedding” wedding) – to celebrate your marriage. – (OK – I’m getting off the ‘soapbox’ now)
Chanelle truly helped to make our whole wedding feel like the most special day in the world...she tailored our wedding to completely fit around us, our belief’s, and our family. “ – L & S (Winter air B&B elopement in Leavenworth with only their children as their witnesses).”
You don’t have to do it by yourself.
I remind all of my couples that your wedding is one of the most important days of your life. There is a lot that goes into planning a wedding ceremony (a “non-wedding” wedding or not) and most couples have never done it before so it can feel a bit overwhelming. There are many, many resources available to help alleviate stress, including amazingly talented and committed wedding professionals. The most important thing to remember is that the two of you have decided that you want to be together and whether you choose to commemorate that with a large family wedding at a larger venue, an intimate family wedding at your favorite winery or elope to your favorite hiking trail with your witnesses and officiant, it’s YOUR special day and you want it to be meaningful to the two of you, not stressful. If you want to start with an easy conversation about your ceremony, please feel free to reach out. I am here to answer questions and help you have the most beautiful ceremony – whatever that looks like for the two of you. This is a magical time, and I’m absolutely delighted for you. Best wishes for a lifetime of love. – Chanelle, Your Pacific Northwest Elopement and Intimate Wedding Officiant and Celebrant for LifeTM.
Chanelle Carlin is Your Celebrant for Life. She is an ordained minister, professional wedding officiant, coach, and owner of Chanelle Carlin Weddings, LLC (and now ‘trend-setter’). Believing that life and love should be celebrated every minute, she collaborates with couples who’ve already started building the foundations of their relationship over the years and are now ready to venture forth into marriage with a custom, memorable (for all the right reasons) elopement/intimate wedding ceremony. While Chanelle works throughout the Pacific Northwest primarily, she gladly travels to wherever her couples prefer to marry. As their Celebrant for LifeTM, Chanelle also celebrates all the special milestones and moments that matter in each of her couples’ lives. She lives with her family in rural Okanogan County, Washington, USA, and totally LOVES her life. You can visit Chanelle at www.chanellecarlin.com, on Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest.
